iwonde

Letting go

Posted on 09/04/09, 11:25 pm

My Nummy Muffin died 10 years ago, and I've decided it's time to stop beating myself up over it. I almost feel guilty, like I'm going to let his memory die if I don't continue to cry and dwell on his death, and everything I did wrong all his life. He'll always be in my heart and mind and soul though. The good times. I feel you can't truly honor someone's memory if you are only ever thinking what you did wrong and what you could have done. So I'm letting him go. I want him in my life but it's not happening. I loved my Nummy Muffin and there's nothing more to do or say.

• Reply #1 09/25/09  7:20pm
  
  leileismom
  Ten years is a looong time to still be suffering over this. Perhaps you might consider talking to a counselor or looking into a therapy group in your area? You don't have to "let him go" to move on with your life. The guilt you still feel is concerning. I say again, ten years is a long time. You will not be letting his memory die, you will be honoring him. He wants you to move on. You don't have to forget him...and you never will. All those "what if's" can really be confusing, and cause you to hold that guilt. At some point though we must realize that sometimes bad things happen and we can't always do anything to prevent it., or stop it. We just don't always know. We just don't always have the right answers. We can fix everything. We are only human....Peace
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  Leibchen March 12,1994 - November 15,2006

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