I sure hope this doesn't mean you are going to leave us!
Your divorce was fairly quick and you say you "still can't believe it." That's a sign that you will still need some healing time.
Those of us who are long past the final divorce are here to help!
Please let us know how!
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Moving On
Posted on 11/09/09, 11:25 am
So this is the beginning of my first week as a divorced man. I have received so much support from my family and friends that it reminded my how blessed I really am. I still can't believe the station in life I find myself at but in reality it was the final result of a deeply troubled woman who refuses to get help. Its rather scary to find my self almost 51 and single again-I never expected it. I like what Feelingok posted on my post of last Friday-healthy people attract healthy people. I certainly hope so! Again-thanks to every one here that offered their support to me-both last Friday and over the past several weeks. This site has been a God send.
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Reply #1 11/09/09 12:51pm
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Reply #2 11/09/09 1:36pm
You are moving on and in a healthy way. I hope you can stay to help others. I don't think age has a lot to do with how we feel about divorce. I'm older than you and never thought I would be here either. It's scary for me too but I keep moving forward.
You have your wonderful daughter to take care of. Your job and a new life to build for yourself. Set new goals for yourself and start working on those. -
Reply #3 11/09/09 6:08pm
No-I'm going to stick around. This group has been so helpful. I'm so glad I came across this site! -
Reply #4 11/09/09 7:26pm
Im 2 months into mine now and at first it was very scary. Things have gotten better since then. Im learning to rely on just me. Ive had a situation over the last few days where I thought I wouldnt be able to handle it on my own. I almost called my ex for help when I became quite overwhelmed. I didnt thought! So, I did something cowgirlkathi taught me...I broke it down into steps. I accomplished each step until the problem was solved. I did it on my own!!!! I feel that little bit more..less scared. I am proud of myself!
I think we have to re train ourselves. We are so used to having that other person around that we automatically want to share but cant. I think once we gain a bit more strength and trust in our own abilities...the fear gets less. It seems to be working for me. Hang in there Retrorv...better days are coming...Big Hugs...Kathy -
Reply #5 11/09/09 9:51pm
Moving on is so good. What is tough is that sometimes you have a setback, BUT, you finally realize that it happens less and less and for less time. I remember when I could finally come home and not cry at the empty house. Each step is moving forward! Good for you. DS is the best! Everyone here helped me realize I wasn't alone! That is the biggest gift.
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