Puter

21 months today

Posted on 11/05/09, 09:19 am

*saddlin' up to the mic and tappin' it a few times, then clearin' my throat*

Hello, I'm Puter, and I am a DivorceAholic.

*crowd says "Hi Puter."*

21 months ago today, a long journey started for me. I have been set free of surly bonds. And I am standing here in front of you to tell you that it can be done. Yes, I know I can go on now. I have not had a marital drink in 21 months.

I hope that you wish me well on this continuing journey of...

WhenThe HellWill*I*GetOnTheFrigginCourtDocket???

• Reply #1 11/05/09  9:54am
  
  janeee
  Wow 21 months, it is dragging on, I am sorry that has to be hard. We were separated in April and our divorce is final in December. We went through the express line.
• Reply #2 11/05/09  10:29am
  
  Retrorv
  Mine should be final tomorrow. But I could probably say I haven't been married, in the real sense of the word, for over 21 months. I hope you can get your's wrapped up soon Puter. It is a milestone we need to see in the rear view mirror.
• Reply #3 11/05/09  1:10pm
  
  goingon
  Mine was exactly 6 months. California's minimum. As the time goes by I feel so much better and I will have a fabulous 2010. I know for me I didn't start feeling like I could go on with my life until my divorce. He had no problems though. But 21 months Puter I think I would have to have my own divorce ceremony and deal with the legal paperwork crap later. Good luck to you
• Reply #4 11/05/09  1:23pm
  
  CowgirlKathi
  Yes, 21 months is a ridiculously long time to have to hang out in limbo. Mine took 18 Months of Hell and I'm not sure I could have handled it for much longer. Even though we hope to start healing during the process, there is something absolutely BETTER about it once you have that final decree in your hands.
  I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers, my friend.
  There IS an end to this madness!
• Reply #5 11/05/09  8:02pm
  
  Tayloring
  27-9=18 months ....took him back for 9 months. looking back i can not believe i am still breathing.
• Reply #6 11/10/09  10:53am
  
  Gracie1965
  Separated on April 28th....divorced on October 13th. AND I'M LOVING IT!!!!
  Puter, what's the hold up? Unless there are kids or extensive marital property to be settled, it shouldn't take that long.
  I was worried the judge wouldn't grant the divorce because of my....Agoraphobia/anxiety issues. Had he invoked the mental illness clause......I'd still be stuck married to.....THAT for another 3 years. Neither one of us wanted that so we...settled quickly. I got everything I asked for...which wasn't much.
  LMAO marital drink!!
• Reply #7 11/10/09  10:53am
  
  Gracie1965
  Separated on April 28th....divorced on October 13th. AND I'M LOVING IT!!!!
  Puter, what's the hold up? Unless there are kids or extensive marital property to be settled, it shouldn't take that long.
  I was worried the judge wouldn't grant the divorce because of my....Agoraphobia/anxiety issues. Had he invoked the mental illness clause......I'd still be stuck married to.....THAT for another 3 years. Neither one of us wanted that so we...settled quickly. I got everything I asked for...which wasn't much.
  LMAO marital drink!!
• Reply #8 11/10/09  11:42am
  
  Puter
  Gracie1965, the holdup is the Madison County family court system. No matter the circumstances, it takes 18-24 months to get on the court's docket.
  
  Yeah, it would be very cool to be unattached. My day will come.
• Reply #9 11/10/09  10:06pm
  
  Creekside
  Hey Puter, somehow I missed this. What a drag. I think this means that you will have to have an extra big celebration when the papers are finally signed. ;^)
• Reply #10 11/11/09  6:10am
  
  Tea4
  ......signing up for balloons and punch. Should we bring a gift? Puter....stop counting! That kind of wait would have had me insane. Know that we all feel for you. ......That silly song from "Annie" is going thru my head. "The sun will come out...tomorrow..lalala!"

I want to start something for those of us that were married for a long long time. I think that we face a little different issues than those who were dating for a few years or even married for shorter period of time. Being married for so long we have older children some have grandkids dealing with teenagers and their reaction to the divorice empty nesters dating after 40 etc.