Creekside

A very strange question

Posted on 11/05/09, 12:45 am

How long will it take before the physical impression of my wedding ring disappears from my finger? I feel like I am branded.

• Reply #1 11/05/09  6:07am
  
  Shorty54
  Good question. It's been a year for me and I can still see where it was.
• Reply #2 11/05/09  6:16am
  
  CowgirlKathi
  It will take awhile, depending on how tight the rings were and how wide they were!
  I wore three wedding bands (one wide, one narrow and my gold dolphin ring which was a gift for my 50th birthday). Together, they covered my finger from my knuckle almost to the first finger joint!...and two of them had to be cut off with jeweler's tools! The most obvious thing was that I had no tan at all in that area -- sort of like the "invisible watch" tan line.And I HATE tan lines!
  I guess it was two or three months before it disappeared and my finger "got fat" again after all those years.
  Now, of course, I am wearing the stunner diamond solitaire which Tom gave me in August 2008 in place of those old wedding bands (of which I sold two of them to a local jeweler and had the dolphin cut down to fit the pinkie on my right hand!)
  You never know, Creekside, you might be wearing one of those too sooner than you think!
• Reply #3 11/05/09  7:54am
  
  ccd1
  Hi Creekside, it took my finger nearly one year as well, just wish the impression on my heart was that quick! LOL
• Reply #4 11/05/09  8:57am
  
  Puter
  Heck, I just cut the finger off.
  
  Oh, wait. Halloween is over.
  
  Mine was more of a tanline, too. Now that I go naked everywhere, it went away quick. There was a slight impression, but all fades in time.
  
  I had a habit of turning my ring with fingers on the same hand. I think that is what took the longest to go away.
• Reply #5 11/05/09  9:56am
  
  janeee
  Mine went away after a few months but I had worn it so long that my ring finger is much thinner than the others.
• Reply #6 11/05/09  1:07pm
  
  Bfaithful
  I just replaced mine with another ring that I preferred to wear. No having to worry about tan lines.
• Reply #7 11/05/09  1:12pm
  
  goingon
  I like to replace with another ring. This I will be doing soon as I get a job. It will be a dedication ring to myself.
• Reply #8 11/05/09  3:10pm
  
  Retrorv
  Good question. I had a white gold band and I can still see an indent where the ring was closest to my knuckle in front. On my palm I think I have a permanent wrinkle where the ring was closest to my knuckle also. After 17 weeks of not wearing it (and 22 years, 11 months of wearing it) it looks like the front one is slowly disappearing. You can only see it if you look for it. I REALLY hope it goes away. The back one I think I have forever since th skin is creased there now. But I feel the same way-branded. As with Kathi, I hope someday to have another one on there too.
• Reply #9 11/05/09  5:32pm
  
  jwalkr
  It's only been a month since I took mine off and I think you can tell there was a ring there but I don't know if anyone else could. My ring was wide and heavy, my hand feels naked without it. Thought about replacing it with something just for me, but I really feel that that finger is for relationship rings. I don't know if I ever want another ring on that finger. Still way too soon to tell. I asked Cowgirl Kathie this same question right when I took mine off. Guess we all wonder.
• Reply #10 11/05/09  6:04pm
  
  Abbey2
  I like ccd1's comment about wishing the same for the impression left on the heart...If it were only so simple.
  
  I wore my ring lose and but there is still a noticable impression there - but has only been 9 weeks - it seems like so much longer!!
  
  I still look down at this hand and tocuh my finger where the ring used to be. I put my rings aways with all the other "gifts" for now - Hopefully they might mean something to the kids one day - or else I'll sell them. Not making any decisions on these items yet.
  

I want to start something for those of us that were married for a long long time. I think that we face a little different issues than those who were dating for a few years or even married for shorter period of time. Being married for so long we have older children some have grandkids dealing with teenagers and their reaction to the divorice empty nesters dating after 40 etc.