Discussion Topic
Dad?
Posted on 10/14/09, 02:49 pm
This is a little awkward. I mean I lost my Dad when I was 7 yrs old. I'm 37 now. So he has been gone most of my life. I had my doubts about joining this group almost like I didn't have a right to because I don't know if I'm a Daddy's girl. It took me 11 yrs to fully grieve his death.
I did however lose the one that was the closest thing to a Father I had ever known, Pop, my step dad. That was 5 months ago. It has been way harder to deal with than I thought. I guess now that Mom passed and now Pop it's bringing up some old familiar feelings about Dad too.
I did however lose the one that was the closest thing to a Father I had ever known, Pop, my step dad. That was 5 months ago. It has been way harder to deal with than I thought. I guess now that Mom passed and now Pop it's bringing up some old familiar feelings about Dad too.
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Reply #1 10/18/09 3:18pm
A step parent can be as close as a bio parent and if that person was a true parent to you supporting you in the same way a bio parent would why shoudn't you grieve them as much as any parent. You definately belong. I lost my father almost 30 yrs ago. Strangely I was numb during the time it was going on. The hospitalization and funeral and such. About 8 yrs ago my neighbor died. Her was almost the same age as my dad - that is to say they were born witin a couple of years of each other - and after my folks died he would come over 2 or 3 times a day to 'check on ' me, help me carry things, move things, do yard work, went shopping with me, sat and talked, watched tv etc.., when he died i went into shock, nearly crazy with grief. At the funeral the family asked me to sit with them and i was glad i was in the family room and not out in the general seating area cause i was almost hysterical shortly into the funeral. All the emotion I couldn't release at my daddy's death came out then. I can absolutely understand your emotion and I don't see anything wrong with it.
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