Hi Isolated,
i can totally relate to what you said, about everyone else living their life! thats how i feel, sometimes i feel like its wrong to go on with my life like it would be betraying him? but then i have to tell myself, "what would daddy say", and my daddy would tell me " get off your butt, i dont want you living in grief i am always gonna be with you" but 95% of the time...that does not help me! its only been 1year 5months (he passed April 7,2008) things have slowly gotten easier, its just me and my mom in the house now and i think im getting used to that...until something happens (like u mentioned) where he's usually the one to go to and get advice...or to fix something...or just someone to talk to! and it hits me all over again!
my dad's birthday is coming up too (september 15th) he would've been 53
i think your making your dad proud by going to college and bettering yourself!!
i think they would want us to live our life to the fullest! but the hard part is....where do we start?
Discussion Topic
Moving on without daddy..
Posted on 09/07/09, 10:17 pm
Well its 5 yrs since daddy left me, his bday is almost here he would have been 71. Bless his soul, the family aint teh same anymore, its like everybody else has a life accept me, I want to be able to life without daddy but thats impossible, Im his seed his youngest child from his 2nd marriage. I have someone special but its hard on him too he lost his dad too, My daddy prepared me 4 economic woes but its still dampen my spirit without daddy's wisdom of money. Do yall feel lost with your dad's presence, guidance on life'e expectations? Now, im 25 with no babies, not married yet, in online college for a bachelors in pscyhology, trying 2 find myself. I lost myself five yrs ago & 15 yrs ago after my oldest brother, mark died. Without them im dead too.
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Reply #1 09/08/09 7:19am
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Reply #2 09/11/09 11:05pm
I have been gone from this site for a bit, over a year really, I had to do some soul searching and just really start to heal. I with that there were magic words to bring back our fathers, but there is not, so we have to keep them in our hearts like I am sure you do, and do what would make them proud of us. I lost my dad December 15, 2007. This was 8 days after his birthday and of course right before Christmas and he loved the holiday. Please keep yout head up, it hard , but we will be okay. It may take more time, but keep thinking good thoughts and pray. -
Reply #3 09/26/09 7:28pm
and remember you are who YOU are because of him. He lives in you, flesh and blood and soul. I miss my daddy terribly but know he's always with me. I love you Daddy! -
Reply #4 09/30/09 5:50pm
Isolated: I feel the same...my Dad passed on March 17, 2008...and it still sometimes feels like it was just yesterday. He was only 54. It is hard to get to know ourselves without Daddys blanket there anymore. We have to live life in a whole new way, and it is HARD! My Dads birthday is coming too - October 17th....so I will let a balloon go up into the sky for him like I did last year. There is not a lot we can do to soothe the pain, but we can remind ourselves to appreciate that we did have our Daddy's, and that they woudlnt want us living our lives this way, grieving, and having such a hard time keeping up with the world as the planet still turns while we feel as if we are standing still. Only time can heal if we can manage to keep our minds open and positve. We are all here to help one another - lets try it.
Isolated - of course I feel lost without my Dads guidance...but I keep trying to tell myself what he would say. There is nothing like their real voice and soul next to us in real life...but at least we have the knowledge that we do have because of our Dads. We are blessed to have had what we did have, and Vicki is right - Dad is still living within us, flesh, blood, and soul.
Hugs to all of you. We are all in this together....we can help one another get out of the deep heap of isolation and loneliness, cant we?
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Reply #5 10/06/09 9:18pm
I olst my dad too! I never even got to go to the funeral. The last time I spent time with him was when I was six years old. I was looking for him for years. And I found his sisters recently in 2005, only to find out that he died in 1994. It was a strange feeling to know that he had been dead since 1994, also it felt strange because all of those years I was looking for someone who had passed on and I didn't even know it. It was so disapointing to realize that I was not going to have that BIG reunion like I thought and dreamed of all of these years. Anyways, my Father God is my daddy now! God is being the Father that I always needed in those tender years. -
Reply #6 10/11/09 1:12pm
Thanks yall 4 your support it really helped me to cope with it, its hard i know, but like vicki says dad lives within our flesh, heart, and soul. I gained wisdom from this man, he's been there emotionally how can i give that up? But we all can pray 2 regain faith & strength in our own pain. God has his reasons of taking them so early in life. I dont try 2 question God, he becomes our father in replacement of our earthly fathers. But we cannot face the reality. thanks again yall. much hugs... -
Reply #7 11/07/09 6:47pm
I lost my father on July 1st '09 he was only 62 yrs old. He died of pneumonia. I miss him every single day. I had to make the decision to pull the life support and I stood by his bedside and held his hand as he died. I was alone and am still alone. I dont know how I will ever get over my Daddy being gone.
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