Discussion Topic
daughters missing daddy.......
Posted on 07/12/09, 02:24 pm
On 12/23/06 my girls liz 12 WITH mild M/R still hasn t grasps hes not coming home ..Heile 8 a 100% daddys girl... lost their dad to cancer. Sept of that same yr we lost our home to a fire so pics are fews but memories are many .Summers here and my brother flew us down to his house . Walking here and there my daughter say Wow i wish daddy could see this..Or do you think dady knows were not home and so. It really got me yesterday because sat. is hard enough but my youngest (the one in the pic) ask if we could send daddy postcards to the cematary. Make matters harder my dad has come to live with us because hes failing fast. He well progressed in alziemers disease and alot of times he doesn t know whatz going on or who we are. I feel so lost for words and I don t think I'll ever stop hurting. I don't know how to help the girls or make this any easier it seems like everyday reminds them of days gone bye.
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Reply #1 07/15/09 7:30am
Hi Hun,I'm so sorry for you and your girls.It is so very hard.Just one thought for the girl's,when i go to the crem to see Dad i take a balloon.Perhaps the girls could right a message on one and send it up to their Daddy.Thinking of you Hugs Sue xxxx -
Reply #2 08/06/09 7:35pm
awww im so sorry to hear about your loss, but at least your daughters know their daddy loves them and he's always there 4 them thru the spirit. I loss my father 5 yrs ago it still hurts....godbless -
Reply #3 08/31/09 12:37pm
I am so sorry to hear of your pain. I like Sue's idea of the balloon. Please know you and your girls are in my prayers! -
Reply #4 09/21/09 3:04pm
at greif camp we wrote letters or drew pictures on pieces of paper and folded them up into a scroll and put them in the balloon. we blew it up and taking it to the cemetary to release would be a great idea because it's the last goodbye place.
i'm so sorry for your loss and your little girls' loss. i know how it is to be little and lose someone and i know how it is to lose a daddy. maybe you could look into a grief camp for them. they're usually over the weekend. it helped me a lot. i loved it. and they can learn about losing someone and grief so it might help them understand that he's not coming back. that weekend was the best...i was around ppl who understood and felt the same things i'd felt and still feel.
encourage them to draw pictures and maybe do activities with them to help them remember. maybe put the few pictures you do have in a scrapbook their "daddy book" maybe one for each of them. you can make copies of the pictures. put special memories with the girls and their dad in thier personal daddy book. special pictures of you all, and just the two of them (daddy and daughter...this is a long term idea of course. you're busy and you're also dealing with your father too.) i hope this helps and it means a lot that you're still there for them. i gained a lot of understanding about myself and helpful knowledge when i work with children from the book "straight talk about death and dying". it talks about mind sets and levels of understanding and other stuff.
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