kelseyo

I can't remember my dad

Posted on 03/29/09, 04:14 pm

I was 10 when he died and now, a week away from my 18th birthday, I can't remember anything about his personality. I have pictures of course, but I have no idea what kind of man he was. All of my memories are bad0him yelling at me, him sick, etc. I have only one good memory and I feel so disconnected from him. I just watched a home video I found with him in it and I had forgotten his voice. It's like he is a stranger. I guess I don't really have a question, I just wanted to know if anyone else has felt like this..thanks.

• Reply #1 03/29/09  9:20pm
  
  km7476
  Honey I have no advise for you - just know that I understand it must be awful to not have those good memories to fall back on. You were so young. My heart goes out to you. Maybe you could talk to those close to you and listen to some stories about your Dad. That might let you know the man he was better.
• Reply #2 04/11/09  11:46pm
  
  connie0208
  I'm so sorry your in this position. I lost my dad last june 08 and I have memory retention problems. One of my greatest fears is forgetting him. If that happens I will do just as km7476 adviced. What else do we have. Hang in there and try to make new memories through other peoples stories or pictures. luv, connie
• Reply #3 06/19/09  1:22pm
  
  arabgirl
  I lost my dad in 05 but mom in 2000. I had more time with her but I very much had the same problem. I couldn't remember her voice. She used to hum all the time, especially to drive me crazy. I would wish could hear it on more time. I was with her everyday after she was told she had cancer and did all I could yet being the closest to her I could not remember simple things about her. I guess I too didn't really have a question or anything. Remember him the way you can deal with. If you have that one memory hang on to it.

daughters who have lost their fathers