momof2grtkids

Just venting

Posted on 10/30/09, 10:43 am

Where is God? Why is it o.k. for some Christians to have financial security and others not? We are suppose to trust God - yea, well we have had 2 vehciles repo'd, filing personal bankruptcy - kept hoping for a miracle to come through so we wouldn't have to - NOT, 3 months behind on our mortgage - one slight financial problem and if we can't make a payment in any given month we go into foreclosure and lose our home. We owe my mothers trust a mortgage payment and it must be paid by next month as well because taxes are due on her home and they must be paid. I feel I have no hope and my trust in God is getting low. We aren't suppose to worry - uhhh yea well it takes a better person then me not to worry when things are like they are.

For years we tithed, went to church, been part of the homeless ministry, had homegroup in our home every week, had people in our neighborhood that lost there home and got the ball rolling and now they have a paid for home. Did we do all that to get paid back from God - no of course not - but doesn't it count for something?

I also know our riches and crowns are in heaven not here on earth, but while we are here on earth we need the basics. Roof over our head and food. We have applied for food stamps, they say we make too much. Have friends that get it because they lie - I refuse to do that. The great Obama bailed out the big corporation so the mortgage companies now don't give a flying flip if our home gets repo'd. They are safe. Must be nice.

I have been applying for jobs almost every day - nothing. Husband is self employed and is trying to bring money in.

Some days I deal with all this better then others, today is not a good day.

Thanks for listening.

• Reply #1 10/30/09  11:06am
  
  nmr1962
  I am sorry that you are going through all of this. I'm a new Christians so I don't have alot of advice, not you are looking for advice. But regarding your mortgage have you tried to get you loan re-modified? I got turned down the first time because I didn't make enough money which I thought was ridiculous and then turned in a profit and loss statement for my husband and then got turn down because we made too much. Anyway I finally got qualified with just my income because my husbands landscaping business had no work for like 2 months so it was just me paying everything EXCEPT for the mortgage. I was qualified under the HAMP program with is an Obama thing but at that point I was willing to do whatever I could to get my payments lowered. Just something you might check into. God Bless you.
• Reply #2 10/30/09  1:06pm
  
  cando2
  I'm so sorry to hear this is happening to You and Your Family I don't have alot to tell You other then as hard as it may seem Please don't give up Keep Praying and we here can also Keep You in our Prayers. I know there were times in my life I felt like the Lord was not there for me but in the end I found out that he was there all along the point I'm trying to make is he is there and knows whats going on I think sometimes things have to be in His timing I don't always understand why it takes so long for somethings to change but for me it has always worked out for the better. I'm a recovering addict and I can't tell you how many times I prayed for help to over come my addiction and nothing changed for me I think it was because the Lord knew my Heart and Knew I was not ready to give up it was not in His timing then the Day came and He did it he took the addiction away from me. I'm not saying he wanted me to stay in addiction for a longer time what I am saying he knew that I was not ready to give up drugs at that point in time but when that Day came where I poured out my heart and Cryed to Him He Saw I was ready and now I am alive and well serving Him. (2 years later) So Please when things are looking bad and you can't seem to see a way out don't stop trusting the Lord Keep talking to Him and Praying He's There for You and will Help Hold on.
  
  I hope this helps in some way sorry for going off track I've not been in your spot but I've been in other's that just made me stronger at the end. God Bless You and Your Family You all will be in My Prayers.
• Reply #3 10/30/09  1:54pm
  
  lovinme
  Prayer! Have you asked God why? He will answer and tell you! We all go through things for a reason and it is ALWAYS for our good! Seek what He is trying to tell you! What lessons are you suppose to learn through this trial in your life. Hes talking to you listen! God says His grace is sufficient He is made stronger in our weakness!!2 Corinth.12:9! Get on your knees and check it out! Dont let the enemy win!!
• Reply #4 10/30/09  1:59pm
  
  lovinme
  
  One more thing there is no need in keeping a record of the things you have done because God has done more for us than we will ever be able to do for Him in a million lifetimes! Do things from the heart and then you will see the true rewards!!Instead of listing your deeds you should list you blessings for when the praises go up blessings come down!!! I hope and pray things work out for you!!!But just remember in GODS time not ours!!
• Reply #5 10/30/09  4:13pm
  
  artimise2
  wow I am so sorry...your stress must be unbelievable. Thank you for sharing your story...I was thinking earlier how my life has been with addictions, illness, loss of relationships ect... has not always been a bed of roses. God was knocking at my door for a long time. Remember that these things you are going through are works of man not of God. God only wants us to be happy. I hope that you may find peace through this terrible time. God be with you always.
• Reply #6 10/31/09  2:49am
  
  LeftWing
  Momof2, I understand the feeling. I have an oldest sister 60. She loves to preach and she has this wonderful life. Great husband, didn't have to work to make ends meet. She did a great job of raising her 3 kids (youngest just turned 30). & it just seems that marrying a doctor, she didn't struggle much. On the other hand I have worked endless amounts of overtime, have had to pop pills working night shift, otherwise I would get fired for sleeping. & I think why did Michaeleen have it easier. WHAT DID I DO TO DESERVE THIS??
  but ultimately, that's the wrong way to think. & things have gotten better and I don't have to work nights anymore. My ex-wife even asked me to come back and I did. MOST of the time it works, too. She's much better than she was. but there's still those brutal arguments every now and then, and we just need to keep trying.
  if it's possible, try to think of the positive. that may be hard but just, simply try. once you start appreciating, you have a basis for fighting the good fight.
• Reply #7 11/03/09  2:16am
  
  PenguinPeru
  Can I share a simple passage with you taken from Romans 8:28? "And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him..."
  Who are those that love Him? Us and many millions more true Christians out there.
  Earlier, the passage said: "in all things" What did that mean. Literally, ALL THINGS (GOOD and BAD). Some things are hard to grasp and I know your situation is hard and it's like as if there is no future. The worst part is when you're going through it because resentments often creep in. However, when we look back, we often see why bad things happen to good people and like you said, we'll get our rewards when we get to heaven. God brings us through difficult times sometimes to show us how to approach people in similar situations in the future down the line. True that, turmoil such as what you're experiencing is very sad indeed. However, never do good in the hope that nothing bad is going to happen in the future. Do good from the heart and it will be rewarded in the future. God's timing and will shall be done. Tithing and donations to groups and charities come from the heart.
  
  Anyways, back to Romans 8:28. In the end we'll understand the hardships, but keep in mind that everything that God permits is to IMPROVE us down the road, so we can be even stronger. I hope everything works out for you and hang in there.
• Reply #8 11/09/09  9:27am
  
  momof2grtkids
  Thank you all for your replies. Husband is working a bit more now so that is helping. I am calling the mortgage company today to see if they will help us. Tried once before and they didn't offer us much. I am so torn on whether or not to let our home go into foreclosure. I don't want to move - plus what is the point if we can't find something way cheaper then what we have now and that is not likely. We would just be struggling in a different place and have to deal with a landlord.
  
  I know in this world we will have trials and tribulations - the good book says so. I would just like a break for a little while. We have been in this serious struggle for almost 3 years now and after a while it wears you down and I feel worn out and defeated.
  
  We have 2 teens and I know kids are strong and can bounce back quite well but I worry what it will do to them if we have to move. We have been in our current home for 10 years.
  
  Thanks again for all your kind replies and I will continue to try and keep my chin up.
• Reply #9 11/10/09  10:02am
  
  ChristineIn...
  PenguinPeru put it perfectly...this life is going to have tribulation, but Jesus has our back! What these adversities do is make us even MORE dependant on God, not less. Your family will likely grow closer & stronger, as you move forward in Faith...hugs :)

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