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Single? What's that?
Posted on 06/25/09, 08:58 pm
It's funny but I really never pictured, dreampt about or let alone desired to be single in life. I'm 36 years old and find my self single but not alone. I love my life. I say who, I say when, and I even say how far (hehe). Through it all life is good.
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Reply #1 06/26/09 3:06am
i know how you feel, i've been a single mother since having my son at 17 and am now 23, though im single in status i am not alone. i also am quite happy being by myself for the choice of what i do and that my child gets all the attention without having to share me. -
Reply #2 08/11/09 10:12pm
your two comments really made me smile. im a new single mom and am freaking out about it. you guys loving your life just gave me a new perspective on things! so... thank you!!! -
Reply #3 08/18/09 6:38pm
I love to see the positive so I know there is hope. I've officially been a single mom for about a week and 1/2 now. So far I really never feel alone except for when my daughter is with her dad. -
Reply #4 08/21/09 12:22am
I am not really happy being single. Have been married 2x, even though they didnt work out, but I liked being married & having someone to share things with & to talk to & to just be around. It gets VERY LONELY for me. Sure my 5 year old daughter is company, but its not the same, I hardly have adult contact, which is not too good, but I try when I can.
But then I guess there's the other side where there can be problems, like financial, raising the children, etc....but I still dont like being single....sorry.... -
Reply #5 08/21/09 10:22am
babygia, I know how you feel, I went through it myself, once I became single again.
Someone told me that sometimes in life you have to do the things you do not want to do in order to grow. I did not made sense to me back then, and is ok you do not understand it now. I was used to eating, cooking, watching tv, going out, doing groceries, etc...with somebody else. Once I got divorce, I made myself go to a restaurant-olive garde my favorite-and eat there by myself! It was hard!!! I wanted to leave, but I stayed.
Afterwards I was able to do many things on my own, I learned! I do not know the reasons why both of your marriages ended, or anybody elses here, but maybe you should work on yourself before looking for another partner. You seem that you depend on somebody else to feel good about yourself, and be happy.
If you do not love yourself, how can you love somebody else? This is a good place to make friends, and to have "the adult" contact that you need, and maybe is also good that you make new friends around your area, or reach out to old friends that you have lost touch with. I know is hard but trust me is all worth it.
Hope I help a little.
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Reply #6 08/21/09 3:09pm
babygia, im with ya. my husband and i have been seperated for almost 2 moths and i still cant sleep good without him. i know it will take time to adjust to being "alone" but right now i hate it. i guess its really hard for me because my husband is a drug addict thats why i left. i miss him so much. you arent alone!
lisR- i hope i get to the point where you are! you are right about needing to love yourself. i am the type of person who hates to be alone, i always have been. i need someone with me. that is something that i need to work on!! -
Reply #7 08/24/09 10:47am
Ladies,
Read this books by Robin Norwood, "Women Who Love Too Much". It will help you a lot! And also, there is a group in this site just look for it. It will benefit you both. I am in that group too and we help each other to over come all those feeling both of you described. The book really helps please, read it! :) big hugs for the both of you! Keep strong and your heads up! :)
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Reply #8 08/24/09 11:55pm
thanks! i will look for the book and the group -
Reply #9 08/25/09 11:49am
your welcome!
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