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What is the most difficult thing about being a single parent?
Posted on 04/09/08, 02:08 pm
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Reply #1 04/13/08 9:48pm
For myself, one of the most difficult things is wrestling with guilt in regards to decisions I've made and continue to make... as I watch the seeds of those decisions continue to manifest themselves in my daughter's life. I've recently realized that because most of my time is spent alone with her, she has (completely on her own) taken on a roll as part of my emotional support system and this bothers me. Most of my friends are either married without children or single without children. I look forward to a community of other single mothers to talk to and share with so I might be able to take some of this unintentional pressure from my daughter's already complicated life. :) -
Reply #2 04/15/08 11:04pm
It's hard enough trying to be both a mother and a father to one child, now include a second. But what is hardest.... financially supporting two kids solely on your own!!! If i could get assistance to get the child support my daughters are rightfully owed.... their lives would be fuller, and less stressful... because they see and feel what I feel, no matter how hard you try to cover it up. -
Reply #3 04/16/08 1:33pm
My x husband went from being a provider,good father,very loving to a looser x drug addict who doesnt even really speak to his daughter. our daughter is a type 1 diabetic. its hard because my parents who still work have to help me so I can go to work. He was 0 help when she was so very sick and is 0 help now. I dont ever really get a break to hang out with friends. work and her is my life. which is ok..but I tend to get kinda mean. I need a break sometimes. I an usally ina bad mood and people dont understand how hard my life is. -
Reply #4 04/17/08 11:50am
I think the hardest thing is having to do it all on your own and never being able to share those special little moments with the person you made this child with. Whatever happens in my life effects how theirs turns out and that scares me a lot. -
Reply #5 04/17/08 1:06pm
I agree...he misses out everyday on his daughters greatness...we planned her together, I thought we would raise her together. drugs took him over and now irrational thoughts rule him. he is not capable of being a good dad. A call every now and then with an "i love you" is all she gets. SOB -
Reply #6 04/17/08 3:24pm
I have been a single mom for almost 9 years now and i think the hardest thing for me was financially supporting my daughter. Her father walked out when i was several months pregnant and has only seen her twice in her whole life, once when she was three weeks and when she was a year old. I have not had contact with him since, he pays child support when he feels like it and he only has to pay 31.00 a week and can't seem to muster up enough human decency to do that on most occasions. I feel that i have no releases ever, and i tend to get frustrated and sometimes that comes out toward my daughter, i fuss alot , she has ADD on top of everything else, so she can be a handful at times, and she is very very intelligent so i am constantly having to stay one step in front of her and with no releases or breaks , Im exhausted alot, that is all i can say...exhausted. It hurts when you can't give your child the things she wants because you can't afford them... i constantly feel responsible for her not being able to have all that she deserves. -
Reply #7 04/20/08 9:17pm
Not being able to provide for her, and not spending time with her -
Reply #8 04/21/08 6:05pm
Right now as a newly single mother, I am very humbled although life is very hard right now. I get stares and glances as a lot of women where I live stay home with their children and look down on women who are forced to go to work. But what's even harder is the fear of the negative influences that people will have on my children--(they are in daycare and some of the kids are very violent). I have to teach them now to love all people, but to be a good example--and just because someone else hits, or kicks, yells and disobeys doesn't mean that we have to. They are only 2 and 3 so they are very impressionalbe. I fear that I am not spending the time that I need with them. But I know that this is the best thing that I could do for them; getting them out of an abusive environment. Finding balance is also a struggle. -
Reply #9 04/27/08 10:53pm
The hardest thing is parenting 24/7 with very few breaks. I love my son. I spend time with him, but it sucks that he has to come with me to medical appointments, errands, etc... I havent posted on this group yet, but I am glad it is here. to regroup. -
Reply #10 04/30/08 10:55am
I am a single dad raising a 11 year old boy I do not know if I can join this club or not being a male.Until late things have been going smoothly In Feb-Mar my leg was amputated above the knee.It has thrown a kink into things but isn't anything that I can't over come.My son has been a huge help.Six years ago he watched his mother sircome to breast cancer so he has kinda been cheated out of his kid's life.He is now entering the scary world of puberty.He is till a good kid just needs his addtude fixxed every now and then
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