the thin will become fat, but the fat will not become thin.
kind of like we are judged by the friends we keep.
also, everything will be brought to the lowest point. in physics this is true and in life as well. if their is a degenerate amongst you it will spread. get rid of the cancer. and one bad apple spoils the whole bunch because it spreads, just like mold does.
be around the best people best as in, the kindest, most generous, rational, clear headed, etc., breathe clean, pure air, keep the creeps away. it is better to be alone with the good than to spend time amongst the narrowminded, prejudice and unethical
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a list of tips, feel free to add ...
Posted on 08/19/08, 05:02 pm
Here are some personal life tips. None of my lists are ever complete I drive around and I think of new ones :)
#1. Seek out successful people.
I read an article the other day, that overweight people tend to have overweight friends. If you're married and you're not overweight and your spouse is, the chances are greater that you'll gain weight. The chances are not great the spouse will slim down. I'm not suggesting getting a divorce ;), just, be vigilant. In my case my husband is twice my size LOL I gained about 25 pounds from the time we started dating until our wedding date. hahaha I like some of the weight, I will not kill myself to lose it all. So far I've lost 8 lbs since the wedding but it's a lot harder to take it off then it is to put it on! In his defense he's lost 8 pounds too. What a sport.
#2. Find a buddy who has similar goals.
I realize something as simple as walking every day can help shed pounds and is good for the heart but it's hard to do alone.
#3. Don't over do it. (Pace yourself) and everything in moderation, even moderation
It's great to go gung-ho but it can lead to burnout. Pace yourself. Actually this should be my #1 because this is the most important lesson I've learned in 2008. I'm going to repeat this one (which leads to my #4)
There is a book I don't remember the name of but maybe a wonderful person here knows ~ on where and why people live the longest. The book pretty much proved what I've thought all along, that Gardening is the #1 best exercise in the world. People who garden live the longest. It also found, the people who drink red wine from a certain region in Italy live the longest. Pair these with the awesome powers of dark chocolate and you could live forever.
#4 Repetition!
Repeat everything over and over. I like how Tamara999 says she reads her book over and over. I've had to read things over and over. I stopped criticizing myself for this. It's good. (which leads to #5)
#5. Stop the blame shame guilt and compare.
Throw these four naughty words out of your vocabulary. Plain and simple. Your life will change.
okay that's enough for today, next!
#1. Seek out successful people.
I read an article the other day, that overweight people tend to have overweight friends. If you're married and you're not overweight and your spouse is, the chances are greater that you'll gain weight. The chances are not great the spouse will slim down. I'm not suggesting getting a divorce ;), just, be vigilant. In my case my husband is twice my size LOL I gained about 25 pounds from the time we started dating until our wedding date. hahaha I like some of the weight, I will not kill myself to lose it all. So far I've lost 8 lbs since the wedding but it's a lot harder to take it off then it is to put it on! In his defense he's lost 8 pounds too. What a sport.
#2. Find a buddy who has similar goals.
I realize something as simple as walking every day can help shed pounds and is good for the heart but it's hard to do alone.
#3. Don't over do it. (Pace yourself) and everything in moderation, even moderation
It's great to go gung-ho but it can lead to burnout. Pace yourself. Actually this should be my #1 because this is the most important lesson I've learned in 2008. I'm going to repeat this one (which leads to my #4)
There is a book I don't remember the name of but maybe a wonderful person here knows ~ on where and why people live the longest. The book pretty much proved what I've thought all along, that Gardening is the #1 best exercise in the world. People who garden live the longest. It also found, the people who drink red wine from a certain region in Italy live the longest. Pair these with the awesome powers of dark chocolate and you could live forever.
#4 Repetition!
Repeat everything over and over. I like how Tamara999 says she reads her book over and over. I've had to read things over and over. I stopped criticizing myself for this. It's good. (which leads to #5)
#5. Stop the blame shame guilt and compare.
Throw these four naughty words out of your vocabulary. Plain and simple. Your life will change.
okay that's enough for today, next!
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Reply #1 08/19/08 11:00pm
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Reply #2 08/20/08 9:36am
That is a great point! I've noticed it's hard to find people with a good heart, good values, is it because they're not putting themselves out there? Is it because they know it's good to insulate themselves? Which leads me to Stewardship. So many people talk about low self-esteem, but once you take away a negative you have to fill it in with a positive, otherwise you'll be leaving an open, empty space, which is weak and can invite in trouble. If you're battling low self-esteem think of Stewardship. Wikipedia defines stewardship as:
*Stewardship is personal responsibility for taking care of another person's property or financial affairs or in religious orders taking care of finances* Key words; taking care. Not wasteful or foolish.
Think of this applied to yourself, that you're this precious person, with a short amount of time alloted on this Earth, One go-round per rider! You are special, so if you're squandering yourself on someone, or many someones, who don't think you're special, think of being a steward of yourself. Disengage from the negative.
Also, be the person you want to be around. If you want someone to be your friend or listen to you, be a friend to them first and listen to them. Of course there are no guarantees but that's part of having Integrity. No matter what happens you're not going to be fickle and change your principles. Be what 79pounds listed; kind, rational, at least reasonable LOL! generous but not to a fault! :) -
Reply #3 10/07/08 7:22pm
WOW! GOOD POINTS! I KNOW I'VE READ ALL THIS SOMEWHERE BUT IT'S SO GOOD TO BE REMINDED. POSITIVE ATTRACTS POSITIVE; NEGATIVE ATTRACTS NEGATIVE. HAVE U READ "THE SECRET?" VERY POWERFUL IDEAS. -
Reply #4 10/08/08 2:15pm
It's funny because I find as I get older I need constant reminders. The most successful people I know re-read the same books OVER AND OVER. Sounds like a weird concept but we all can fall into bad habits, too easily. Yes I've read the Secret, and there are a few others people have listed. I think the Secret, for me, is one of those things that is a good starting point, it certainly isn't perfect, but there is no such thing as perfect. So what I like about this group, is its potential to have a dynamic that a book can't have, because this group is compromised of dozens of fresh input and ideas, and is ever-changing, ever-growing. Whenever I read feedback, I always learn, and it's second-to-none, when people contribute and we get a dynamic going. -
Reply #5 11/18/08 7:29pm
LAUGH LONG AND OFTEN..IT'S HEALTHY
DON'T TAKE LIFE TOO SERIOUSLY.
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