sonyson

Crying

Posted on 11/08/09, 10:08 pm

Is it normal for me to cry as much as i do?

I've never cried so much in my hole life. I mean im crying over silly stupid little thing's, like me and my sister took my little niece to see a fireworks display on sat and i had this sudden urge just to cry why?

I dont understand why this is happening and feels really over whelming. Has this or does this happen to anyone esle? If so when does it stop.????

• Reply #1 11/09/09  1:12am
  
  Happy2
  OK you have a little over a year sober I see. The first thing that gets well is our physical bodies. We actually start feeling better, younger more get up and go. If we do not drink at this point, go to AA meetings, start working the steps, the next thing to get well is our mental well-being and our emotions. We actually start to feel feelings. Some of us (like me) earlier in our recovery start crying for no reason at all. We see a show on TV and find ourselves crying and have no idea why. You are crying because you are feeling for the first time in a long time. Some of us drank so we would not have to feel. So now you feel. What to do about your feelings? Simple.......feel them and let them go. Feelings cannot hurt you. Hopefully this too shall pass and if it doesn't than at least you will know your are human.
• Reply #2 11/09/09  12:17pm
  
  bluesaway77
  Sonyson, I was sitting and watching a family eat fish and chips on a bench when I went for a day out at blackpool lights recently and I started crying for absolutely no reason other than the whole scene brought me happiness. I spent so long crying about how unhappy I was I think I'm due some tears of happiness or tears of contentment or tears just for the sake of crying.
  It brings me a feeling of release sometimes when my emotions are hieghtened, which they are alot of the time nowadays thanks to me getting in touch with them and realising what they are.
• Reply #3 11/09/09  1:36pm
  
  nickyj18022002
  I cry at loads of stuff that I never did before. Part of being alive. I think we have been trained to see crying as a negative thing - it isnt - it is the way we express all sorts of emotions. At first it can feel pretty overwhelming but I have got more used to it and just see it as something that happens rather than something bad or to be stopped or got over. It is often a pretty spiritual experience.
• Reply #4 11/09/09  9:22pm
  
  BIGBEARSHEART
  It is also healing to cry. Partly related to grieving the loss of self due to being out in left field when drinking. I was not surprised that after moments of crying, I felt better. I even would laugh with joy afterwords as I gained emotional understanding.
• Reply #5 11/10/09  2:21am
  
  okiyoe1
  I have a friend Little Judy got sober in !977 at 16 years old. She always said to us : Crying is very Healing and if you feel sad go play with your friends...... I saarr her 3 weeks ago while i was in Florida, she was just as lovely as ever ......what a gift
  Billy
• Reply #6 11/11/09  11:56pm
  
  Mavourneen
  It's like a baby being born, a very telltale human trait and a sign of life. Tears are cleansing and feeling is healing.
  
  There is something quite disturbing about people who don't feel. We call them sociopaths. Not to their face, of course. Because they are so dangerous because they don't feel or think.
  
  Alcoholic, otoh, suppress and numb feelings and thoughts with alcohol. We have to learn how to handle our emotions and thoughts by working the steps. Otherwise there is only a drink which separates us from being a danger to ourselves and to others in our path.
  

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