Is your relationship with your husband a bad/unhealthy one? Do you not love him? Do you want to leave him or is it just your strong desire to be with your children? Do your adult children all want you to come live closer to them? Would you live with one of your children? I'm not trying to judge, but rather just trying to understand your situation.
You mentioned that you wanted your husband to find a job out there. This makes it sound as though he is not against the idea of moving to CA. Does he want to move there? Does he already have a good job where you currently live? Do you work currently? Have you tried to find a job in CA yet? I realize you are just trying to take a leap of faith. I do believe that God expects us to also evaluate our decisions and be sure we are making them for all the right reasons. If you really do not want to leave your husband (you love him, think he is a very good man, and you are not in a unhealthy relationship), then I do not think you should move to CA without him, especially if you do not have any real plan of how you will live or support yourself. You did also mention that your children (because of their ages) do not offer you much emotional support. You also mentioned a concern about being lonely. If your husband does offer emotional support and keeps you from feeling lonely, then why leave him (unless he is a problem)?
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Posted on 09/28/09, 09:27 pm
I very much want to move to California as 3 of my 4 children live there. My husband is putting minimal effort into finding a job out there so I plan to move out there without him in a few weeks. I have tried to push him to find a job out there but realize I have no control over him. I am very frightened to make this move myself. My kids range in ages from 18 to 26 so they are not able to give much emotional support. My biggest fears are finances and lonliness. I am trying to trust God to provide----
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Reply #1 10/09/09 11:10am
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