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Who is the Alcoholic that affected you?
Posted on 03/22/08, 02:05 pm
My Dad raised me. He was a great man and he loved me very much. He drank everyday. He had a good job. He kept a beautiful home. He worked very hard. He was good to me and my sisters. He had Diabetes and the combination of the Alcoholism and the Diabetes killed him at 50 years old. He died 2 months before I graduated from highschool. I still miss him terribly. I am at peace knowing he is not suffering anymore. I still have Co-Dependant issuses that I need to work on.
My youngest sister is in recovery. She has been sober for 7 months. I had to do an Intervention on her. It was the hardest thing I ever had to do. I called the police to have her taken to the hospital with a blood alcohol level of 500. A non-alcoholic would have been dead or in a coma. She is doing very well now.
My husband who is deceased now. He was a binge drinker. He would go three months with out drinking and out of the blue he would start drinking and not know when to stop. He would get so trashed that he would be sick for three days afterwards. Otherwise he was a great man. It was very hard not knowing when this was going to happen.
My youngest sister is in recovery. She has been sober for 7 months. I had to do an Intervention on her. It was the hardest thing I ever had to do. I called the police to have her taken to the hospital with a blood alcohol level of 500. A non-alcoholic would have been dead or in a coma. She is doing very well now.
My husband who is deceased now. He was a binge drinker. He would go three months with out drinking and out of the blue he would start drinking and not know when to stop. He would get so trashed that he would be sick for three days afterwards. Otherwise he was a great man. It was very hard not knowing when this was going to happen.
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Reply #1 03/22/08 11:59pm
was my mom....... she drank a case a beer every time she drank..... mostly on weekend but not always..... -
Reply #2 03/23/08 1:54am
MY DADDY WAS THE ALCOHOLIC IN THE FAMILY. THEN MY HUSBAND WAS A ALCOHOLIC UP UNTIL HE DIED FROM ALCOHOL POISONING 5/16/2004. -
Reply #3 03/24/08 10:44pm
My mother and stepfather both were. They drank casually every night and then had a true drunkin' party on the weekends. When I became a teenager I wasn't allowed to go out with my friends because I had to stay home and babysit my youngest brother so that they could go out. My parents always had a drink in their hands if they didn't then they would be so ugly that you didn't even get near them. I had one incident with them when my mother and I had a falling out because she hadn't drank and I was tried of the way that she had been treating me all of the years and she actually sat and talked to me. She started the conversation and she didn't like the way it ended. But I refused to allow her to pick on my husband because he didn't drink and neither did I. I deal with many of my kids friends that have parents that are alcoholics and want help with their situations. -
Reply #4 03/26/08 2:39pm
that would have been my dad...drank everyday from the time I could remember until he died at the young age of 52. I can honestly say that his alcoholism didn't stand in the way of his job or employment...ever. He worked everyday and provided for his family. I truly don't know why my mother was so co-dependent but she was. He didn't want her to work outside of the home, so she didn't. I often wondered is she b*tched because he drank or he drank because she b*tched....who knows? -
Reply #5 03/26/08 5:46pm
My dad he died Nov 6 2007. We took care of hime at home till he passed away. Even knowing that drinking was killing him wasn't enough to make him stop. -
Reply #6 03/26/08 7:54pm
My mom drinks heavily she has since I was a little girl and she always will and I have come to realize that's all she cares about. -
Reply #7 03/27/08 1:18pm
My Mother. She died from cirrhosis of the liver on Nov. 10, 06.
When my brother and I were kids, she drank light beer by the case, but then later she switched to Vodka. She drank it every day right up until she was hospitalized.
I am deeply affected and messed up and angry, and I'm not sure I will ever get over it or past it. She made us ALL watch her kill herself with booze, her sisters, her mother, her kids, my Dad, everyone.
I feel awful for her Mother-my grandma...I can't even imagine what it must be like to watch your child commit slow suicide and not be able to do anything to make her stop.
Anyway, that's why I joined this group. Thanks for listening. xx -
Reply #8 03/27/08 5:20pm
My dad...he was an after 5 drinker. He'd come home from work stressed out and ready to get drunk. My sisters and I always got nervous waiting for him to come home. We knew(my sisters and I) there would either be a big fight between him and my mom, or some violent outburst. I remember my dad being extremely affectionate and loving one minute, and angry and intimidating the next. You never knew what to expect. I just know that as a child, I was scared of him and only confided in my mother. Now that I'm grown, I have a slightly better relationship with him, but it's still based on his alcoholic delusions. My mom stuck with him through the years, but hated every minute of it and found it necessary to play the martyr. We were always well aware of her misery,and actually would beg her to leave my father. The home was filled with screaming, chaos and violence most nights. -
Reply #9 03/27/08 5:25pm
Welcome Jess!! I am glad you are here!! -
Reply #10 03/28/08 3:12am
Amen Jess!! My dad was the same way!! And my mom acted the part of Martyr....and believe it or not, still does to this day and my dad's been dead for 25 years!! I remember her leaving him and taking us with her to our grandmothers, but she went back...it was a pattern...leave..go back... she always claimed she couldn't be a burden to someone else with "her kids" (I guess we were the burden). There is only one word I can think of to describe living with an alcoholic and that is...uncertainty. We never knew from one day to the next what kind of mood he was going to be in and whether or not we'd be allowed to turn the volume up on the tv for fear of sheer immortal hell raising!! As for my mom, I often wondered why the thought of her getting a job and supporting us was so far-fetched for her?? I think her self-esteem was shot from living with and dealing with an alcoholic 24/7. But I can say that living in that atmosphere made me stronger as a person in that I will never and I do mean never live like that again and my children will never be exposed to that way of living ever!! I guess everything does happen for a reason and like they say, "that which doesn't kill us makes us stronger"......
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