Mouse8844

ok important question re brother advice please

Posted on 07/21/09, 07:08 pm

well as some of you may know my situation of being adopted out was that staff at the hospital drugged my bm and stole me away.Yes unbelievable but true'
I have an a brother who was also adopted and i would say as he was the first to be adopted it is highly likely that we were adopted from the same hospital.
Was he stolen too?Does he have some grief stricken mum out there that has missed him for years?i feel for her.

The dilemha is that he doesnt want to know anything about his adopted family but would he if he knew ?Would it change how he felt?Should i tell him what i think?
I amy not be right but it is logical to me that my parents would have gone through the same organisation at the hospital to adopt.

I am thinking he may feel he was rejected and this may not be the case at all.
what r ur thoughts?

• Reply #1 07/22/09  7:10pm
  
  TheResearcher
  Each person has their own feelings. You can not force anyone. Keep the topic positive and open. Encourage him to read and open his mind to the possibility. Possible next month, next year, five years or never.
  Try to give him a bit of what happened with you. If he is OK with that then go from there.
  
  Thank you for your concern for your BM and others. He will be watching. So will many others.
  
  God Bless you.
  
  Paul

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