Kahlua13

Counseling. Does it help?

Posted on 05/26/09, 09:28 pm

• Reply #1 05/26/09  9:31pm
  
  Kahlua13
  I had posted a whole question, and it disappeared????
  
  Just wondering if anyone else out there, adoptees, adoptive parents, have gone through counseling and if they think it worked?
  
  My son is now 12. He came to live with us at age 4 and we were foster parents for 2 1/2 years before the adoption was final. He came from severe abuse and neglect and was diagnosed with PTSD, ADHD, RAD, etc. I am just wondering if this is even helping anymore?
  
  We have to find another counselor again. It is very frustrating. And we also have to find a new psychiatrist to prescribe his medicine.
• Reply #2 05/27/09  6:58pm
  
  TheResearcher
  Sorry about the lost post. It has happened to me also.
  
  You need to find a good person and a doctor. They are out there but finding THAT special one who will work for you can take time and can be costly. See if you can get suggestions from friends, medical staff, university persons and related.
  
  There are many kids out there. You try to help what and who you can. For the ones you can reach and help, for them it can make all the difference.
  
  
  Paul
• Reply #3 05/28/09  10:19am
  
  Kahlua13
  Thanks. I know this. But he is my son. If I fail him, his future looks bleak. I am SO frustrated. I just feel so defeated sometimes. Just looking for hope I guess.
• Reply #4 06/03/09  7:01pm
  
  TheResearcher
  You do not have to be nor can you be perfect!
  
  Put yourself in his place. Spend time with him. Make sure he is a part of the family and knows it.
  
  Are you active in church? A hobby or activity you all do together?
  
  There is hope. Do not give up. Parenting is not easy. It will break and remake your heart, over and over.
  
  God will bless you if you ask.
  
  Paul
• Reply #5 07/14/09  7:40am
  
  flutterbyfly
  I think counseling helps a number of people for all different things. But as Researcher said - there are other things that help alot too. I have 4 kids by blood, and you know how much my heart has broke over my son. It's inevitable.
• Reply #6 07/22/09  7:12pm
  
  TheResearcher
  Being a parent is the hardest job you will ever do.
• Reply #7 07/27/09  10:18am
  
  Kahlua13
  We found a new counselor and I have some renewed hope. She seems to understand all of our issues and I feel a connection with her. Also, she seems to be able to get my son to open up, which is obviously very important. So we will see how things go. I have hope again, but I will still greatly appreciate all prayers!
• Reply #8 09/22/09  2:26pm
  
  TheResearcher
  But hey, if counselors do not help, then for years I have been talking to an empty room and sending my money somewhere?????
  
  You do sometimes what you need to.
  
  Paul
• Reply #9 10/27/09  7:06pm
  
  Mouse8844
  councelling didnt work for bm and i.
  I didn't ever feel that they understood her as welll as i did and as they didnt love her
  they didnt have her welfare at heart as much as me

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