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Wishing for a BFF...sigh
Posted on 05/25/08, 10:47 pm
I don't know about anyone else here, but I am having a moment of revelation. I do not have a Best Friend anymore, and haven't in a long while. Don't know if it is diagnosis related or if I have only myself to blame. LOL.
However, I think WITH DX now, it's tougher. I'm busy with the Center, and my family and it seems as if people all SAY they get it, but then they really DON'T.
I think you guys are really my most reliable and best friends. I can write any hour, tell you anything, and count on you to reply, understand or flat out tell me I'm being ridiculous. That is true friendship.
Wish you all lived in my neighborhood...
However, I think WITH DX now, it's tougher. I'm busy with the Center, and my family and it seems as if people all SAY they get it, but then they really DON'T.
I think you guys are really my most reliable and best friends. I can write any hour, tell you anything, and count on you to reply, understand or flat out tell me I'm being ridiculous. That is true friendship.
Wish you all lived in my neighborhood...
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Reply #1 05/26/08 9:07am
You said it sister! I feel the same way. I think it's my oun doing. Somehow, when you haven't slept in six years or even being able to take a bath by your self in that long and you live and breath to help your child, getting togeather to talk about shoes and movies seems pointless. I remember that girl...I wish I could be her again, but my heart hurts and I can't. Everyone here are my best friends too. I love that we have a place to come and cry if we need to, ask for help when we need it, laugh and love, and share our lives. Most of all I love when someone has a success to share and we all cheer. This is a wonderful group and I am so glad to have found you. *THANKS* -
Reply #2 05/26/08 9:34am
i think we all feel the same way diane. all my time is taken up with work and sam so not much time for anything else. -
Reply #3 05/26/08 9:49am
I think my best friend right now is another Autism mom in my neighbourhood. We can talk behaviour, potty training, food aversion etc all the fun stuff and it doesn't phase us. She tells me her life feels "normal" when she talks to me, and I have to agree with her too. I still have a "normal" friend from where I used to work, but I think she and I can still relate because she has health issues, and also when she was going thru them at work, I was one of the very few who believed her and stood by her, while everyone else said it was all in her head.
I think people who are willing to listen to others problems is a dying breed. Out society has become so self-centered and perfectionist that no one has any patience anymore for things that aren't perfect. Shame really..... -
Reply #4 05/27/08 2:37pm
Glad to know I'm not alone. The only best friend I have left is one from high school that lives 8 hours away - and as much as I love her, long distance best friends aren't the same as someone you can drop by & see anytime. I haven't been around here much the past month - it's been a rough one. Two funerals, & cleaning out my mother-in-law's house (she died last December). I'm emotionally stressed to the max... but I appreciate knowing you all are here. Everytime I get a chance, I'm here, catching up on everyone. Thanks for being part of my life!
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Reply #5 05/27/08 9:22pm
bump...we all feel that way. I think that what's makes this group so special. Unfortunately, we're all over the damn globe ;) -
Reply #6 05/28/08 10:07am
I guess I thought I was alone, but I can see I'm not. I know it's my own fault and I have no excuse... -
Reply #7 05/28/08 12:25pm
I really hear ya!!! It is true, we have so much to do and friendship has fallen away to work. My best friend is someone I have known since 1984 and wa have always had a connection even though we didn't communicate but several time in the last 10 years. Everything is so different but our interests are the same still, and she is a para pro in school assisting ASD kids. She is continuing her masters in behavior, I think ABA. She is who I wish will move here when she finishes school and looks for a career. -
Reply #8 06/07/08 11:34pm
Bump
Still wishing you all lived closer... -
Reply #9 06/09/08 12:47pm
I agree...I can't remember if/when I had a bff...too much else going on I guess...work/sleep/work :-)...good thing for DS or I'd probably forget what adult conversation is like :-p -
Reply #10 07/05/08 1:07am
I have a Best Friend, but she lives in a different states. We've been Best Friend's since like 1st grade. Dawn
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