Prop H8I was out walking my dog Etta this morning. It was our normal daily walk and the only thing that made it stand out from any other day was the chance of rain. A very rare event in Los Angeles. So I did what most other Angelinos do when there is rain, I prepared for a snowstorm!
I got my heavy raincoat, umbrella, waterproof boots, scarf, hat and gloves. Then I got Etta ready and put her fleece lined raincoat on (yes I really did). As we started out on the walk there were some clouds but I didn't think that the storm was imminent However, about twenty minutes into the walk it started to drizzle and I started to panic. What if we got caught in a downpour? What if we got drenched? ...what if...what if...what if.... My irrational thoughts ran amuck!
Finally, I challenged the irrational thoughts by truly answering the question. What was the worst thing that could happen? In my rational mind I began to talk myself through it. The worst case scenario was that if we got caught in a downpour, we would get wet. My rational mind was able to recognize that if that happened we would eventually dry!
Also, I had prepared for the rain. I dressed myself and the dog for rain and had all the accoutrements to keep us dry. As I realized the silliness of my irrational thinking I was able to enjoy the rest of the walk and welcome the downpour if it ever came. The fact that I had taken time to prepare for my anxiety and stayed in a conscious state of mind really helped to defuse my worry.
Although getting caught in the rain seems like a silly thing to worry about, often times people can get stuck on irrational worries that once brought out into the open and examined feel silly. It's important to prepare, when possible, for events that have the potential to cause anxiety. Using self-talk is an excellent tool to access rational thinking. And it is from the rational part of your brain that you can begin to identify what you can do to prepare for anxiety.
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Great article!
Previous thereapist i have worked with have talked about using a rational mind. This article really explains it well i feel. Thanks
In recent years, Ive come to learn the value of a good old dictionary. For in its pages are found a kings ransom worth of knowledge.
In Prov. 19:2 we read Also its not good for a person to be without knowledge. And he who hurries his footsteps errs. The knowledge we are to learn here is the negative consequences of moving or acting in haste. I found it very interesting that the word hurricane (a windstorm of intense severity) precedes the word hurry and the word hurt follows right after it in the dictionary (just a coincidence?)
How many times has our impatient spirit turned a delicate situation into a tropical cyclone leaving behind a host of hurt (injured, damaged, grieved, distressed, and wounded) people!
Its here that ones inability to wait causes us to err (go astray; to be mistaken and to sin.) Isnt a shame, when all the dust finally settles to find out, that it was all just a big misunderstanding? If we would of just slowed down a-bit and waited patiently. You see, its only in that state of being, that we can see the whole picture, and find a peaceful solution.
James 1:19 This you know, my beloved, brethren. But everyone must be quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger.
My friends, if we must must open up our big mouths, let us direct our words in manner recommended in Phillippians 4: 6, 7 Be anxious for NOTHING, but in EVERTHING by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the PEACE Of God, which surpasses all comprehension, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
I believe with all my heart that if we can muster up the courage to apply this solution, we will hear the voice of the Master saying to the storm, Peace - be still.
Your friend always in the Journey
Rev. Joe A. Rivera
Pressing On Faith Ministries
Temecula, Ca.
04/12/08