Unsolicited AdviceAlthough I believe much of our parenting skills evolve from having some good ‘ol common sense, the scientist in me certainly appreciates finding solid research to justify what many (including myself) may feel to be quite obvious. Therefore, I find some consolation in reporting the findings from a research study just published in the journal Pediatrics which validates concerns surrounding teenagers being exposed to explicit sexual contact on television.
In a study initially with over 2000 teenagers completing a baseline interview, researchers re-interviewed over 70% of this population 3 years later to assess the degree of exposure to sexual content on television and determine if any correlation with teen pregnancy existed. And, well, the findings were probably as you might expect. Those teens who were exposed to higher levels of sexual content on the television (90th percentile) were two times more likely to be involved in a teen pregnancy than those in the 10th percentile.
Now before responding angrily at where the direction of this may be going, I want it to be clear I have cared for many children of outstanding teen parents. I have witnessed exceptional parenting instincts and beautifully developing children. But unfortunately, this is not always the case as I share with you some details surrounding those involved in teen pregnancies:
I cannot change these facts. And again, this is not a condemnation of teen pregnancies (please reread my words above) but hopefully just a reality check to what is probably occurring in the lives of our adolescents. And what can be done? Well, it may be just pure optimism but something I always express and stress with the tweens, teens, and their parents in my office...do your best in maintaining an open dialogue with each other...we all may be better served when doing so.
Dr. Jeremy
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I tought my boys never believe you are the first, and to protect your lives by wearing condoms. They were 13 each when they got a 6 pack and the speech. I told them no questions asked, let us know if you need more.
To date now 16 years later for the oldest. No children and no AIDS or other STD's in our family.
Parents need to speak to their children openly and not judgmentally and the teen pregnancy rate will go down.
This does not count for the welfare mentality that prevails in some parts of the country, whether it be in West Virginia or Compton it doesn't matter. I have seen men of working age and good health standing outside of the social services office waiting for their babies mama to come out with food stamps and EBT cash payments. Work, they would have to pay it back! My neighbor actually said this to me.
Give you an example: My daughter is 8, she is already doing algebra- true solving for variables algebra. I learned it a couple of years later than she did (and I was in advanced classes), at the time I learned it I also knew several other math concepts and had mastered addition, subtraction, multiplication, and division. So, when I go to explain things to her (she has not had time to master all the basics, yet, BUT is smart enough to understand the more complex algebra) I have to scale back. She does not fully understand the concepts of the basics, but has already been exposed and has some knowledge of the more complex. I can backtrack and try to get her up to speed on the small things, but if she were to have had the time to learn those things first, teaching her the new stuff would be much easier.
How does this relate? We, parents, should have the childhood years to be able to teach our children about their own bodies and how they work. After we get that down, then we should be able to teach them how they interact with others. We shouldn't be forced to make them learn it all at once.
I had my 1st child by the age of 18 and I did go to college and I do have a great job make the same if not more then others with more education then I have. It is not in what the TV says or shows it is in what the parent lacks the courage to explain or just does not want to explain.
This is my belief- if you absolutely don't want to have kids- or don't want children with a particular person- then you shouldn't have sex [or sex with that person]. Pregnancy IS a risk regardless of precautions. Imagine how many abortions would be avoided if people thought each time they had sex that they just might get pregnant.
Not to mention diseases. Young adults and teens have the highest rates of nearly all STIs. If the condom fails, are you prepared to live with herpes, hepatitis, HIV/AIDs? Do you really want to undergo treatment for Chlamydia, gonorrhea, syphilis (which will still show up in your blood, even after treatment)? Are you really prepared to go tell anyone else you slept with that you are infected with this?
Those are the realities of sex, protected or not. We need to stop being irresponsible thrill seekers, and realize that there are consequences for every action. Just because they're doing this or that on tv, or because it's fun, or it feels good- does not give us the right to not be responsible. "For every action, there is a reaction." We should stop acting as if they don't exist.
(I am very adamant about this because I have a young cousin- technically 15 years old, but mentally and developmentally maybe 10- that is due any day now. Her body can have sex, it can reproduce, but her mind, her finances, her developmental status- should not allow her to have a child at this time. She was in love with the father, they are still together, and he’s over 18. I feel as though he preyed on her considering, intellectually, she is nowhere near the same age. As proof, she just left middle school based on “No child left behind,” although she does not have basic math skills, reads at a grade school level, and cannot spell. Even for those teens that have the skills they should, this possibility is too much of a risk to allow for them to be sexually active.)
Another footnote: I was somewhat a teenager when my child was born (three weeks from turning 20) and yes, I still made it through college, successfully, got a job, etc… But how much easier it would have been if I waited!
Jules, you can try accessing this article from the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP), but I think you may have to pay a fee to read it.
Dr. Jeremy
Thank you, Dr. Jeremy for having the bravery to speak out. TV seems to be a sacred cow in our society today-- at least sex and violence. "Don't ever think about criticizing TV it's the parents fault or the children's fault."
Why do we feel so threatened about examining TV and its influence on our children today? We feel safe to examine global warming consequences even though they hit close to home or examining the harmful effects of smoking on our teens.
We need to stop the criticism of healthy discussion on the influence of TV on our youth.
What can be done? Instead of blaming TV/Society, rest the blame solely on the individuals concerned. Unless mentally retarded I don't get it.
Not sure what ages You are referring to, but say 15 and up, they know what they are doing. I'm sorry, but I feel nothing for them. Am also not saying "they" are bad people, just "very" irresponsible.
Just my 2cents.
Fred
By the way, is it possible to view the research in full on the journal's website, or similar?