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What is Borderline Personality Disorder?
Posted in Anger Managemen... by Cyndi Sarnoff-Ross on Jun 17, 2009

The term Borderline seems to be used quite often now, and it has become a part of non-therapeutic speech. There have been movies about this disorder, such as "Girl, Interrupted", and television characters that are said to have Borderline Personality Disorder. It is a a term that is often misused to describe a mental illness that results in a certain personality type. People will ask me what it means. What are they on the borderline of? In a sense, the name is actually is misnomer.

The term was coined in the 1930s to describe a mental illness that lay somewhere between neurosis and psychosis. The term really doesn't describe the disorder at all because it has nothing specifically to do with either condition. It is in fact a mood disorder (classified under Personality Disorders in the DSM) that is more common than one may think and can be devastating and disruptive to individuals and families.

The person with this disorder will describe feelings of emptiness and internal conflict. There is an impulsivity component to the disorder that for some can make even normal functioning challenging. There is an emotional hunger and need to connect, typically followed by an angry outburst or accusation that leads to impaired interpersonal relationships. Substance abuse is common among these patients and the impulsivity can result in over spending or other financially chaotic behaviors. In many cases, the person who suffers from this disorder perpetrates self-harm (self-mutilation) and frequent suicide attempts are usually part of the profile.

Clearly these individuals are in a great deal of emotional pain and the fact that others have difficulty remaining connected to them only serves to exacerbate the feelings of loneliness and despair. Even clinicians struggle to maintain a relationship with these clients because of the unpredictable explosive anger that may be directed towards them during treatment. The challenge and the imperative goal are to understand the internal struggle that these individuals feel and to help guide them to a better, more stable place. Consistency in the therapeutic relationship is crucial towards the healing process.

A leading psychologist in the field, Dr. Marsha Linehan has created a treatment approach for people suffering with Borderline Personality Disorder that has been shown to be highly effective. It is called Dialectical Behavior Therapy and it can help patients become aware of their thoughts and assumptions in life and teach them to react in a more effective way. It helps them to change their thought patterns. Dr. Linehan tells her patients, "Your problem is that you don't how to regulate yourself, and I can teach you how." Her success in teaching patients how to self regulate and thereby improve their life and the lives of those who love them has been a great accomplishment in the field of psychology.


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Regarding the Dialectic Behavioral Therapy, teaching people how to react more appropriately is certainly useful, but what do you do to treat the underlying cause of the illness? Is there more to this therapy that you did not mention? The reason I ask is that I have child who has serious impulse issues, although I would not characterize him as "borderline". I think the Dialectic approach might help him deal with the "here-and-now" and make better decisions throughout the day. But providing a Dialectic approach without treating the cause will, I fear, just cause the underlying problems to manifest in a different fashion (i.e, over-eating, smoking).
By DreamButNoSleep  Jun 18, 2009
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Washington psychologist Marsha Linehan, one of the world's leading experts on BPD, describes it this way: "Borderline individuals are the psychological equivalent of third-degree-burn patients. They simply have, so to speak, no emotional skin. Even the slightest touch or movement can create immense suffering."
By davenger  Jun 18, 2009
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Another small bit from BPD and trauma..
Regardless of one's take on their etiology, once they are set in place during an individual's developmental years, the coping mechanisms that developed in order to combat the everpresent subjective sense of being under attack are extremely difficult (although not impossible) to "re-wire" -- thus, also, the label Personality Disorder: these cognitive mechanisms become ingrained so early on as to form a constitutive portion of the individual's personality, or identity.

The majority of the time BPD is caused by trauma.There is a great article on BPD on a Time mag from a few months ago.
By davenger  Jun 18, 2009
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Thank you for posting this there is a lot of misinformation and stigma out there in the internet and pop spsychology regarding this very sad disorder, 75% of BPD sufferers are BPD due to child abuse, childhood hostile environments, or childhood invalidating environment where the child does not learn how to manage their emotions.

BPD has been describe as the third degree burn of mental illness as BPDs have no emotional skin, so to speak.Any emotion is felt very intensly and causes great pain.This disorder has the highest rate of suicide than any other mental illness, 1 out of every 10 patients end up commiting suicide.
Is a problem of emotion disregulation, a lot of people with BPD self- injure, some severly.
Is estimated that 2% of the US population has a dx of BPD, but that seems to be rising.
There are a ot of myths about BPD, one is that BPD are manipulative people, BPD act or engage in erratic behaviour, however we do not do it with the intention to manipluate, although people's reactions to our behaviour does cause havoc....I found this bit by a BPD specialist...
BPD is a very real and serious mental illness, and I am not alone. It is not a “personality problem” or just a set of maladaptive ways of coping with the world. BPD is the result of a combination of biological, genetic and environmental causes. It is recognized as a psychiatric disorder in the official guidebook used by mental health providers to diagnose mental illness (the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders).
Finally there has been more studies on BPD and there is now hope, i was DX with it 19 years ago when they though it was not curable.
One thing also worth mentitoning is that BPD mimicks C-PTSD symptoms BPD and PTSD are often present as the same time as BPD is mostly caused me trauma, but not always....
I recommend the latest book on this very sad disorder "The Borderline Personality Disorder survival guide"
WE are consider by many to be bad people and we're not,we suffer from a very painful disorder that is also hard to treat.
By davenger  Jun 18, 2009
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I had an employee who might have had this and who very nearly ruined my business before she committed suicide. She also drank heavily which is probably the self-medicating part of the illness. At the time she burst into full flower, we were in France handling a very important job which she completely ruined. My problem was being too sympathetic and accommodating after I should have fired her.
By Appleby  Jun 18, 2009
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Symptoms may persist for several years, but the majority of symptoms lessen in severity over time, with some individuals fully recovering. it is worth securing for online cash advance to treat this kind of disorder. The mainstay of treatment is various forms of psychotherapy, although medication and other approaches may also improve symptoms.
By BrendanP  Jun 18, 2009
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I have Borderline Personality and there is no place in my area that has DBT skills and even my day treatment program does not have it.SO it can be frustrated at times. I have a group here that is called DBT skills and you are weclome to join or post something for the group if you want to.thanks alot for positing this messages about Borderline Personality Disorder.I am 44 years old and I am still struggling with it. take care.
By Liz65  Jun 17, 2009
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MyTrueColors, I used to make excuse after excuse for my ex who was diagnosed with depression then bipolar (i too have bipolar) and after I ended up in the hospital (which had a good bit to do with this person) they kept trying to pound into my head "mental illness is not an excuse for bad behavior". Being bipolar, I know what it's like to not be able to control your emotions. .. but in the same way I know that you can control your actions. someone who's mentally ill still has a choice on the action that results from the emotion. Abusers may experience blinding rage, but their CHOICE is to hit their wife rather th an, say, go for a walk and cool down. So unless you're having a psychotic episode, where you truly don't know what you're doing, then I would say that they do have a choice in their behavior. If you've ever visited the abuse forums they'll tell you - abusers themselves will tell you- that they wouldn't act this way in front of, say a cop, a coworker, or relative, etc. Which shows, proof positive, that they can control their actions.
By hlks  Jun 17, 2009
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I was diagnosed with this by a pdoc that seemed to be fishing for it due to my abusive childhood. It's funny that you talk about explosive anger a lot but I had never in my life had a problem with anger in any way at that point. I did read up on it quite a bit (which led me to seek a second opinion) and it seems like something quite horrible to have... and also quite horrible for the person who knows someone with it. Being abusive was almost a given in every article I read which had me questioning myself- i think therapists need to be careful in handing this one out (as they should be with all their diagnosis's). It's also really great that someone came up with a good tool for helping people who genuinely do have it.
By hlks  Jun 17, 2009
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I was diagnosed with boderline personality disorder a few years ago. I did DBT for two years, some of it helped, but honestly I felt most of the material being taught was patronizing. I'm better now in the respect that I don't self-harm anymore. However, I still feel many of the emotional symptoms of BPD. The phrase that people use for this illness that I think suits it best is "I hate you, don't leave me." I alienate people easily, but want their love and support more than anything in the world. Thank you for posting this, many people don't know what BPD or DBT is.
By metalheadlxlxl  Jun 17, 2009
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i wish i could email this to my son and daughter. we are estranged from each other and it is very painful when they laugh at me and ignore me.
By NitaSue62  Jun 17, 2009
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i have BPD and it is pure torture for me right now. i am going to take a leap of faith and marry my fiance', even though inside i don't feel worthy of this at all. thank you for posting this.
By NitaSue62  Jun 17, 2009
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This is very different from other various descriptions I have read since someone close to me was tentatively dx'd w/this yrs ago. Reading this makes me wonder if this & other personality disorders like narcissism are something a person is born with or do they happen as a result of trauma of some sort, or other reason(s)? Having been married to a narcissist, I can't help but wonder, do these people have a true choice when it comes to their behavior, or does the disorder affect their decision making processes?
By MyTrueColors  Jun 17, 2009

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