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		<description>IN terms of our broken relationships and breakups and navigating our ways back to ourselves, what exactly is stupid?

That we succumb to o...</description>
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			<title>Comment by revolution</title>
			<link>http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Breakups_Divorce/forum/14042890-whats-stupid/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[Where did the judgment of  "stupid" come from?]]></description>
			<pubDate>Fri, 06 Apr 2012 09:18:10 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by anne7676</title>
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			<description><![CDATA[Why do you ask such a strange question?  Are you feeling stupid about something?  Not sure what you are trying to get help with?]]></description>
			<pubDate>Fri, 06 Apr 2012 09:23:38 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by JoyRide</title>
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			<description><![CDATA[I havent made any judgment, I'm asking for people's a question based on something I'm wondering (which is where 90% of my posts come from). 
  
 stu·pid  (stpd, sty-) 
 adj. stu·pid·er, stu·pid·est 
 1. Slow to learn or understand; obtuse. 
 2. Tending to make poor decisions or careless mistakes. 
 3...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Fri, 06 Apr 2012 09:36:36 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by JoyRide</title>
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			<description><![CDATA["asking for people's thoughts"]]></description>
			<pubDate>Fri, 06 Apr 2012 09:37:41 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by revolution</title>
			<link>http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Breakups_Divorce/forum/14042890-whats-stupid/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[My thoughts are that I find it an interesting choice of  loaded and powerful words to lead with. My thoughts also make me wonder why such an insightful choice. Just my thoughts! :o)]]></description>
			<pubDate>Fri, 06 Apr 2012 09:47:54 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by JoyRide</title>
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			<description><![CDATA[oh, because I watched an interesting little video about stupid a little while ago 
  
 which contained a whole heck of a lot more loaded words, like idiiot, moron, imbecile, dunce... 
  
 I have a feeling we're much more liberal with the use of the word stupid in our minds, especially in reference to ou...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Fri, 06 Apr 2012 09:51:56 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by JoyRide</title>
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			<description><![CDATA[heh 
  
 I'm just thinking if someone hasn't written a Breakup/Divorce for Dummies book yet, someone should get right on it. 
  
 :)]]></description>
			<pubDate>Fri, 06 Apr 2012 10:02:21 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by revolution</title>
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			<description><![CDATA[Well, I'm still a little unclear if the intent of this thread is to " teach us a lesson" in a back handed way ( so to speak) on the way we use words as judgment of ourselves or others ( even the literal def you included has judgment associated when we apply it to out choices), or what! 
  
 I can't (...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Fri, 06 Apr 2012 10:17:14 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by JoyRide</title>
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			<description><![CDATA[Youre wondering if I'm doing something backhanded?  really? 
  
 Ok, I'll try to make it clearer.  I watched an interesting video that combined some thoughtful questions with some humour along with some biting social criticism.  I found it though provoking.  Since then I've been thinking about how jus...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Fri, 06 Apr 2012 10:35:49 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by JoyRide</title>
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			<description><![CDATA[who knows, maybe stupid is SUCH a loaded word, it cant be discussed?]]></description>
			<pubDate>Fri, 06 Apr 2012 10:36:29 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by revolution</title>
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			<description><![CDATA[Please don't make assumptions.  
  
 I am not accusing you of having backhanded motives (that's why I said "so to speak" after the use of the term in my sentence).  Sorry if that triggered you in any way or if you felt judged.  That was not my intent. 
  
  .....And speaking of triggers, the term "stupi...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Fri, 06 Apr 2012 10:47:23 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by JoyRide</title>
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			<description><![CDATA[again, this wasnt a call for a confession from anyone 
  
 if I look at the list of 7 things I put in my last post, I'd say I felt 6 of them 
 and I can say I've seen hundreds if not thousands of posts freom other members that touch on all 7 at some point 
  
 I'm a smart chickie, for sure,  
 and I'm tem...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Fri, 06 Apr 2012 10:55:30 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by JoyRide</title>
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			<description><![CDATA[sinnott 
  
 I think I always felt I was doing my best then too 
  
 hindsight isnt just 20/20 is it? 
 sometimes its a report card of sorts]]></description>
			<pubDate>Fri, 06 Apr 2012 10:57:01 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by JoyRide</title>
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			<description><![CDATA["I and my choice" 
  
 stupid is as grammar does maybe? 
 yikes]]></description>
			<pubDate>Fri, 06 Apr 2012 10:57:43 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by JoyRide</title>
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			<description><![CDATA[(chuckling) 
  
 maybe we could start a thread, sort of like the Manual thread but instead it could be titled, 
  
 "Whatever You Do, Don't Do This__________________!" 
  
 then we'd all be saved from Breakup/Divorce stupidity?? 
  
 ;P]]></description>
			<pubDate>Fri, 06 Apr 2012 11:04:22 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by faithful777</title>
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			<description><![CDATA[joy, you have a propensity for abstract, subjective concepts. using a word like 'stupid' evokes different memories, different triggers, and different lines of thought depending on who one talks with. that, in my opinion, is why this thread is so hard for so many to follow and respond to. add to that...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Fri, 06 Apr 2012 11:23:24 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by nancyneds</title>
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			<description><![CDATA[That word comes to mind every time I have to deal with Ex.  
  
 "Its stupid and ridiculous..." 
  
  Dealing with stupid makes you feel crazy and insane. 
  
 The difference between people who are stupid and people who are mentally challenged is that the mentally challenged person knows they are challeng...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Fri, 06 Apr 2012 11:25:51 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by JoyRide</title>
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			<description><![CDATA[Faithful, you just might be right on all counts, cant blame an abstract thinker for tryin I suppose. 
  
 Nancy, I know what you mean.  And maybe we're not so smart trying to reason with unreasonable people?  (who taught me that??) 
  
 Reminds me of the "definition" of insanity, and even then, BEFORE a...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Fri, 06 Apr 2012 11:31:27 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by Misred</title>
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			<description><![CDATA[I don't think that by doing any of the things in your list are stupid. I found that when it comes to relationships and breakups we go through a process....the process may involve one or more of those behaviors or feelings you listed. Aren't they in a way the stages of grief? 
  
 Just a thought..........]]></description>
			<pubDate>Fri, 06 Apr 2012 11:31:33 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by nancyneds</title>
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			<description><![CDATA[I can certainly relate to sinnott... about  career choices.. I was so intent on keeping the marriage going.. I really screwed myself in that regard.  It is  the hard knocks of <a href="http://www.dailystrength.org/treatments/Research" onclick="treatmentHotLink('http://www.dailystrength.org/treatments/Research')" class="treatmentlink" title="Learn more about Learning">learning</a>.  
  
 Nice reply faithful...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Fri, 06 Apr 2012 11:32:39 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by patti22</title>
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			<description><![CDATA[Nothing.....maybe...or everything. 
  
 i don't really think in those terms.  Most simple mistakes I make, I make for a reason....like being tired, or wanting to belong, or some such thing. 
  
 So in a way the mistake is stupid, and in another fundamental way, it's not stupid at all. 
  
 For me....somew...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Fri, 06 Apr 2012 11:38:07 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by JoyRide</title>
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			<description><![CDATA[one of my trainers used to talk about naivete like it was acopout 
 that we're all mammals 
 we have all instinct that nature gave us 
 to know when its safe to pursue something, and know when to run for higher ground 
 but we talk ourselves into, or make the CHOICE (to link this to the other thread) to...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Fri, 06 Apr 2012 12:16:57 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by JoyRide</title>
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			<description><![CDATA[yanno, someone should teach me how to use spellcheck]]></description>
			<pubDate>Fri, 06 Apr 2012 12:17:36 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by TryingtoMakeit</title>
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			<description><![CDATA[I don't feel this way now, but STUPID was definitely somewhere near the top of my list when I officially uncovered my EX's affair...because I KNEW. Dammit all, I knew the whole time...had questioned him profusely, and didn't trust my gut. Yes, at that time, I smacked myself in my head, figuratively ...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Fri, 06 Apr 2012 12:24:46 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by JoyRide</title>
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			<description><![CDATA[ugh 
 Trying, 
  
 I cant even imagine the pressure of being perfect today, and expectations to be perfect everyday after that 
 holy performance anxiety :) 
  
 in that way, being stupid every so often takes the pressure off, especially if its in small ways 
 or hell, maybe one big stupid or two in a life...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Fri, 06 Apr 2012 12:37:17 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by oOoREBoOo</title>
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			<description><![CDATA[I agree with what Red wrote.   If I don't learn from my mistakes, then stupid me!  How many times must I repeat my mistakes???  Grrr!  Or maybe that is my stupid stubbornest? 
  
 Whatever...but revenge fantasies, imho, are stupid.   Cus when it materializes it is very hard to deal with.]]></description>
			<pubDate>Fri, 06 Apr 2012 13:54:07 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by JoyRide</title>
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			<description><![CDATA[Reb!! 
  
 your revenge fantasies have come true? 
  
 Maybe you have superpowers you werent aware of??? 
  
 :P 
  
 um...wnna buiy me my next lotto ticket for me?  ;)]]></description>
			<pubDate>Fri, 06 Apr 2012 14:52:32 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by oOoREBoOo</title>
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			<description><![CDATA[Sort of kind of!  
  
 If I had that super of a power, I'd be enjoying my 250 mill.]]></description>
			<pubDate>Fri, 06 Apr 2012 15:29:40 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by Daisies101</title>
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			<description><![CDATA[In reference to my breakup and soon to be <a href="http://www.dailystrength.org/treatments/Divorce" onclick="treatmentHotLink('http://www.dailystrength.org/treatments/Divorce')" class="treatmentlink" title="Learn more about Divorce">divorce</a> and my inability to get over him, I feel VERY stupid.  I try not to talk to people about how I feel anymore because I think that they think, (cuz I think) that I am stupid.  Why can't I (she) just get over him already.  He didn't want me (her). 
  
 Th...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Fri, 06 Apr 2012 15:33:22 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by JoyRide</title>
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			<description><![CDATA[ya, that love thing...... 
  
  
 sure can be blind...and dumb 
  
 ((hugs)))]]></description>
			<pubDate>Fri, 06 Apr 2012 15:36:56 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by dody</title>
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			<description><![CDATA[I know myself - and most days I feel stupid and foolish! 
  
 I continue to be in love with someone who walked away from me almost two years ago-now theres a good dose of stupid and foolish for you. 
  
 Oh, well!  Such is life. 
  
 Sending you support and prayers Joyride!]]></description>
			<pubDate>Fri, 06 Apr 2012 16:13:12 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by JoyRide</title>
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			<description><![CDATA[dody 
  
 and the stupid thing about that particular stupid thing is 
 you can pile all kinds of wisdom onto it, and its not gonna be less stupid until its good and ready 
  
 am i right??????]]></description>
			<pubDate>Fri, 06 Apr 2012 16:20:45 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by Ghabbir</title>
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			<description><![CDATA[that we succumb to our emotions...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Fri, 06 Apr 2012 16:24:17 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by dody</title>
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			<description><![CDATA[Right on JOYRIDE-Right on!]]></description>
			<pubDate>Fri, 06 Apr 2012 16:27:12 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by JoyRide</title>
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			<description><![CDATA["succumbing" is a very thought provoking word 
 yep]]></description>
			<pubDate>Fri, 06 Apr 2012 16:31:12 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by pollofrito</title>
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			<description><![CDATA[None of this sounds stupid to me.  It's more about how I choose to take care of myself through all these questions.]]></description>
			<pubDate>Fri, 06 Apr 2012 18:41:43 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by anne7676</title>
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			<description><![CDATA[Why do I feel the need to start some sort of "discuss this" thread?  I shall refrain.  As to do so would surely be stupid.  Off to look for some good old-fashioned support-seeking threads.]]></description>
			<pubDate>Sat, 07 Apr 2012 00:41:10 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by JoyRide</title>
			<link>http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Breakups_Divorce/forum/14042890-whats-stupid/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[In <a href="http://www.dailystrength.org/treatments/Reading" onclick="treatmentHotLink('http://www.dailystrength.org/treatments/Reading')" class="treatmentlink" title="Learn more about Reading">reading</a> posts to Rev's compaion piece to thius thread, it occurs to me too, when we're in the throes of emotional pain and confusion, we're probably at our lowest in terms of emotional intelligence, and financial intelligence too. 
  
 I think probably a lot of our bst thinking, choosing, reacting ...]]></description>
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