Cut-and-Paste post from tooday's Wolf's Daily Howl Greetings Readers and Posters ---- I said Thursday I'd talk more about injury, ... http://www.dailystrength.org Wed, 22 May 2013 18:06:10 +0100 DailyStrength RSS 0.11.3.0.6833 (FeedCreator 1.7.2) http://static.dailystrength.org/templates/images/promo/logo-round-rss.gif http://www.dailystrength.org http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage counseling with him when I first moved out. Of course, he was way too fearful of it...that someone might find out what he's been up to....way too comfortable in his isolation, but I did try to get him to commit to it. Wow, so glad I di...]]> Sun, 08 Feb 2009 15:58:18 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Sun, 08 Feb 2009 18:07:02 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Sun, 08 Feb 2009 19:56:23 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage counseling usually doesn't help abusers helped me leave a few days ago, because I realized that his problems probably weren't fixable. If it had only gotten worse in 5 years, there was not much chance of it getting better. I kept questioning if I was d...]]> Sun, 08 Feb 2009 21:07:17 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Tue, 17 Feb 2009 21:24:30 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Tue, 17 Feb 2009 22:03:41 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage couples counseling. He claims that "she said I was a sex addict because I wanted...]]> Tue, 17 Feb 2009 22:49:47 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Wed, 18 Feb 2009 01:17:20 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Sat, 21 Feb 2009 08:22:04 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Sat, 21 Feb 2009 10:09:15 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage couples counseling, and I referred them to this thread, so I'm bumping it up, so they can find it easier. Counseling and various therapies, and also coaching, are all ways to find one's way through to ...]]> Fri, 30 Oct 2009 12:34:12 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Fri, 30 Oct 2009 13:34:58 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Fri, 30 Oct 2009 18:16:45 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Fri, 30 Oct 2009 21:10:39 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage counseling alone for 3 months and really felt...]]> Sat, 31 Oct 2009 10:30:17 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Sat, 31 Oct 2009 16:36:34 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Sat, 31 Oct 2009 16:55:19 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Sat, 31 Oct 2009 18:10:40 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage counseling, even arranged for a male therapist, thinking my husband would be more agreeable to go and more likely to listen. My husband lied during the sessions, and later twisted the counselor's words to try to use them against me in arguments. ...]]> Sun, 01 Nov 2009 13:16:46 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage counseling, psychotherapy, anger-management and abuser treatment made it worse." The book also includes an Abuser Boot Camp, which for anyone who's willing to work through it may be helpful. ...]]> Mon, 02 Nov 2009 17:28:51 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Tue, 03 Nov 2009 10:40:54 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage counseling with my abusive ex! He has a psychology degree and knows how to manipulate almost any situation to his favor.]]> Tue, 03 Nov 2009 12:44:43 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Couples therapy obviously only works if both parties are willing to participate. Unfortunately there are those who think that they have nothing they need to work on because they a...]]> Tue, 03 Nov 2009 21:03:44 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Tue, 10 Nov 2009 12:58:23 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Tue, 10 Nov 2009 15:25:11 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage counseling several yrs ago by myself because you know "everything is in my head" i didn't tell him what i was going for somehow he found out that it was discuss him and my marriage he had a major fit. Do you think counseling will work for us? He does not like people talking about him at al...]]> Tue, 10 Nov 2009 16:37:02 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage couples counseling, and he stopped going because he felt that the therapist was taking my side. It did not work for us, but it worked for me, to have some one to talk to. Adtamer, my husband is the same way!]]> Tue, 10 Nov 2009 17:01:07 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage counseling. He quickly flunked out of that program. Said the facilitator was a previous abused woman and she's biased, didn't do assignments, said he wasn't like those...]]> Tue, 10 Nov 2009 22:28:13 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Thu, 12 Nov 2009 09:26:12 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Fri, 13 Nov 2009 13:36:14 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Mon, 04 Jan 2010 17:15:11 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Tue, 05 Jan 2010 12:04:52 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage discussion. However you are absolutely right that the counsellor had no ability to recognise the abuse. It did allow me to realise a few things though. I heard the me me me tone of my abuser. I saw the...]]> Tue, 05 Jan 2010 12:49:08 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Tue, 05 Jan 2010 15:28:46 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage leave, we will focus on your problems first", he walked straight out. My current husband went to one family therapy session with the kids and I (my kids counselor) and she asked me later if he...]]> Tue, 05 Jan 2010 16:11:39 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Wed, 06 Jan 2010 19:39:35 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Wed, 01 Dec 2010 12:08:20 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Fri, 03 Dec 2010 15:49:46 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Sat, 01 Jan 2011 13:23:23 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Sat, 01 Jan 2011 15:06:56 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Sat, 01 Jan 2011 16:36:40 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Tue, 11 Jan 2011 10:34:48 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage couples therapy. Especially if you have not had that eye opening moment where you realize it r...]]> Tue, 11 Jan 2011 11:27:27 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Tue, 08 Feb 2011 09:34:49 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Mon, 21 Mar 2011 18:26:10 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Mon, 21 Mar 2011 23:56:31 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage couples therapy setting...]]> Tue, 22 Mar 2011 00:45:23 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage couples therapy is not effective then how can an abuser change or get help?""""""""""""""""""""""" Most can't and don't. One abuser in a couple/three million might be able to change for the better. The rest only get WORSE. They are not open to getting help...]]> Tue, 22 Mar 2011 11:41:18 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Mon, 04 Apr 2011 17:26:11 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage couples counseling. Please don't do it.]]> Fri, 08 Apr 2011 09:33:03 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Thu, 14 Apr 2011 12:01:31 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage couples counseling and I'm feeling really good about it. I asked the counselor some questions before my husband agreed to go, about emotional abuse and the chances of the abuser changing. So he was aware of our situation before we ever went into his office. I'm comfortable with him,...]]> Thu, 14 Apr 2011 14:41:25 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage hope all goes as you wish it to.]]> Thu, 14 Apr 2011 20:26:43 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Reading!! SO glad I didn't push him to do this!! Thanks!!]]> Thu, 14 Apr 2011 21:02:12 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Thu, 14 Apr 2011 23:17:55 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage art of manipulation, I can't see couple counselling working. When others are around, they can switch from pure evil to congenial in a split second, so I can't see them letting down their guard in therapy. Even if the counsellor is aware of the 'game' they're playing for h...]]> Fri, 15 Apr 2011 08:24:45 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage couples counseling, for maybe a year on and off.Then I would go by myself to the counselor when things stayed the same, and I did this for years.I waisted a lot of money and years too.My husband went into it all friendly and like he was the nice guy and th...]]> Fri, 15 Apr 2011 09:10:54 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage hope for you, that all goes exactly the way you're hoping. Now that I'm rested, I wanted to add some things this morning. It's really great that you're doing research. That's ...]]> Fri, 15 Apr 2011 09:17:19 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Sat, 28 May 2011 08:31:31 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Sat, 28 May 2011 09:41:42 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage counseling with me and he has always had an excuse not to.. 'we don't have marriage problems, YOU have problems' I will go with you once you have sorted your problems out We don't need to consult an 'expert', we can work it out between us And the silli...]]> Sat, 28 May 2011 10:01:51 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage counseling. So that way when I got there i was already emotional...]]> Sun, 29 May 2011 03:24:06 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Sun, 29 May 2011 09:51:53 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Sun, 29 May 2011 10:03:48 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Sun, 29 May 2011 11:07:47 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Sun, 29 May 2011 14:28:48 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Wed, 01 Jun 2011 07:34:25 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage counseling. He refused. So I went. Guess what I found out? I was in a verbally and emotionally abusive relationship with the most stupid man my therapist had ever encountered. (Her exact words). It takes two peo...]]> Wed, 01 Jun 2011 10:38:34 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Sat, 11 Jun 2011 08:30:29 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Wed, 17 Aug 2011 09:26:20 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage counseling or this is over. Then in counseling he chatted away during sessions and wasted time, and I, wanting to get SOMETHING DONE, put my stuff out there and looked like the distresse...]]> Thu, 18 Aug 2011 00:09:05 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Thu, 18 Aug 2011 00:09:42 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage reading it, sees it.]]> Thu, 18 Aug 2011 09:25:56 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Fri, 19 Aug 2011 00:20:30 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Fri, 19 Aug 2011 21:20:47 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Sat, 20 Aug 2011 02:02:48 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Mon, 22 Aug 2011 02:42:17 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage counseling does NOT help when there's intimate abuse for about twenty-five different reasons. At best, it's INeffective. At worst, it can cause a FATALITY.]]> Mon, 22 Aug 2011 08:33:34 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage counseling and he refused, so I went by myself. Instead of saving my marriage as I had hoped, I learned that I was being emotionally, verbally and mentally abused. Wow, what an eye opener. I had been held down so long I had no idea that this was happening to me. My co...]]> Mon, 22 Aug 2011 09:30:45 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage counseling. I'll just add a thing about individual abuse counseling as well. My H was in individual abuse counseling during the beginning of our relationship. I read that for some abusers, especially narcissists, knowle...]]> Mon, 22 Aug 2011 15:22:35 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Tue, 23 Aug 2011 03:37:13 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Tue, 23 Aug 2011 10:54:27 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage counseling.. as i read this i can see how he can spin it twist it..however i dont think he would care if i didnt set it up..how can trained professionals not know the signs of abuse?or a narc antisocial etc? in my ...]]> Thu, 25 Aug 2011 23:39:08 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage counseling then?or believe he is just goign for some stress issues?]]> Thu, 25 Aug 2011 23:49:06 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage school), is that psychologists and the degrees they've earned to this point in time, have not been focused in on the dynamics of abuse. I believe is that intimate abuse and domestic violence wasn't even on the interventional radar till aroun...]]> Fri, 26 Aug 2011 10:11:31 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Fri, 26 Aug 2011 10:40:46 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Fri, 26 Aug 2011 10:54:58 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Fri, 26 Aug 2011 11:37:05 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage discussion. The reality of an abusive realationship is that a "counseling' intervention will not merely be ineffective, but there is simply no foundation for it to be anything other than a further danger to the victim. Until a traditionally trained couples counselor is able to ident...]]> Fri, 26 Aug 2011 11:53:20 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Couples counseling sends the abuser and the abused woman the wrong message. The abuser learns that his partner is “pushing his buttons” and “touching him off” and that she needs to adjust ...]]> Mon, 29 Aug 2011 13:44:18 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Mon, 29 Aug 2011 13:49:26 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage counseling with me. And I didnt avoid the issue "You will only throw the stuff the counselor says in my face" I told him. Of course he d...]]> Mon, 29 Aug 2011 14:34:32 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Sun, 18 Sep 2011 14:51:20 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Wed, 05 Oct 2011 12:47:00 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage couples counseling session with my ex. It was a huge eye opener. He told lies about me to the therapist who treated them as neutral information, even though he used abusive language to paint that picture of me. I felt violated and I was raging mad for days. I haven't yet sent the thera...]]> Wed, 05 Oct 2011 15:00:46 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Mon, 17 Oct 2011 19:35:26 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Tue, 18 Oct 2011 19:47:46 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage couples counseling with my wife. I wouldn't say I'm an abuser (I hope) but I know I'd been a controlling asshole with her up to that point. And...]]> Tue, 18 Oct 2011 20:12:12 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage counseling with my partner. it seemed to make his abuse WORSE. it triggered something in him that made him stop accepting responsibility and blame me. he also harped on little things..]]> Tue, 18 Oct 2011 21:50:11 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Wed, 19 Oct 2011 10:06:29 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage counseling would be a waste of time under those circumstances, is likely to be your be...]]> Wed, 19 Oct 2011 13:00:30 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Thu, 20 Oct 2011 20:39:30 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Thu, 17 Nov 2011 21:45:38 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Sun, 11 Dec 2011 09:58:59 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Sat, 17 Dec 2011 16:26:02 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Fri, 23 Dec 2011 10:53:46 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Tue, 31 Jan 2012 11:02:54 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Tue, 31 Jan 2012 21:16:28 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Tue, 07 Feb 2012 12:30:44 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Tue, 07 Feb 2012 14:03:15 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Tue, 07 Feb 2012 15:04:22 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Tue, 07 Feb 2012 15:37:10 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage counseling because I was afraid to be open and honest. I didn't feel like the therapist was doing anything wrong, but my husband was there to make me happy. I never felt like I could truly talk about the issues I was facing because I was afraid. I trie...]]> Tue, 07 Feb 2012 18:08:15 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Tue, 07 Feb 2012 22:49:37 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage counseling once before and that's why i stayed - big mistake! Everything listed here happened, including the false hope where he made small changes and i felt everything could get better. Then things got worse later. He used the therapy to 'prove' that everything was my fault, and it worked...]]> Wed, 08 Feb 2012 09:55:34 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Wed, 08 Feb 2012 15:29:22 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Fri, 10 Feb 2012 20:07:24 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage research supports it, couples counseling does not work with abusers because abusers brains are wired in a way that is not flexible.]]> Fri, 10 Feb 2012 20:42:26 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage vacation, lied and went to a strip club, and wouldn't tell me where the hotel was (or give me a key), I told the therapist that it was "unacceptable behavior." She stopped, give me a sha...]]> Sat, 11 Feb 2012 13:01:28 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage couples counseling. Unfortunately, marriage counselors today (and most counselors in general) are trained that there is no "right" or "wrong" behavior. There is no 'black" or "white". There is no b...]]> Sat, 11 Feb 2012 16:20:05 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Sat, 11 Feb 2012 18:11:03 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Fri, 02 Mar 2012 19:16:49 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Sat, 03 Mar 2012 00:31:07 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Mon, 19 Mar 2012 23:35:17 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Tue, 20 Mar 2012 09:09:17 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Tue, 20 Mar 2012 09:23:38 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage counseling twice both times they took his side and told me I was wrong and I went back. I am still angry at them for talking me back into this abusive marriage. My husband really fooled them. Next time I leave I promise no way will I ever go to marriage counseling. I have l...]]> Sat, 31 Mar 2012 15:12:42 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Tue, 15 May 2012 12:41:29 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage counseling twice with my abuser. First time he drove to counseling in his girlfriend's car .I also later found out that he would tell the counselor one thing in private and anoher when he was in the room with me. The second time around....he would use the counselor's words against me. ...]]> Tue, 15 May 2012 18:18:48 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Fri, 25 May 2012 08:51:18 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Sun, 27 May 2012 09:22:44 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Sat, 09 Jun 2012 10:27:05 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Sun, 10 Jun 2012 02:57:04 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Sat, 23 Jun 2012 10:39:40 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Sun, 29 Jul 2012 09:41:45 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Sun, 07 Oct 2012 20:37:16 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Mon, 12 Nov 2012 08:30:11 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Mon, 29 Apr 2013 13:55:44 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage counseling is just not up to handling counseling for women in an abusive marriage. Especially if the abuse is verbal, and so also emotional. I am so very glad th...]]> Mon, 29 Apr 2013 14:54:29 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Tue, 30 Apr 2013 21:24:21 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/6301494-couples-counseling-and-abusive-relationships/lastpage Mon, 20 May 2013 15:32:56 +0100