I developed the Index Card Exercise for myself and now assigns it as homework, to my coaching clients: Buy several packs of index card... http://www.dailystrength.org Fri, 24 May 2013 21:24:47 +0100 DailyStrength RSS 0.11.3.0.6833 (FeedCreator 1.7.2) http://static.dailystrength.org/templates/images/promo/logo-round-rss.gif http://www.dailystrength.org http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Sun, 27 Feb 2011 15:53:13 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage exercise! Equally important for me was creating index cards of self affirmations to replace the negative message my abuser gave me about myself with a new one: "I am a good parent" "I deserve to be loved" "I have many friends who love me" "I will be successful at whatever I ...]]> Mon, 28 Feb 2011 11:13:24 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Mon, 21 Mar 2011 20:18:01 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage exercise was the best thing that ever happened to me. It helped me see what was real and what was not. I still to this day use this exercise in my everyday life. Thank you Ilene for your saving Grace! I have healed 100 fold on this advice. You will never see the impact of this, till you...]]> Mon, 21 Mar 2011 21:22:19 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage exercise!]]> Mon, 21 Mar 2011 21:37:26 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Fri, 25 Mar 2011 06:56:01 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage exercise from a past relationship?. I left my freaky, creep 6 months ago..i also like the validation idea. Would there be a point in me doing this in heindsight?. Only as I just want to forget him but it seems like a great, practical excercise and proactive. Thanks guys :) X]]> Fri, 25 Mar 2011 11:45:19 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage exercise for a past relationship, retrospectively. Even if all you want to do is forget him, doing this first, will help process any lingering feelings or confusion and facilitate putting the relationship behind you completely. And even if you have...]]> Fri, 25 Mar 2011 14:42:47 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage exercise, and it has helped me tremendously!! Thank-you so much. What a genius idea.]]> Fri, 25 Mar 2011 19:36:04 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Fri, 25 Mar 2011 20:43:01 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage exercise are both blessings in my and many other women/men's lives. Very appreciative of her and this valuable tool! Xo]]> Fri, 25 Mar 2011 20:50:08 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Wed, 30 Mar 2011 00:25:34 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Thu, 31 Mar 2011 08:01:41 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Thu, 31 Mar 2011 11:20:34 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Thu, 31 Mar 2011 16:52:24 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Fri, 08 Apr 2011 10:06:28 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage exercise, because it gives clarity to the confusion that the abuse cycle brings.]]> Tue, 03 May 2011 12:36:40 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage exercise in getting out the demons and making room for happiness:)]]> Tue, 03 May 2011 14:22:32 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Tue, 03 May 2011 17:20:36 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage exercise. It works!!! A little story: my grandma had a really hard life, abuse through most of it. sometimes when we are fighting, my husband throws at me: your grandma LOVED me. when I saw her alone when she was dying, she told me that I was a good man and she thanked...]]> Tue, 03 May 2011 17:29:45 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Tue, 03 May 2011 17:35:47 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Tue, 03 May 2011 18:06:05 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Sat, 14 May 2011 21:39:20 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Sat, 14 May 2011 21:41:01 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Fri, 03 Jun 2011 15:06:49 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Mon, 06 Jun 2011 09:28:13 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Mon, 06 Jun 2011 09:41:07 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Mon, 06 Jun 2011 13:04:01 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Tue, 07 Jun 2011 13:39:47 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage leave. Thanks for such a great Idea. I was feeling way guilty about wanting out the who...]]> Wed, 08 Jun 2011 20:01:44 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage humor. You're not anything the abuser has tried to make you believe. You're YOU. You're wonderful. You're intelligent. You're beautiful. You're a great person. You...]]> Wed, 08 Jun 2011 22:26:42 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Sun, 12 Jun 2011 01:48:10 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Sat, 30 Jul 2011 07:55:47 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Sat, 30 Jul 2011 10:00:38 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Tue, 02 Aug 2011 08:27:05 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Wed, 03 Aug 2011 01:33:02 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Fri, 12 Aug 2011 09:31:38 +0100 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I asked him for some info for divorce papers I wa...]]> Wed, 30 Nov 2011 13:41:27 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Tue, 06 Dec 2011 17:47:03 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Fri, 23 Dec 2011 10:50:30 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Sun, 25 Dec 2011 06:05:36 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Tue, 03 Jan 2012 09:51:39 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Tue, 03 Jan 2012 17:55:22 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Thu, 05 Jan 2012 09:31:31 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Sun, 08 Jan 2012 12:19:27 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Mon, 16 Jan 2012 15:23:09 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Tue, 17 Jan 2012 22:06:39 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Thu, 26 Jan 2012 06:46:36 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Thu, 26 Jan 2012 08:05:26 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Thu, 26 Jan 2012 09:19:14 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Fri, 27 Jan 2012 12:19:36 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Tue, 31 Jan 2012 21:26:37 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Mon, 06 Feb 2012 20:06:27 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Mon, 06 Feb 2012 22:08:18 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Wed, 08 Feb 2012 20:44:04 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Fri, 10 Feb 2012 15:22:26 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Sat, 11 Feb 2012 08:49:41 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Sat, 18 Feb 2012 18:55:34 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Sat, 18 Feb 2012 19:07:54 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Mon, 20 Feb 2012 09:18:28 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Tue, 21 Feb 2012 19:11:11 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Tue, 21 Feb 2012 22:59:15 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Fri, 24 Feb 2012 09:43:28 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Fri, 24 Feb 2012 10:03:15 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Fri, 24 Feb 2012 22:34:03 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Sun, 26 Feb 2012 20:26:23 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Tue, 28 Feb 2012 15:54:03 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Sun, 11 Mar 2012 11:56:51 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage exercise when I find a safe place to do it. I promise myself this. Thanks for the link.]]> Sun, 11 Mar 2012 12:50:28 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Thu, 15 Mar 2012 07:34:43 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Sun, 01 Apr 2012 23:05:30 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Mon, 02 Apr 2012 06:30:09 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Mon, 02 Apr 2012 06:46:51 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Sat, 14 Apr 2012 13:22:38 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Sat, 14 Apr 2012 13:52:05 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Sat, 14 Apr 2012 14:10:21 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Tue, 24 Apr 2012 14:57:45 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage exercise immediately as well as positive affirmation about myself and the things he put me down for. I carry that heavy on my shoulders.]]> Tue, 24 Apr 2012 20:09:27 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Wed, 25 Apr 2012 20:54:50 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Thu, 26 Apr 2012 18:06:30 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Mon, 30 Apr 2012 22:47:33 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Wed, 16 May 2012 15:29:12 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Thu, 24 May 2012 13:43:37 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Thu, 24 May 2012 23:31:16 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Tue, 29 May 2012 14:43:35 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Tue, 29 May 2012 19:38:02 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Fri, 01 Jun 2012 08:00:30 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Fri, 01 Jun 2012 09:54:00 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Sat, 09 Jun 2012 10:28:17 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Sat, 09 Jun 2012 10:50:48 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Sun, 10 Jun 2012 20:11:05 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Mon, 11 Jun 2012 06:20:46 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Mon, 11 Jun 2012 15:21:41 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Tue, 19 Jun 2012 14:57:57 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Tue, 19 Jun 2012 16:15:53 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Wed, 20 Jun 2012 05:54:50 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage writing. When I did do it though, it was extremely cathartic. I have them in my bedside cabinet (i always miss him most when I go to bed) and read them when I am feeling low. They drag me right back into reality....]]> Wed, 20 Jun 2012 14:24:26 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Mon, 25 Jun 2012 02:29:33 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Fri, 29 Jun 2012 04:57:17 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Sat, 30 Jun 2012 16:16:32 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Wed, 04 Jul 2012 00:35:24 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Wed, 04 Jul 2012 21:21:33 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Thu, 05 Jul 2012 13:44:03 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Sat, 07 Jul 2012 18:24:26 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Sun, 08 Jul 2012 17:57:04 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage exercise is done. So do I write 1 card "Name Calling" and every name I've ever been called goes on that 1 Card? Or does each index card have 1 name on it. Because I can write 100s, they won't fit all o...]]> Sun, 08 Jul 2012 19:10:23 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage writing out, one name per card. If you can remember when he called you that name. . . . like. . . . Christmas of 2011. . . . . write that name and put 12/25/11 in the corner. ...]]> Sun, 08 Jul 2012 21:12:35 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage exercise wouldn't work re. my past, the people who have hurt me but are no longer in this world. I had already written a list a week ago (of all the things I endured as a child), but all it did was intensify the horrible feelings around the things I could not change. ...]]> Sun, 08 Jul 2012 23:41:09 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage exercise is not to incite grudges. It's to become clear and grow strong, to be better able to navigate life's rocky shoals. Sending you wishes for all good things.]]> Mon, 09 Jul 2012 08:57:31 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Tue, 10 Jul 2012 19:49:23 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Fri, 13 Jul 2012 08:36:20 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Tue, 17 Jul 2012 10:54:27 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Fri, 20 Jul 2012 19:12:35 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Wed, 25 Jul 2012 12:53:55 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Wed, 25 Jul 2012 23:45:37 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Thu, 02 Aug 2012 16:33:45 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Thu, 02 Aug 2012 16:40:51 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Fri, 03 Aug 2012 20:00:34 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Fri, 03 Aug 2012 21:27:10 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage remembering. Music, fragrances, return to specific places, photos. . . . these are all ways to stir our psyche and help bring something buried, back up to the...]]> Fri, 03 Aug 2012 21:59:20 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Thu, 09 Aug 2012 12:23:53 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Thu, 09 Aug 2012 16:40:46 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Tue, 14 Aug 2012 21:47:17 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Tue, 14 Aug 2012 22:06:22 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Wed, 15 Aug 2012 07:59:07 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Wed, 15 Aug 2012 11:36:43 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Wed, 15 Aug 2012 15:11:46 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Sun, 19 Aug 2012 15:27:10 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Sun, 19 Aug 2012 15:59:18 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Tue, 21 Aug 2012 08:38:53 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Mon, 27 Aug 2012 12:50:03 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage exercise! I did something similar before I finally left my abusive Ex-fiancee for good. I got a notebook and wrote down six pages... line after line of reasons he had for hitting me. After seeing them on paper it finally gave me the courage to leave for good. He had reasons like...]]> Mon, 27 Aug 2012 13:06:25 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Tue, 28 Aug 2012 03:54:14 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Tue, 28 Aug 2012 06:59:12 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Sun, 02 Sep 2012 04:10:26 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Mon, 03 Sep 2012 16:15:36 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Thu, 06 Sep 2012 13:04:09 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Wed, 12 Sep 2012 12:39:19 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Fri, 28 Sep 2012 12:22:06 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Fri, 28 Sep 2012 18:15:22 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Sun, 30 Sep 2012 08:11:47 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage reading them again? It made me realize how bad things were.]]> Mon, 01 Oct 2012 09:59:58 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Mon, 01 Oct 2012 10:07:55 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Mon, 01 Oct 2012 10:08:01 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Mon, 01 Oct 2012 14:45:54 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Wed, 17 Oct 2012 19:29:00 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Wed, 17 Oct 2012 20:45:14 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Thu, 25 Oct 2012 19:29:45 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Mon, 29 Oct 2012 08:34:20 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Fri, 09 Nov 2012 10:55:34 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Fri, 09 Nov 2012 22:52:33 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Fri, 16 Nov 2012 01:41:29 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Fri, 16 Nov 2012 08:43:36 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Sun, 18 Nov 2012 15:24:41 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Fri, 30 Nov 2012 18:51:25 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Sun, 09 Dec 2012 12:57:27 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Wed, 19 Dec 2012 07:31:47 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Wed, 19 Dec 2012 10:08:57 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Thu, 20 Dec 2012 08:35:46 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Thu, 20 Dec 2012 08:52:51 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Thu, 27 Dec 2012 17:44:34 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage hope it helps them as much as it did me. Thank you for taking the time to write this out. It really is a useful tool. A very good one, IMHO... {{hugz}}]]> Fri, 28 Dec 2012 18:51:59 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Wed, 02 Jan 2013 07:57:00 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Fri, 15 Feb 2013 13:36:34 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage exercise and it's helping me so much already. As I write each card, I feel so much anger that I allowed this to happen to me. I'm also angry at my husband for his abuse. But, anger can be productive...and I'm using this anger to fuel my drive to...]]> Tue, 19 Feb 2013 17:05:08 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Tue, 05 Mar 2013 21:48:59 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Tue, 05 Mar 2013 22:23:18 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Thu, 14 Mar 2013 22:49:45 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage exercise to my aunt, she went out and bought me a ton of index cards. Once I started writing, everything became that much more clear. It's easier when everything is in black and white, rather than all muddled together in your head.]]> Fri, 15 Mar 2013 10:29:56 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Fri, 15 Mar 2013 22:18:49 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage exercise user who sent me a "thank you" for that exercise and others ------ on an index card ---- what a joy it was to receive it.]]> Sun, 17 Mar 2013 12:12:54 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Tue, 19 Mar 2013 12:14:53 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Tue, 19 Mar 2013 17:39:26 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Wed, 03 Apr 2013 10:55:41 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage exercise Ilene. It's been a lifesaver. I want to bump this for the other new ladies here and suggest that you all try this.]]> Sun, 07 Apr 2013 12:37:06 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Tue, 16 Apr 2013 07:49:08 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Thu, 02 May 2013 22:29:29 +0100 http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/11590808-ilenes-clarifying-index-card-exercise/lastpage Fri, 03 May 2013 18:27:04 +0100