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		<title>Incest Survivors Forum: Is Reconcilliation even possible? - DailyStrength</title>
		<description>Im struggling with letting go of my mother. She is one of my perpetrators. When I confronted her several years ago she admitted her abuse of...</description>
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			<title>Comment by anonymousse</title>
			<link>http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Incest-Survivors/forum/13776653-reconcilliation-even-possible/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[I agree with you councelor.Sounds like a real good one.......But only you know..write about it..I think we can all hear what everyone has to say.look at our personal acse from every angle....... 
  
 And then decide for ourselves after weighin inn all the pros cons and understanding that the relations...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Sun, 19 Feb 2012 16:29:15 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by PaigeC</title>
			<link>http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Incest-Survivors/forum/13776653-reconcilliation-even-possible/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[I think it depends on each individual. Some people are able to some are not. 
  
 Personally, I can't fathom it but I have great respect for those who can. 
  
 In the end, it comes down to what's best for YOU in your healing process. If it doesn't help you HEAL, then what good can it do for you?]]></description>
			<pubDate>Sun, 19 Feb 2012 16:54:28 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by pumpkinpumpkin</title>
			<link>http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Incest-Survivors/forum/13776653-reconcilliation-even-possible/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[In all this time she has not taken responsiblity and apologized?  She hurt you once, she hurt you twice.  How were you treated when you were sick? My heart goes out to you!]]></description>
			<pubDate>Sun, 19 Feb 2012 17:47:42 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by Hecatestorch</title>
			<link>http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Incest-Survivors/forum/13776653-reconcilliation-even-possible/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[Yes, it  is definately an individual, very personal and complex issue. Its got me thinking, my parents could show compassion when I was physically ill and the signs were very visible. I remember one time I had shingles, I was in agony, but because no blisters had appeared over the offended nerve- I ...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Tue, 21 Feb 2012 07:45:00 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by pumpkinpumpkin</title>
			<link>http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Incest-Survivors/forum/13776653-reconcilliation-even-possible/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[In <a href="http://www.dailystrength.org/treatments/Group_Therapy" onclick="treatmentHotLink('http://www.dailystrength.org/treatments/Group_Therapy')" class="treatmentlink" title="Learn more about Group Therapy">group therapy</a> a counselor let the group  counsel a woman about going back to a cruel BF." Don't go" we all said. He said "I think you should". |But go with all your hopes and expectations in your head and see if he meets them". She did and came back saying I wanted him to do X and he didn't. It's...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Tue, 21 Feb 2012 09:10:27 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by justanothersurvior</title>
			<link>http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Incest-Survivors/forum/13776653-reconcilliation-even-possible/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[I think your counselor is profoundly wrong in simply stating sever all ties.  It sounds like your counselor has their own issues.  Fundamentally I agree that all ties should be severed unless it is a family member.  You sound like you want and need a relationship with your mother.  Yes she was a per...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Tue, 21 Feb 2012 10:10:09 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by anonymousse</title>
			<link>http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Incest-Survivors/forum/13776653-reconcilliation-even-possible/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[I think reply 6 really brings up a good point. 
 But what do you do with a family that chooses to not work it out.Is not remorseful, is in denial, and wants to stay there.And worse of all continues to be abusive? 
  
 For me that would mean in order to keep the relationship i would have to be a hypocri...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Tue, 21 Feb 2012 10:44:40 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by pumpkinpumpkin</title>
			<link>http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Incest-Survivors/forum/13776653-reconcilliation-even-possible/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[Survivor, 
 Would you share how you reconcilled with your family? So many of us have experienced denial or no remorse and said there is no <a href="http://www.dailystrength.org/treatments/Faith" onclick="treatmentHotLink('http://www.dailystrength.org/treatments/Faith')" class="treatmentlink" title="Learn more about Hope">hope</a>.]]></description>
			<pubDate>Tue, 21 Feb 2012 23:22:16 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by Banshie</title>
			<link>http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Incest-Survivors/forum/13776653-reconcilliation-even-possible/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[Not for nothing- Leopards can't change their spots even if you shave them down- the spots are "imprinted" on their skin, forever. 
  
 I personally refuse to corrupt my core or my values to be with my rapist brother and the famliy that thinks he is so wonderful and  "changed". Not happening. Sure I co...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Tue, 21 Feb 2012 23:56:15 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by ausie34</title>
			<link>http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Incest-Survivors/forum/13776653-reconcilliation-even-possible/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[I'm with you Banshie! My father, uncle and cousin are my bastard rapists and they are dangerous. Should I stay connected to them because of "family"? I Think not! Why fight then?  
  
 I applaud you Banshie!]]></description>
			<pubDate>Wed, 22 Feb 2012 01:03:20 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by hylierandom</title>
			<link>http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Incest-Survivors/forum/13776653-reconcilliation-even-possible/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[This is what I came up with with my dad.  Mainly because <a href="http://www.dailystrength.org/treatments/Forgiveness" onclick="treatmentHotLink('http://www.dailystrength.org/treatments/Forgiveness')" class="treatmentlink" title="Learn more about Forgiveness">forgiveness</a> has been urged on me as something I need to do. 
  
 If I could look past the mind-shattering hell he put me through...what good is he now? 
 In his case, not worth whizzing on if he was on fire. 
  
 Weigh your mom in a cost-benefit ma...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Wed, 22 Feb 2012 04:06:21 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by loum50</title>
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			<description><![CDATA[I still love my parrents after all they have done. I hate my father, but I still love him. I'm glad I didn't remember while they were still alive because I don't know what I would have done.]]></description>
			<pubDate>Wed, 22 Feb 2012 04:14:45 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by justanothersurvior</title>
			<link>http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Incest-Survivors/forum/13776653-reconcilliation-even-possible/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[Yes i will let you know thru an email how things went and how i approached my family. 
  
 also, I noticed my response was a little trigger for some.  I understand this and as i said in my first responce that not all situations are the same.  I simply do not agree with your counselor to sever all ties...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Wed, 22 Feb 2012 11:59:27 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by blossomingflower</title>
			<link>http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Incest-Survivors/forum/13776653-reconcilliation-even-possible/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[Wow this is something I deal with on a daily struggle, 
 I ahve been on here many times with this <a href="http://www.dailystrength.org/treatments/Talking" onclick="treatmentHotLink('http://www.dailystrength.org/treatments/Talking')" class="treatmentlink" title="Learn more about Discussion">discussion</a> and just talked about this with my counsler today. Its hard becuase when I think of other people I would say no way in hell shoule they speak to their abuser. My dad spoke with his abuser his ...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Thu, 23 Feb 2012 16:58:38 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by Hecatestorch</title>
			<link>http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Incest-Survivors/forum/13776653-reconcilliation-even-possible/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[Thanks blossoming flower for your candidness, keep being real and true to your feelings, it takes you home to yourself each time. Like, you,  I find it difficult to reconcile my parents abusive behaviours and acts toward me and take the more understanding compassionate stance rather than judgement. ...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Fri, 24 Feb 2012 05:26:52 +0100</pubDate>
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