Pet Bereavement Support Group

The loss of a pet or animal to which one has become emotionally bonded can be an intense loss, comparable with the death of a loved one. Whilst there is strong evidence that animals can feel such loss for other animals, this community focuses on human feelings, when an animal is lost, dies or otherwise is departed.

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My dog Iris who I've had for ten years passed this morning. I rescued her from an animal shelter when she was four years old. I was told that they believed she had been abused and she definetely seemed to have been with the way she was around our family at first. Through the years she has not only been my dog but everyone's dog. I got her the summer my grandma passed and of course she was there for me when I needed comforting she would cuddle up with me at night. Iris was taken to the hospital Sunday afternoon after noticing she hadn't been eating and she was bloated. We got her to the vet and they said she had a tumor in her spleen. Once they did ER surgery that night they said the tumor had ruptured and she had a liter and a half of blood in her stomach that they took out. After the surgery she was doing much better. I went to the hospital after work yesterday and was able to visit with her and walk her around, she didn't seem like herself but I was told that it was from her still being groggy from the surgery. I knew she wasn't herself. I walked her around for about 20 minutes but she seemed tired and I didn't want to make her uncomfortable after that major surgery so I took her back in. I was supposed to bring her home today when I received a call that she was going downhill fast. They had to give her a blood transfusion. Before I could walk out the door to get there they said she was coding and that they would try to keep her alive until I got there. Once I got there she was on a breathing machine and was gasping for air. I petted her, kissed her and told her I loved her, about two seconds later she took her last breath and passed. My mom and my nephews were there with me and my mom said that she was waiting for me to get there so that I could say bye to her. I believe it but it still hurts so very badly. Right now I'm typing this while I'm laying on my bed where she would normally be cuddled up next to me. I don't know how to deal with her not following me around the house and being my little sidekick anymore. I miss her more than words can say.
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When I lost my best friend Copper in June, people were telling me that they were sorry for my loss. Some how the word sorry just doesn't fill that terrible hole and pain in your heart. This is the the only place that I found where everyone is here to help each other. Folk's gave me alot of support and great advice. They told me to grieve as long as I wanted, cry when I had to and surround yourself with people that REALLY know the pain and hurt you are going thru. I had my Copper cremated and when I die, he is to be put in my casket with me and we will be together again,only this time it will be forever! People with job's and careing family's seem to get back into life and move on. I don't have that, all I had was my buddy. I never called him a dog or a pet, he was always my buddy, my pal and my best friend. Come back here as long as you have to,the people here know and understand you probably better that family and friend's do. Good luck. If you ever need to just talk, my email is; grambodei@msn.com
Copper and George
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I agree with George, I am crying like a baby for you right now. Its not fair, it sucks, it hurts more than 99.9% OF the people will ever know. You are going to hurt bad for awhile, I know if my wife was still here it would help to be with her and cry together as she loved him almost as much as I did. You are with your family, if they dont totally know just tell them how much it hurts hug them tight.
And please come on here with all of us who feel the same as you we will try our best to help
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Thank you both so much. It's so hard right now but of course these things take time. I know she's in a better place right now and atleast they went together. I'm trying to stay positive but it's so very difficult.
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I'm sorry when I said they both went together.... my hamster died a few hours later for no apparent reason. I think maybe Iris didn't want to go alone. She knew my other two dogs were too young to take so she took the oldest animal in the house with her. At least they didn't go alone and I know my grandparents, aunt and uncle are watching over them. And my cat who passed a few years ago is probably showing them around up there.
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