Widows & Widowers Support Group

Has anyone gone to a grief counselor? I am wondering if it would be helpful to see one and would like some input, like if it helps? How often do you see one? How do you know if you need to see a counselor one to one?

My DH and I, although he had cancer for 14 months, we had never talked about many issues during that time. I have so many regrets or "I wishes" as I call them now. I am having a really hard time with this. Is this a normal part, all the pain of not being able now to say those things? We were so close, talked and debated everything in our lives from the time we were basically children and when it came to this, we just couldn't talk. It was too hard. We would try and get out a sentence and not be able to say anything more. Now I never will be able to tell him all those things I want to say and I just can't bear it anymore. It is literally tearing me to pieces. Three long lonely months without him, I just don't know if I can handle anymore. I have tried journalling, it helps but it can't replace the actual talking that we did all our lives. We would talk endlessly for hours. We enjoyed each others opinion and debated many, many things. I am lost now. My confidant is gone, the one who I told every little thing, who understood me, who loved me like no one else. I miss him so much that I feel like my life ended with his. No one knew me, no one cared for me like he did. He was always my best friend, we had each other and really didn't need anyone else. I feel that I have tired out my family and friends with my grief and my feelings. Would a counselor help? This journey is so very hard.
KS
Posted on 11/07/09, 11:11 pm