Widows & Widowers Support Group

I am so sorry for your loss. The funeral home where my husband was waked was able to tell me of a grief support group, which was some comfort in the beginning. Mine was managed by experienced people and they might be able to direct you to some answers about healthcare. Some grief therapists will give you sessions at a lower fee if you are unable to make the usual payment. Some hospitals offer grief sessions for widows and widowers, as well. As a widow I know that your grief is devestating and that the feelings of exhaustion & confusion & emptiness are part of it. If you need to chat please let me know. Sue

I may not be the person to answer you today, because I am feeling that way too. But I know in my head things will get better but right now I jsut can't take to much more. Thety God won't give you more than you can handle, but I am not sure I am that strong. I jsut put one foot in front of the other one day at a time.

I hope you strat to feel better soon.

Love and hugs,
Diane

I joined a grief group at my church, meet a lot of wonderful ladies there and we are a tight group now. Most churches should have something for your need. I am so sorry for your loss. I just turned 44 and lost my husband 10 month ago. It will get better with time, it’s a rollercoaster ride that is for sure. I am not sure what to do about healthcare, hopefully it will not be long until the government comes up with something. Hang in there, Sabine

I am new to DS and know what you are going through. I lost my husband of 34 years suddenly 6 months ago. There was a local church sponsoring a program called Grief Share that I started attending. There were many people going through the same pain and it helped me a lot. Go to their website, GriefShare.com, They are a nationwide no cost program and you'll probably find an ongoing group near you. Hang tough. You are in my thoughts prayers. Joette

I am so sorry for your loss. I also lost someone on that day..... I also lost my husband in Jan. 2008. So I'm grieving 2 people. I'll keep you in my prayers......
......But, I worked at a counseling agency- non profit- and some operate on a sliding fee scale that goes according to your household income. Minimum fees could be $15/$20 per session for the whole family.....you might want to check that out.... Or you could check in your area if there is a Hospice Grief Support Group or a GriefShare group in your area......they are free.....The Greifshare group I'm in does have a workbook required for the 13 week sessions..... at a cost of $12.00. It's very helpful.
You might want to check in your area if they also have a community clinic that services people without insurance. I know we have one here and I would refer a lot of our clients to them.
Right now it's taking baby steps, and deep breaths.......just remember to breath....
Maybe check with your local churches for counseling there.
Hopefully some of all the suggestions you received will help you out. I will keep you in my prayers.......Jenny

I am sorry for your loss. Don' be so hard on yourself, it's just been a few months. I know that Hospice has free counseling one on one or as group and it's wonderful. Or your pastor. Like Sue said Grief changes you inside and out. It's like a roller coaster. Good luck and take care. If you need to talk, I am here for you. Sharon

So sorry for your loss. I lost my partner just a little after you lost yours. I totally understand the desire to hide away, to avoid people, even the well-intentioned ones. Just do whatever feels best for yourself, but don't totally isolate. I have found grief counseling to be very helpful, and I am paying on a sliding scale. I also have a son who mostly does his own thing, but it's nice to have him coming and going and knowing I can ask him for a hug if I need it. The financial concerns only complicate things, I know. I'm either grieving or obsessing about bills. I am hoping our government will pull through with some better health insurance options soon. Just take little baby steps, getting through each day. What other choice do we have? You are in good company here.

I am sorry for your lost and that you, like the rest of us, have become a member of this group. But it is here that many of us find comfort and give comfort. Keep posting and reading. You can also see if there is a support group at the hospital where your loved one passed, the funeral home and also check with your local United Way. I will keep you and your daughter in my prayers.

I am soo sorry for your loss as well. I lost my wife to breast cancer in may of 2008.. 2 months later I joined a church .. there widow/widowers support group was a great help.. I strongly recommend.. they really helped me realize that my dear Patty was not mine to lose, but a gift from God for as long as we had together.. I hope you start to feel better soon

I am so sorry for your loss. Sorry to say that is a normal feeling under the circumstances. The best thought I have for you is to let the tears and other emotions come out. Don't get angry with yourself or impatience with yourself and continue to take time for yourself as much as you can. Feel free to send me a message about anything. And I hope this helps a little. Sharon