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There are so many great topics, and it helps so much to see the varying opinions and solutions. So can you all help with this one? I was wondering how you have handled wearing, continuing to wear, or removing your wedding band/engagement ring.
Do the opinions vary according to age? Gender? For me, I wore my rings for over a year. At that time, I intuitively knew--for me--it was time to take them off. I wanted to still wear them but in a different way. I took his and my rings to a jeweler and had a beautiful necklace created from the three of them. I wanted our daughters to have something that they would enjoy wearing after I was gone. So many times rings are put in the drawer after both parents pass and are never used again--not always the case--but sometimes. When I wear the necklace it brings me much pleasure, but few know what it really is. If they comment on it, I quietly explain how it came about. Posted on 10/23/09, 11:10 am |
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I am entering the sixth month without my DH. I wear my rings daily and feel naked without them. Don't know if and when I will ever remove them.
As for creating another jewelry piece, I have specific instructions to have both my wedding set and his band buried with me after I am cremated. 
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I am also in the 6th month of losing my DH, we are a youg couple he was only 35 and I am 32. Our daughter is now 21 months so I was so brain dead when I was doing the funneral arrangments that I almost let them left the ring on him. Thank God for my father who requested that I take it off for Aubrey in the future. I still where my rings and I wear his ring on a chain around my neck with the thumb print they did at the funneral home of his. I tell people I am married as I feel I am.
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At seven months I moved my rings to my right hand and moved a ring I had made with both of our birthstones in to its place because after almost 28 years my hand felt empty. I continue to wear his wedding band on my left thumb where I put it after his accident. I don't know if I will take it off.
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I truly think it's a personal decision and there is no right or wrong answer. My widow friend wears her rings and he died 8 years ago. I actually bought myself a new ring from him and continue to do so each Christmas. He always gave me a piece of jewelry for Christmas and I continue the practice for him (or me?) The first one resembles a wedding band so I wear that on my left hand.
I like the thought of having a necklace made of his and my rings and never thought of that. Perhaps that will be this years gift. Don was cremated and a small amount of ashes put in a teardrop that I wear all the time. Last Christmas I bought a circle of life pendant that fits around the teardrop and I love it, so I'm not sure about the other necklace. Sharon
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I'm approaching 6 months and still have my rings on. (They have never been off in 30 years, don't know if I can even get them off) I had his buried with him because that is the way I wanted it. I will hand my diamond down to my daughter, but my wedding band I want buried with me. I know I will probably some day take it off, but right now I don't see me doing it in the near future. I'm 54 and don't know if I'll change my mind or not - only time will tell.
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I'm not sure, still, but at around a year I took off my wedding band. The poor ring was missing a stone and was bent from walloping it against a rack of bagels. I wear my mother's plain gold band on my right hand - this is the ring I was actually married in (according to Jewish law), and I took this ring off her finger before we buried her. The connection of all the above is very personal, and emotional for me. I wear Joe's wedding ring around my neck, with a Star of David he gave me years ago.
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It is my understanding that wearing your ring or no is strictly up to you. I am 10 months out from the death of my husband ans still wear my ring. I don't have any immediate plans to change that. laurabp
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I kept my wedding rings on for almost a year and then on our wedding anniversary I decided to take them off. I still wear my husbands ring on a necklace along with a cross. I did read at one time there is a website for widows rings.
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I wear my wedding band still and will wear it until the first anniversary of his death, but I don't wear my engagement ring because he died 4 years to the day of the day he proposed. I know that is probably strange of me, but everytime I look at that engagement ring it breaks my heart.
I also carry his wedding band with me everywhere I go on a chain. I know it is so different for each person, but in our culture it was customary for the widow to show mourning for one year after the death of a husband. When that first anniversary hits, I don't know if I will be ready to take it off, and if I am not ready, then I will just keep wearing it until I am ready. I like the idea of making it into some other piece of jewelry, and I may do that after the year has passed.
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I still wear my rings and I wear his ring around my neck. That was my first sign from him.was from his ring. I will always wear them forever until IF God allows someone else to come into my life or until I die.
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