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If I had 5 minutes in Heaven
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What would we say if we had five minutes in heaven with our loved one? Five minutes to see that they are okay and waiting for us to join them some day. Five minutes to say the things that weigh so heavily on our hearts. Five minutes to say all those things now that we wish we had the chance to say. I am writing this thread so anyone that would be helped by doing this can be. I am also starting this thread because I know that we all would give anything to have time with our lived one even though five minutes would not be long enough.
____________________________________________ First I would give my husband the biggest bear hug in the world and reluctantly let go to say this.... Oh my God, Honey, I didn't know how hard this would be! I miss you every second of every moment of every day and sometimes I wish I could come join you now. Then I remember all of our people that we both love and how you would do anything to be with all of us and I cannot give up what time I have left with them. I love you so so much and I know that you will always be in my heart like you said. I feel you all the time pushing me to live fully just like you always encouraged me to have fun. Is that you talking to me, or just me thinking of what you would say? Do you hear me when I talk to you? Are you watching over all of us? I am so sorry that you went through the hell that you did with the cancer and the treatments. I hope we were able to keep you comfortable and that you didn't suffer. Did I make the right choices for you? It was all so so hard! I am glad though that we all had the chance to be there with you. Babe, you are the love of my life and you will always be the love of my life as well as my heart and soul! You helped me to become whole and I will forever cherish all of the memories of the time that we shared. You would be so proud of the kids and grand kids! I think of you every moment that I am with them and think of how you would love each moment too. I miss your hugs and us cuddling the most! We didn't get enough time, but I wouldn't give up even one moment of the time that we shared. Please tell me about heaven.... (Then one more bear hug and I would tell him over and over how much I love him until my time was up). __________________________________________ Then I would come back and know that five minutes was not long enough. Posted on 09/29/09, 05:09 am |
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If I had 5 minutes with you in heaven, I would beg to stay. I would wrap my arms around you, bury my face in your neck, and not let go. I can imagine your dissapointment that I am not doing well here on my own, feeling that I have no more than a house and a paycheck. You would tell me how strong you know I am, and that it will be OK. To go on and enjoy life until it is my turn to come back.
I love you honey, and am doing my best. 
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I would simply say, "I Love You" and "Take me with you. Can't make it here on my own"
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I would hug him and squeeze him so tight. I would have so much to say that there probably wouldn't be time for him to even respond. I would tell him very much I Love him and miss him so terribly. I would tell him how the kids are and that I will continue care for them until they are on their own. I would thank him for the gifts of our son and daughter and how he lives on through them. I see so much of him in them. I would thank him for choosing me to be his wife and would do it all over again even knowing the outcome. I'd tell him that I'm sorry for not recoginizing all that he was and did for us when he was here. I would tell him how sorry I was that he had to leave this world the way he did on the side of the road. I would tell him that I am sorry for all the silly disagreements that come with a marriage over many years. I would let him know that he was my all, my everything and I am so thankful that God put him in my life. Then I would hold him and squeeze him again, tell him I love him and can't wait to see him again just as my 5 minutes comes to an end.
Thank you for starting this thread. I think it is a good one. It helps to be able to let it out.
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Just as I finished my response. Diamond Rio came onto the country station with their song "One More Day" If you are not familiar with the song you should Google it. Absolutely a beautiful song and it touches on this topic. Was Lance listening to me?
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I'd be so damned excited that heaven actually existed, I'd probably be rendered speechless! mah!
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I would tell him that I miss him more than I could ever have imagined. That he was my whole world, and I don't know how to live without him. I would hug him and kiss him, and tell him I am so sorry I could not save him. I would ask him all the why's and what if's, and whether or not his death was in God's plan. Was this road meant for us or could it have been avoided? I, too, would ask if he can hear me speak to him, and if he is watching over me. I would ask him to forgive me for all the things I cannot forgive myself for. I would ask him if he knew how deeply I loved every single thing about him, he was so perfect. Then, painfully, I would say the Good Bye that I never got to say.
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As I did in a dream one night, I would tell him how much I loved him, kiss him all over his face and tell him I was never going to let him go.
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Beautiful topic. If only one could stop time : (.
My turn: Grab that beautiful man of mine and give him a minute smooch, as I am forgetting how his kisses felt. Then I would tell him that I wish I could re-do my life with him and that I would make him happy, happy, happy. I would go see you and cheer you on at baseball. I would also tell him that life is harder than I thought it would be, and that I would give anything to be together again. I would tell him that Sofia is doing great and growing and that she misses him. Lastly I would beg him to come visit me in my dreams so that we could at least have that time together. I LOVE YOU WITH ALL MY HEART AND I ALWAYS WILL. I WILL SEE YOU IN A LITTLE BIT. one last hug, caress and of course one last kiss. Finally I would walk away watching him smile at me to remember him at peace, I would smile and tell him, "I will be Okay, my sweet"
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This is a great thread and very therapeutic. If I could spend 5 minutes with my wonderful husband I would tell him that the moment he took his last breath that part of me died too. My life isn't anything without him. I would tell him how much I love him and miss him and ask him to wait for me. I would say that I appreciated it so much, even though I didn't always show it, how he always encouraged me and gave me confidence. I would tell him how sorry I am for anything that I ever did to hurt and disappoint him. I would say that he made me the person that I am today. Without him I am not whole. I am lost and incomplete. I will love him until I die and I am once again beside him. I would ask him to watch over our family and keep us safe. I would give him the biggest and longest hug and kiss and say "until we meet again".
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