Widows & Widowers Support Group

Okay nevermind I am bouncing off the walls with this medicine and discontinuing it because its making me worse not better and God knows I don't need to be worse then I already am. The Doctor said I am suffering this Bad because of the event of Kens death and him dying in my arms not to mention losing him completely without warning. Also with everything his evil child did to me that he says I am traumatized well duh. Not to mention they are testing his teeth for poisoning in the event his daughter might have caused his death its just way too much for me to bare and a slim chance his teeth will provide the answer. My head aches constantly along with my chest and I still Pray for Jesus to find the answers to let me finally have closure and I even rant at him and I know he listens and understands but I also need to understand why this has happened in the way it did.

Hi Honey,
I'm so sorry you are feeling so bad and having to go through so much.
I'm glad you are not taking the meds, they are very hard to take, especially at first. I was never on them, but know people who have been. Sometimes they will eventually work, but I have heard the early stages can be very hard.
You know I can relate to the suddness of your partner's passing, but am so very sorry that you are having to deal with all the rest.
All I can offer is my prayers for you and to let you know you can talk to me anytime! You are a good friend and I care about you!!
Love always, Mo

I think if you look under "Treatments" here for Lexapro you can get some more info on the meds. Hang in there. I lost Cliff the same way; you will get through this, but it's going to take time. It's a kind of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. Love and Hugs, Martha

i am so sorry you are on such a hard road of grief sweetie we all are here for you, if you need something for depression or sleeping or nerves don't give up though there are too many options and one will work for you where it may do the oppisite for me i tried three before one worked and i have been on it for a year 3 months before i lost my wonderful husband and seven months since so you hang in there we are in this with you much hugs, bren

Hi there,
Meds affect everyone differently. I went through a few before I found one that didn't make me feel numb and/or more anxious and found I had the best results with Cymbalta. Good luck.

So very sorry to hear of loss. I am currently taking Lexapro and it has been a tremendous hlep to me. Took a couple of weeks to take effect. You don't mention how long you had been taking it before you stopped.

This doesn't necessarily mean that it will work for you. Continue to work with your Dr.l and I'm certain you will find a medication to help you. Goood luck and God Bless

I take lexapro...When my husband was diagnosed with lung cancer, our
GP handed my husband a script for 10 mg of lexapro and 20 mg. for me.
It really has helped with the panic and anxiety. I really dont think I would have made it without them especially in the last few weeks of his life. I am still sad and lonely, and some days are worse than others...but I
am surviving. Good luck and hope you find something to help you...Every
once in awhile we might need a little help...and its ok.

I am new to this site but not new to greif. I lost my husband of 43 years to lung cancer after a 6 month battle. Naturally I was depressed, I had just lost my job of 20 years 2 months before he was diagnosed so I suffered from anxiety and depression. But before I took any medication, I started seeing a good family therapist and joined Hospice. Between the both of them, I was able to avoid medication. My therapist advised me to see a psychiatrist (or therapist who could prescribe meds.) before taking any antidepressants. She does not believe, and I agree that an MD can treat depression. First be sure it is diagnosed by the right type of doctor and then ask lots of questions. The best person to ask about medicine interactions or side effects is your local pharmacist. Target is wonderful for this. Hospice is for everyone, please check it out, you won't be sorry.