Widows & Widowers Support Group

Hi Martha,

I lost my husband 3 mos ago & I was feeling so sad & depressed that I called the hospital psychiatric dept & asked for help. On my 1st meeting with the therapist he asked if I was a smoker & I said yes, but I was trying to cut down & quit.
The therapist strongly recommended that I NOT quit smoking right now because it would only worsen my feelings of depression, so maybe now is not the best time for you to try quitting either.
I hope you feel better soon.. Cyndi

I am too deeply sorry for your loss and you feeling so blue.
Yes it is sad when your spouse passes. What Cliffskat said in her reponses sound good to me. OTOH only you can decide what's right for you. I wonder if somehow on some level writing your message was somehow a way of reaching out for help.
Grief can be the absolute worst thing anyone can go through.
Its never easy. I hope you can get the support you need
I get the impression you're really hurting. I sense you're severely depressed. OTOH I'm not certain. More a gut feeling.
I too remember when it felt like my limbs felt incredibly heavy, it felt like a super human effort to get out of bed. Unsure what to tell you. Some other members tell you to go through your grief. Conversely you wrote several messages how you're finding life so uninteresting. This is NOT a complaint.
Wondering if you need more than this support group.
Please forgive me if I offended you. I wrote because I care.
I realize every member who wrote to you,cares too