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Transitions!
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What time is it? It is transition time and I am stuck. I know it is early morning and I should be asleep but that isn't happening. I am tired of being tired. I want to go for a walk but it is late, cold, dark and raining outside. Kind of funny, though, because that is how I feel. The darkness surrounds me like a shroud making me cold and the rain runs down the windows like the tears down my cheeks. I am not usually like this with private emotions but holding them in and keeping a stiff upper lip is not working. If I let this out will it help? Will I feel worse? Changes in my life, will they happen? Put the facade on of the happy one, the mask to hide all, is that working for you? I try to make it work but it is futile. Going through the motions is getting tougher and this middle of the night thing is getting old. I could use a week of solid sleep, then what? I would still be alone. I feel so empty. Thankfully I have the girls and that does make a huge difference though doesn't change the emptiness. But with the time change comes the anticipation of spring and spring means new beginnings, change and growth. Can I hold onto that? Can I make it work? I must. Mornin' twin.

Thanks for listening.
Posted on 03/08/09, 01:06 am
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Reply #1 - 03/08/09  9:24am
" morning to you .....hey all we can do is be there for each other as we always are...
love you
j "
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Reply #2 - 03/08/09  1:00pm
" That's exactly what were in one big transition. I like you am very much looking forward to the warmer air and sunshine. It will raise our spirits. It has too!

Hugs Karen "
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Reply #3 - 03/08/09  3:45pm
" We were and are always getting stuck in our grief. That's the nature of the beast. You can and you will move past it many times and the more you do the better you will be. The road is not easy but we are here to walk with you in the daylight or in the darkness. Hugs to you and lots of love and support. Sharon "
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Reply #4 - 03/08/09  3:45pm
" We were and are always getting stuck in our grief. That's the nature of the beast. You can and you will move past it many times and the more you do the better you will be. The road is not easy but we are here to walk with you in the daylight or in the darkness. Hugs to you and lots of love and support. Sharon "
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Reply #5 - 03/08/09  3:48pm
" Spring is a time of renewal maybe it will bring some peace and calm with it. Hugs!!!! "
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Reply #6 - 03/09/09  4:45am
" hey girl, spring, what is spring, in maine :LOL..trying to lighten you up alittle like you do to me...we're going to make it T.
Alot of beach this year OK...just hear those waves now..and the smell of the ocean..relaxation (even with Indy lol)
really, twin, we will make it one way or another together.
love ya always
j "
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Reply #7 - 03/09/09  3:01pm
" Trust me, I'm English and therefore an expert on the "stiff upper lip" and I don't think it does work. Sometimes it is exhausting but I have found some sort of comfort and relief from sharing my thoughts and feelings here with people who really do understand and who don't judge. It's nearly 2 years for me and I still miss my wife more than I can describe but I am learning to live with and cope with my life as it now is. Hopefully spring will help you with some new beginnings, however small. Good luck. "
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Reply #8 - 03/12/09  11:46pm
" I appreciate all your comments of encouragement as I sit here it is frigid outside. We need some heat in the northeast and yes, Joanie we will see more of the beach and waves this year. I am trying to hold onto that as the cold wind is whistling through the house. There are other things whistling through my mind and would like them to go away. This cold accentuates the loneliness. Joanie, we really need this party on Tuesday and you can't cop out on that!!!! We won't let you. Warm thoughts for everyone here. "
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Reply #9 - 03/13/09  12:18pm
" I do feel sorry for you. I too miss Jerry greatly. My situation may be somewhat different. I found out after he passed from the hospital chaplain that my hubby was most concerned with me being alone.
He passed from an acute form of leukemia in less than 9 months.
My goal is to seek a compatible man asap. A clone would be nice.
Of course thats impossible but someone with the compassion, intelligence and caring not only for me but for the downtrodden.
He was the only person I knew who couldn't see purple so I suppose a clone is definitely out of the question.
May Spring or something help lift your mood, spirits. "

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