War in Iraq Support Group

Wow,
Not that I'm an expert, but I think you are doing the right thing. I just had a couple conversations with my true love in Iraq (civilian) about that. He was discussing going to Afghanistan from there. I feel very strongly that noone should tell another adult what to do, but I told him thatlife is so precious, his life is so precious to me & others. I asked him to please not put himself at any unnecessary risk.
Good luck. I understand whatyou're going through.

Thanx alot for your response I didn't think that anyone would write back!!!! I wasn't sure if I had done the right thing but what you said made sense thanks!!!!

I just joined this group recently because, although I knew he was going to be deployed, it was a lot harder to handle when he actually left the country! I think military people have tons of resources and support about how to survive and thrive in these situations, but I quickly learned that I am not equipped to deal with the worry and absence! I felt very isolated when he left, which is why I joined this group.
Hopefully your significant other will change his mind during the year!!!

maybe you can compromise
While I also don't feel that you should tell another adult what to do or how to live their life, I also think you should be completely honest about how you feel about it.
A possible compromise might be that he could be an officer in the Navy or Air Force, maybe even the Coast Guard. In this way he can still serve, still get all the benefits of serving, and not be on the front line somewhere.
I'm a Navy veteran, and I'll be the first to tell you that there is no safe branch to join where their is no risk of going into harms way. I looked at the Navy as a safer alternative than other branches, and a way to see the world. It worked for me because I'm still here. I did however risk my life on the flight deck of an aircraft carrier, but no one was shooting at me, or trying to blow my ass up.
Naval officers are treated very well, and have some awesome uniforms. You might get used to that and actually like it.
Good luck no matter what.

thanx for your comments I will try to talk to him about this but I am really nervous about it all, I can't stop thinking about it but thanx for your help guys

Hey NatalieKay,
Don't stress yourself too much. You never know what your friend will be thinking in a whole year. Just love him right now.
And to Mr. Atomsmasher,I really appreciated your input, as you actually know what it's like to be there. Thanks for risking yourself for us all. My problem is that I don't want you men & women risking your lives for something not worth it. I sure hope our leaders know what the heck they've gotten us all into!!! As I said earlier, life is so precious! They'd better not be squandering our (American citizens') goodness on some selfish agenda!!!

NatalieKaye....you seem to be stressing on something that will not take place until next year. A lot can happen in one year. Help him get through college first. He does not need to get stressed himself over this issue. It will first of all effect his grades and second of all push him away. You only met him a month or so ago. Things happen over time. If you truly love him, give him his space to finish his studies.

military is Gov paid college & pay check & on base houseing & retiremeny plan w medical benifits. Your going to cover all this and pay his retirement w house & medical insurance for rest of his life.
Good for you.
It must be nice to be that rich. To be so rich that a person can manipulate away another person life to serve thier own wants.
as in your rolling in investments & spendable monie. investments that haven't been touch and you feel that market is sound.
woweee. again good for you.
If your in US, you where able to have Thanksgiven dinner w/o being invaded & booms blasting all around your dinner because of our troops. our military is made up of son's daughters, wives, husbands, bf & gf's,aunts, uncles, mentors ...who are trained and not just handed a gun and/or a computer.
It would be ashame that he will never beable to work as a professor, if you manipulate him in getting your way.
I understand what you must be feeling but his Mother understands too. she is more than likely grateful for her husband SS & military benifits. more than likely she is proud of her husband.
Let him have a full life.
I agree w Jb studios,