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My boyfriend was in the military for 15 years and he went overseas when the war first started. he was in Iraq for a year and a half. He was a staff sergean and a sniper. He is no longer in the military but he has ptsd. The ptsd is getting better although he still suffers from it.
We are having problems. He talks to me like I'm a soldier and I'm not. Please don't think I'm bashing soldiers because I'm not. I respect them. They do something that I could never do. I could never leave my friends and family and go overseas or some where and fight. Having said that it gets to me that he talks to me like I'm one of his troops. I'm not. I'm his girlfriend. He says he loves me and I love him. We talk about spending our lives together. But to be honest the way he talks to me makes me not want to be with him. When I talk to him about anything he gets this attitude of let me talk to her like a soldier and it will all be okay. The other day he told me that he wished I would open up to him more but the second that I do he he gets the attitude of lets talk like she is one of my soldiers. It just feels like he is always in military mode. I've pointed this out to him several times. I've told him it bothers me. I've told him that I love him but that I just don't want to be talked to like that. He says he's sorry and I know he means it. But its almost like he can't help it. I don't want to end it with him. I do love him. I just don't know if I can spend the rest of my life like this. Does anyone have any input or advice? Posted on 09/12/09, 04:09 pm |
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Is he being treated for his PTSD by the VA or by private practice? If not, please have him make an appointment with a primary doctor at the nearest VA and have that doctor get him into a program for ptsd. It is a good program. 
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As I said in the post, the ptsd is under control. I was needing advice on how to deal with how he talks to me. The ptsd is under control. He is being treated for it so as I said thats getting better.
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a lot of it depends on when he got out of uniform. that transition is a tough one for a lot of people. its not easy being with a soldier, and its not easy being with a veteran. the job that he used to do is not an easy one and in order to do it right requires a certain mindset and an attitude, one thats hard to turn off when you finally decide not to put your boots on anymore. how long have you been with him? how long as he been out? does he always talk to you like your a joe or does he have moments when you are the girlfriend?
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He has been out for about 5 years. We've been together for about 6 months. He has moments when he talks to me like I'm his girlfriend. He doesn't always talk to me like I'm a soldier. I know that he loves me I"m not doubting that. I'm also not doubting that he's a good guy because I do believe that he is. My problem is that I don't know how to deal with him talking to me like that. As I said he doesn't always talk to me like a soldier. The times he talks to me like a soldier most is when we are arguing.
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