What is Video Game Addiction
Game addiction is a form of psychological addiction related to a compulsive use of computer and video games, most notably MMORPGs - open ended, online video games known for their d...
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(wasnt sure what i was doing so i posted this somewhere else first..sry)
Hi... im new here. Just started googling video game addiction and divorce and i ended up here...... a little about my situation: I am a married mother of two young boys, 1 and 2yrs old. I have recently, a month ago, separated from my husband (25) and moved out with our children because my husband is addicted to his games and lets it effect every other aspect of his life. After years of him playing games (xbox) all night long til 3,4,5 in the morning and then sleeping all day til its time to go to work, then i have to be in bed to get up with kids at 7 before he gets home from work. And to him, his days off are just an opportunity to stay up even later because he doesnt have work, instead of spending time with me or his children. A couple months ago i decided to go back to work in the mornings since he works evenings and, well, that didnt last long because i would have to call and call to make sure he was up with the kids, my parents would stop by periodically to bring something by or pick something up and of course he'd be playing games whether or not the kids had a wet or dirty diaper.. that was the point where i decided it was one thing to neglect me, but his own children?! it was unacceptable at that point. There was an ultimatum given, and blown off. And i knew after years of saying "ill leave, i swear" i had to be ready and willing to really leave. So i did. But at this point im not sure where to go from here... i dont wanna run straight to divorce, i love him and i know he loves me but he has a problem.. Ill be surprised if anyone made it this far so ill leave it at that.. i just dont know how to fix my marriage, how to help him, or if i should even try, im at a loss.. Posted on 07/01/09, 07:07 pm |
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I am so sorry you are experiencing this! I have the same situation but I decided NOT to leave. The only reason I decided not to leave is that my husband still has his check direct deposited and I figure that if I am going to be a single parent for all other purposes, I should at least get a check deposited into my account with which to pay bills. I don't expect him to watch the kids anymore or do chores, I act like I am a single parent and ignore him otherwise...no enabling, I don't do his laundry, make his meals or otherwise cater to him.
If your guy doesn't contribute money and its not a hardship for you and your children to leave, then by all means, find a new life and see if he misses you. If you have to go through hardship (find a new place to live, lose his income etc...) then perhaps you should move back in and pretend he is a piece of furniture while you get your life together. I know this sounds harsh to some, but I feel that if our spouses are going to slough off on their responsibilities, there is no reason why we cannot make the best of what we have and move on with our lives. After I started setting up my own life like this, my husband got antsy and started trying to make concessions for change. He isn't perfect, but he now spends some time with the kids and actually cleans something once in awhile. DO NOT put yourself in a bad position just because you are angry with him. Take care of your family's needs first and try to act as though you now have a border at your house who pays a large amount in rent for you to put up with their penchant for gaming. It has been helping me tremendously. Good luck and let us know how things go. 
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