Video Game Addiction Support Group

That was waking, not wacking. He doesn't hit me!!

Hi, Im in a similar position but not married. I was married before and would never go there again. My partner is younger than me and has been playing this awful game now for about 18 months if not more, our son is being let down, Im trying to be father and mother to him. Its hard, very hard. We dont talk anymore hardly. He has much time off work and spends when he sick to play computer game, so I dont know what to believe, sick or not? I dont know. If the job is lost then we are ruined as I work part time only due to child being young, I would have to find full time but do have 2 part time jobs so am doing as good as I can.

I dont know why these games were created, to destroy lives is the only reason I can think of.

As someone who is freshly recovering from an addiction to this game I am very sorry to say that expecting change is not likely. This game is addictive for many reasons. It allows you to bond with people you would probably never speak to in the real world and literally allows for an escape. You don't have to be yourself, you don't have to deal with your problems and the icing on the cake is that Blizzard (the developers) are constantly adding to the game experience to draw you in more. Not only did I lose myself to it, but my ex as well, who had numerous emotional affairs with female gamers during our relationship. I quit because although I was addicted I couldn't handle coming in second to a video game or the people on it anymore. And he is still the same to this day, spending all of his free time on there. You have to want to change and quit or else its impossible, and unless your husband has a reason to quit he probably won't. I really hate to say this, but from personal experience (my own and the people people I played with on a daily basis) you have to get out. Your family recognizes its an addiction, but he doesn't/won't and your situation will not change until you free yourself from it.

I am in the same boat as well. My husband of 5 years is also addicted to WOW. He spends every free second of time on the game and we argue about his lack of spending time with me and the fact that he won't help take care of our house and help me do anything. He just quit his job a few days ago, and this is the second job he has quit in the last 5 months, he cant keep a job because all he wants to do is play WOW. All I can say is goodluck, I hope you find an answer, all i can say is you will leave when you have had enough.

I too am in a similar position. Partner lives for WoW. He has to be nagged into doing into anything with our lad, says its boring which breaks my heart. Has been off sick for past month but not sick enough to break addiction. Feel like stuck between a rock and a hard place with no place to turn. If it wasnt for our son I wouldnt worry and could just walk but Im trying and fialing to keep the family together. He just gets defensive when I try to talk about it, Im back on prozac now but still feel like this is going nowhere.

Oh what to do eh.

Well hate to say it but, my man is obsessed with the myspace game MOBSTER. I hate it that he comes home from work and goes straight on it. I try to talk to him but, he yells and changes the subject. I'm tried of fighting with him over this. He doesn't care what I say he's cheated on me before and it makes me feel like he should'nt be even on it but, he has lost his license and says its the only reason hes on it so much. I'm losing my man i can feel it. Does anyone have the cure? I Love him so much. Sorry to all but, I know how you all feel.


PS I even tried to join in to his game. He even has a chatroom that you go on to play his game. Yes its true!!

i had this gaming phase also. The reason was a mixture btween boredom, and curiosity. Ask him if anything has been bothering him lately. Cancel his WoW subscription. If he loves you more than WoW, he would stop playing it.

Ive told my partner I'll cancel it, it doesnt work. He would put that before us any day, Iknow that, he's said as much :-(

I'm a WOW addict myself and other MMORPGs im 20 years old and started playing MMORPGs when i was 14, its been the cause that i stop my college, lots of failure subjects, loose my girlfriend and bring a lot of problem to my parents, but now i got over my addiction because of my new girlfriend, shes been the reason why i stop playing WoW and start a new life,.now im hoping to find a job to support my self and continue my college because my parents cant financially afford to pay anymore..
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Let your husband realize something, like what my girl did to me..

im so sorry about my english..

Wow! No pun intended. My roommate/tenant plays Wow every night for hours. I knew it was a little crazy, and had a strong suspicion it was the reason he flunked his medical boards after spending four years on medical school and getting his M.D., which now he can't use. When you flunk your boards, they throw you out and you lose financial aid. This lovely, intelligent man actually wound up being homeless, living in his car for almost a year. But he still went to the university library to play WoW every night. Now he finally got a job, rented the room in my house, and started online classes for his "second chance" to get another Masters degree. But he's still playing it every night. He even incurred a $50 late fee on the rent, and made our other roommate get a late fee, because he promised him a ride to my office on the 1st and never made it because he "fell asleep." He says his ex-fiancee left him because he was devoting too much time to "medical school," but reading all these posts, I'm starting to believe this is much more serious than I realized. Wow again. I have dated men with alcohol and drug addictions and found help in Al-Anon Family Groups, which teaches us to remove the focus from the addict and place it on ourselves - improving our own lives, attitudes, and shortcomings. It becomes much easier to be happy once realizing that we are powerless over others' addictions, we can not control or cure someone their behavior, and can only manage ourselves. I wish there was a Family Group for every addiction. If you can find this type of 12 step support group, you may find it helpful to try, and if not, pray the Serenity Prayer whenever you get stressed out: G-d, Grant me the Serenity to accept the things I cannot change; the Courage to change the things I can, and the Wisdom to know the difference.