Video Game Addiction Support Group

the game playing addiction is possibly a symptom of a much larger issue. You cannot reason with an addiction and you cannot get to the core of the problem on your own. Seek a therapist. If your mate will not go with you, then go on your own. At the very least, it will help with your own emotions and hopefully you will gain some insight into how you can begin to help him seek help. The most important thing to remember is that it is not about something you are doing or not doing correctly. So, do not take any of your mate's actions personally. If you need any tips or advice, feel free to message me, I was in his shoes at one time. *hug*

You have to talk with your husband. Ask him what is more important to him, his WoW life or his real life. Then ask him to prove it. Ask him if he can go 90 days without playing. When he laughs at you for being so silly (it's really because he's scared), take it down a notch and see if he'll do 60 days. If you have to keep going down, but don't go past 30 days.

Just understand that he has a problem and it will ultimately never get better unless he realizes that he has lost his self-control and needs to "unplug" either forever or until he regains that.

Ive tried asking him that, Ive begged him not to play so much but its pointless, nothing changes, in fact its getting worse and I truly didnt think that would be possible. Some days I feel like I dont care and other days it really gets to me. Its not going to change, I know that.

If what you say in your follow-up post is true, it may be time to leave. Before doing anything so drastic, I'd seek the help of a licensed counselor.

I know just how you feel, my bf was hooked on counterstrike & would sit at an internet cafe for hours on end, days on end. He'd lie about being there & the last time I caught him out I snapped. I told him it was that or me. I'd tried to talk to him so many times about it but got absolutely nowhere. It was humiliating when my friends & family would tell me they'd seen his car outside the cafe all day. A friend even asked if he worked there!
He resorted to hiding his car behind a nearby shop & telling me he was at work.

I couldn't take it anymore & told him that if he was going to make me miserable then to go. I'd rather be sad without him than miserable with him, being lied to & disrespected. My opinion didn't seem to matter until I gave him an ultimatum. Occasionally he guilt trips me about wanting to go but I've stood my ground. I refuse to come 2nd best to a computer game!

You need to decide what's best for you, do you want to be feeling like this in another month?

I am in the same shoes as you and I have no idea what to do. My husband will get home at 7pm and get right on to play. If he doesn't work the next day he will stay up until 6 sometimes 8am. We have a one year old, and a five year old and every night I'm alone, I feel like a single parent. I try to be nice and ask him to be with me but he just snaps, he tells me he would rather be with the game. Or he will tell me he will be off at midnight (such as tonight) and play all night, it's now 2:30am and he is still playing. He started out being the best person I could ask for. Now he is moody, unhealthy, and spends zero time with me or the kids. Like the other people I get embarrassed. I'm not sure how many nights I have gone to bed in tears, he has a stressful job and I don't mind that he plays a little bit. But it's getting to the point that I snap at everyone and just can't take much more. I've told him he needs to control it or the internet goes and he just flipped. So when you've figured out what works for you let me know. We just got married in May and already I feel like it's the end.

How are things with you Montora? Have things improved?

My partner said he'd cut down to 4 days of playing when he gets in from work til he finishes. I still think thats too much but agreed - its a start. Anyway, he still plays 7 days, just after our son goes to bed the other 3, so its not really helping our relationship but he's not bothered.

There have been alot of stories and situations like this posted on http://www.wowdetox.com

I go there myself, and it has helped me by posting my own story and reading about others.

Very inspiring. Since I am not sure I am good at giving specific advice, this is the best help I can give.

Good luck, and I really hope he figures out that he is hurting his family and that he needs to quit/drastically cut back!!