What is Video Game Addiction
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I am sad about many things, right now. Mostly I am sad that I don't feel like talking to my husband about any thing because I've lost or am loosing the loving feeling toward him because of his gaming. He wastes all his 'free' time. He is a christian man, a Deacon in our church even, a good dad, a good friend, a good husband. But I am so sad that he wastes so much time on something that means nothing in the light of eternity. We both have professed our beleif in our Lord Jesus Christ, we claim we are 'saved' and are going to Heaven. We claim to get the whole 'be in the world not of it' thing. I have my own share of issues, so who am I to tell him he is doing something wrong? And If I ask him to stop, I have nothing to offer him to replace it... I have nothing to offer him! So I just stuff it all, oh.. once and while I make noise that I don't like it, he knows I am not crazy about video games, but anymore I just stuff all my feelings. Well, now I just don't like him anymore and that scares me. We have alot ahead of us, we are young, and if I dont like him right now and am not going to tell him how I feel, whats gonna happen? He has it all... PS3, X-box and all the others before (and the hand held ones too). He plays every morning, almost whenever he is alone, and at night sometimes when he can. I am very sad about.
Posted on 06/29/07, 03:06 pm |
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Hi, kcarchidi. I am a bit confused by one statement that you made: "If I ask him to stop, I have nothing to offer him to replace it... I have nothing to offer him!". It sounds as you two have no common interests at all that you can offer him. I think that you need to consider what you two used to do before he became consumed by video games. Some basic ideas are to offer to go see a movie, go for a walk together, eat dinner at a restaurant, etc. It could be that he is playing video games so much himself partially because there is little that the two of you do together, at least now. If so, you can help be part of the solution by thinking of, and offering to him, some alternate activities. You don't need to nag him about his video game playing; just offer him fun alternatives. He may not accept them, but at least you made an effort. I apologize if I am way off track, but that is how I interpreted your statement. If I am wrong, I would appreciate it if you would clarify what you meant since then I, or somebody, can give you better advice. 
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Don't forget that you can do new things together! You DO have something to offer him: yourself and your shared experiences together. Though new experiences are scary at first, they're very satisfying later. I've seen this both in my own life and my psych readings (self-expansion theory).
Of course, the first thing he'll say is "Why should I do something new when I'm happy here?" It's there that you should be open about how gaming is making you feel. Talk about it and see what he thinks. From there, you can decide together or on your own what to do. Maybe ask him to set aside a day per week as a "go out together day?"
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Kcarchidi. You have described my life. My husband is an elder at our church and gaming consumes his life, too. And we have all the Sony gaming systems, all of them...except the very new PSP. I imagine if my husband was working he would have it before very long.
I noticed your pose was in June 2007, what happened since?
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