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Husband's addiction to FFXI please need advice.
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From the start I knew my husband liked video games, never once did I have a problem with it, I like games myself. He started playing FFXI back in 2003 he was in Navy back then so when he went out to see he didnt have it but when he would get back he was ALWAYS on it. I thought about it and never wanted to be a nagging wife so I made a char and started to play, thought it would be something we can do togeather. However I can turn it off...he cant. He is out of Navy now. Works mon-fri. Before work he is on it...when he gets home at 12am he is on it till 3-4am. Sat and Sun he is on it 24/7, when it comes to sex he is like "ok let me finsh this real fast and ill go afk so we can do it" we do it...he get back on game...there has been times when he has even passed up sex altogether. We do not have a social like...he has LS events on the game many days out of the week...so if I say "hey lets go to dinner...hey lets watch a movie" he is like "cant I have a ls event"...I have rented him movies from Block buster many times and they go unwatched cause he cant take time out to watch them, when he goes to the bathroom..instead of bringing the newspaper in there he has his psp/nin.ds. I tell him all the time I think he has a issue, he is like its just his hobby, and I never want to stop him from doing something he loves, but idk I just feel like its out of hand and feel alone. He met a woman on this game too...well they just talked on phone and I was so hurt because he was saying he was with her and stuff so we seperated (thats a whole other story though). Please just tell me if im being stupid or if you all think he might really have a issue with this. Thanks.
Posted on 04/16/08, 01:04 am |
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From what you have described, it sounds to me like you are not "being stupid" but, instead, that your husband has a problem. Although he calls it his "hobby", when it takes over his life so that you don't socialize or even do much sex, then it is much more than that. However, unfortunately, there is not really much that you can do about it unless he is willing to first admit that he has a problem.
My suggestion is to realize that you are not alone and that you are not in any way responsible. Next, take care of yourself. To help him, I suggest that you first learn more about this addiction problem by reading the posts on this site and other related sites as well. Also, you can try to get him to come to the sites to read the posts himself. Good luck. 
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Thanks JoDOe for your great advice. I told him about the post I made on here and that there was a group for VGA he just laughs at me, so there is no way I would be able to get him to read this board :( Thanks again.
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You are welcome NotReady2BackDown. One other piece of advice, that I have read in other posts, is to not enable him to play. For example, don't bring food to him at his computer. Also, if he has certain responsibilities (e.g., paying bills), don't do that for him instead. As potentially hard as it might be for you, if something like the Internet or the power is disconnected for a while because he has not paid the bills, that will grab his attention because he will then not be able to play. It might even wake him up to realize what he is doing but, unfortunately, I would not count on it. Nonetheless, there are also many addicted gamers that do eventually realize that they have a problem and then try to get help for it. I wish you good luck that your husband becomes one of them soon.
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Thank you sooo much. Your advice is of great help. Take care! :)
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omg thats what my husband plays too and he got me on it aswell.. on Siren. Alot of other posts are about WoW this is the 1st ive seen about FFXI. I cant get my husband off of it either, and he turns down sex also. I have posted my whole story in a journal entry viewable to everyone.
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