Video Game Addiction Support Group

I can not believe my eyes when I read that attack on me. Made me feel very sick. I came here scared cause of the issues that bothered me most. Were very sensitive and hurtful. I walked in the word of hurt and posted it all in my journal. It is one thing to ask me why I am saying what I am saying. It is another to just blasts me when you did not even open my cover. I left it all to be seen. I always read over someone’s journal to get a feel of what is hurting them and where they are at in their life. I assumed every one did the same. I would love to help men and jump at the chance whenever I can. But men seldom reach up for help. So am I to hold back cause it is often women who reach up. I am sorry I am an equalist. We all need the same help. I gave my opinion on the subject. I do not want to pressure a single soul to do a thing only to inform. That’s the biggest thing I even try to suggest. Hold backpressure and make your choice. To always trust you’re gut. If you read my journal and think of me this way then I can’t do a thing about that. I know and feel nothing creepy about my intentions.

Last why do I care so much? I will tell you why. My ex-wife and I was in a world a shit and no one helped us at all. I use to be part of a church. I was active and did my best to help others. When we told them what was going on in our life. They pressured us to make peace when we were hurting so badly and to forgive the prep. Mean while our life was ruined and had all kinds of damage from what he did to us. They wanted us to wipe the slate clean. So he gets to ruin our lives then not have to help restore us to where we were. I hate this injustice and know the pain of being harmed and having no one care. Even worst then not caring adding more pain on top.

Finally I grew up in a tough naberhood as a child fought a lot. I know I lost plenty of them. Today the only thing back then that still hurts me was the words. They are powerful and you hurt me.

Last but not lest is I have one to testify on my behalf. My ex-wife is here. Her handle is Wonderwoman. So I have someone who knows me deeply here. Thanks again for making me feel sick to my guts.

One more thing. When I joined here to help me fight my addiction there was no one in here. I had to do it alone and it was not fun. I welcomed every one that came here. In hopes that we could support each other. It just so happend that through my Dr and my journaling i was able to up right myself. Again thanks for the slander.

I am mortified to see people outwardly attacking other people when we are supposed to be supporting and helping each other. Blackmox has spent hours talking with me and helping me to understand this addiction and how it is affecting my husband...It is sick to think that he is giving all this advice to pick up on vulnerable women, come on now.
He has been through this problem and is working on rebuilding his life and he is sharing his advice.
I agree that we should all be wary of predators but I don't think it is necessary to blackball this guy when all he is trying to do is help....

I could use some very well thought advice. My marriage is already rough all over and my video game addiction just adds to it. I dont play any pc games just console games. I can't ever find a job that will give me full time. I don't drive. and im making min. wage and we just recently had to move into our in-laws to save money for bills. my games were taken away by my wife and are at my sisters. however now that im here at the in-laws i have absolutely NOTHING to do. but eat and watch tv (I HATE TV) she won't let me ever play them untill i can prove to her that i can control myself. but i see it unfair in her process of doing this. she wants to first let me go a very very very long time of not playing them and when i get the back then i can prove to her that i can control myself by not playing them still!!! and when offered to play them i must turn it down thus seeming id still never play them rather i have them or not. is it fair for her to do this? or should i have some sort of right o have a limited play with them? instead of having something of mine taken away and never seen agian.

Well Ryith, it all comes down to the fact that you have an addiction. I'm sure you wife had good cause for taking the games away, and I'm sure she did it not out of spite but to improve a bad situation. The fact that you are ina troubled marriage, living with your in-laws and making minimum wage yet your main concern is video games is a testament to how addicted you are. In a nutshell, you've got to set your priorities straight. And since you aren't doing it it seems as though your wife is attempting to set them straight for you. It's only a matter of time before she decides you aren't worth the trouble and ends up jumping ship. If I were in your situation I would stay away from games, atleast until your have your own place and your relationship has improved.

I am also in the same boat as the rest of you. No matter how many times I have told him that I feel that WoW is interfering in our relationship. There have been times where I have walked out of our house because he gets mad when I interrupt a raid or a quest. He stays up until 4 am, not coming to bed until I am asleep. I tell him all the time that I would like him to spend more time with me and for awhile he does. He cuts down and then slowly it happens again. I don't know what to do. He played before we were married, but now it has gotten worse! It is overwhelming!

Of course I do not know what Blackmox's motivations are but there truth in what he says. The only time an addict will stop their behavior is when the pain of the consequences of their behavior gets bigger than the "high" of the game. Sounds like he lost his marriage because of his addiction which does sound painful.

Hell im only 13 and im addicted to xbox360 and my friends and life are slipping away because im that hermit who lives in his basment, i need some thing to help me fast. I cant do any distractions because were renevating but i need somthing that can help me and quick. I want my friends back and i want my life back.

Try replacing what WoW with something else you can both do. Try getting into bike riding or something that gets you OUTSIDE. Not only will it be good for you and him it will help your kids learn to be more active when they grow up.