Vaginal Cancer Support Group

I would speak to him about it. I am thinking of the same thing for my husband for differant reasons. I think it would all depend on how much he loves you. Sex is a big issue but its not everything. there are many other ways to please each other. But if its worry about what you go through with cancer and him seeing it then I would just let that one go if he really loves you it is in the vowels in sickness and in health. We never know what life will bring and its a commitment we make to each other on our wedding day that says we will stand by our spouses.
I hope everything turns out great for both of you.

I have to say my boyfriend of 11 years has stood by me. We haven't had sex since my kidney failure and now with this vaginal cancer it would be impossible. I just had a surgery 3 weeks ago and he has been right there at each doctor visit and even helps me to keep it clean. He is very devoted and we are not even married. I think you should talk to your husband and see how he feels. Tell him not to worry about your feelings that you just want him to be happy.
So Sorry, (((HUGS))) Sue

I've had surgery, and radiation and chemo for my stage III vaginal cancer March - July 2009. I too could live without sex, however my doctor (said in front of my boyfriend) that I could return to having a normal sex life...hummmm. Normal, is the wrong choice of words. My boyfriend of three years (just the start of my symptoms) and has stood by me all the way. I can't imagine him going anywhere, and unless he makes that decision on his own, I need him.

I'm in remission now, and have been trying to satisfy his needs, but it is not easy at times. Sex comes in many forms, it doesn't have to be intercourse, it is my drive that I have lost. My problem he takes it to personally.

Hang in there, and talk, talk talk. Don't make him go away because you think he would be happier....maybe he wants to be with you..for better or for worse, in sickness and in health. You need him.