What is Uterine Cancer
Uterine cancer is cancer of the uterus. The most common form of uterine cancer is endometrial cancer, cancer of the endometrium, the inner lining of the uterus. Cancers of the musc...
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For a history, I was married last year to a wonderful man. My cycles had been like "cycles by Sybil" never knowing when, where or how bad they would be so I saw an ob/gyn in July. She did an ultrasound and instead of a lining in my uterus, my was basically compacted with tissue. She did a d&c to clean it out. The biopsy came back fine. Had a PAP done end of Oct. that came back fine as well.
We started seeing a fertility doc my ob/gyn referred me to in Jan to help us get pregnant and figure out why I wasn't ovulating. He diagnosed me with PCOS(polycystic ovarian syndrome) but that didn't mean I still couldn't get pregnant with help. He also found that I was diabetic and had hypothyroidism which we started treating with medication. First of Feb we did a sonogram to make sure my uterus was still clear from the last d&c. The pics showed my lining was thickening again and I had some pollups. Again, it was sent for biopsy. Unfortunately, this time there was cancer in the uterine lining. My doc called me personally to tell me the news and referred me to a doc he trusted who was an ob/gyn but specialized in unterine oncology. I went to see him, discussed the options and decided that a hysterectomy was the best chance I had to take care of the cancer before it had a chance to spread. So within a couple months, all the joy of planning for a child was for nothing. Recovering from my hysterectomy in the post pardum ward hearing babies outside and in other rooms was almost more than I could bear. I'm 35 and instead of having the child I've wanted for years, I'll be going into early menopause. I know adoption or finding a surrogate is still an option. At the moment I am just grieving over what could have been. Free will and choice are precious things and one of those choices I've held near and dear to me has been taken away. And my husband has had the option of having a biological child with me has been taken away too. He's been more quiet during all this but is one that tends to be that way. I feel so bad because he's 30, 5 years younger than me, he's never been married before this and has no children. My body has taken that gift from him as well. How do I let go of this anguish? Posted on 03/12/09, 03:03 pm |
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My heart goes out to you and your husband. Reading your story was like reading my own, only thing different is I was and am still single. Just know this--whatever you are feeling(anger, disappointment,sadness) it's ok to feel that way. I'll be 4 years out in June, and I still cry, get angry, throw things. Its all part of the grieving process.and when anyone asks if you need anything, say these magic words, "a hug". You'll be amazed at the power of hugs.
All the best to you and your husband. I'll be praying for you. 
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Do not blame yourself! I am in the same situation. My hubby is also thirty, his first marriage, and no kids. I have no kids either. We did not call this sickness on ourselves; we basically were born this way. I always dreamed of having children and the perfect family, but hey, having kids does not mean they have to be biological. You can be a parent still, just be open minded. Hang in there and have some faith. Best,
Lisa
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I know how you feel. I was like you. But my family didn't really understand me. They said it is great not to have trouble with kids. How insensitive! I try to bond with the couple who have no kids and also adoption is something to consider for you too. I might if I don't have many health problems... My ex-sister-in-law adopted 2 kids from China. One caregiver for my father-in-law adopted 2 kids - one is severely handicapped for life!
Good luck. If you need to adopt, do it ASAP. Nina
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My heart goes out to you and your husband. I also had to have a hysterectomy and I am 37 and single. I know how heartbreaking it is o know that you'll never be able to have children, but adoption is a wonderful option. I was adopted by a great couple who have surrounded me with so much love all my life. I could not love my family more even if we had the same blood flowing through our veins. Your love and desire to be a mom could completely change the life of a child who may forgotten or lost in the shuffle.
prayers and blessings to you and your husband.
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