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So my husband and i have been ttc 16 months now (i had to count, i stopped keeping track) I want badly to see a doc and figure out what the deal is but... i just haven't, i'm a chicken. When we first started ttc i would cry every month it didn't happen, i would get angry, i would start drinking again. Then you wake up and try again this month.
The tears have dried up, the anger has run out, i'm not drinking anymore. My husband says he doesn't want kids right now, we still don't try not to have kids though. i still perk up a little at the end of the month and get a little disappointed. Don't get me wrong my husband ( and i ) would the happiest person in the world if "we" got preggo. I tried so hard NOT to have kids for so long and now.... When i was growing up all i ever wanted to be was a momma, and now, knowing what that really means i want it even more. I know that i will be a wonderful mom some day. I want to have my children the natural way, no treatments/meds, no test tubes, no surgery... If we can't do that then we will adopt. I know other people do all those things and i think you are brave but it's just not for me i guess. Maybe i'm too young for kids, i don't think 22 is too young do u? Posted on 11/04/09, 09:11 pm |
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Oh and i just thought of something to get off my back. My father in law is constantly mentioning grandchildren. "The three boys" i'm supposed to have. he already has one grandchild. so it's not like he doesn't have someone to spoil. Even though i'm not too sensitive about the whole thing these days, i usually have to shake off a few tears and move on. He doesn't know we've been ttc (cuz that would be kinda weird) and he doesn't tend to notice my obvious upset, so we have tried to tell him to stop but... ya 
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22 isnt too young. we are 22 and 25. we tried for 13 months before getting pregnant but we went through a specialist because we knew that i already had problems. i would highly recommend both of you getting checked out, some conditions related to infertility can lead to other conditions in the future and it's nice to know what to look for. with the 2 conditions that i have, i know to go to my doc every year for all of my fun girly tests as i have a higher risk of certain cancers and i know to watch my sugar levels as i can have diabetes when i get older.
as for you father-in-law, he means well. we told family when we started seeing the specialist and it kept everybody off of our backs. some even thought that it was too early... it still took 11 months with the specialist to get pregnant and the longer we tried, the worse i was getting. try telling his mother of a trusted aunt and see what they say. once you opens those lines of communication, its not so awkward.
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No one should ever base motherhood on age.. 21 year olds can be more mature than 35 year olds..and having children at 18 and younger 30 yrs ago wasnt uncommon. Im 21 now and lost my first baby after 15.2 weeks..now TTC for 9 months.. so i can definitly see your frustration. Goodluck and babydust xo
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I also tried for over a year and found out I had a hormone problem that was preventing me from getting pregnant and all I had to do was take a pill and after two months, I was pregnant. I washed I had had blood tests sooner. Don't be afraid, just go do it. We lost our first pregnancy and are trying again. I think you're going to want to be as informed as possible about your health, things to look for, understand, etc. Going to the doctor will help you with that. We all understand your end of month frustration. I read recently that drinking lowers your fertility so, look for other outlets to vent. Good luck to you!
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I would shake off the fears of seeing a doctor. Like Katifitz, I found out I had a bit of a hormonal imbalance. I took one pill for 5 days and got pregnant that cycle!! It took me a year to work up the courage to take that little pill. Unfortunaly, we lost the baby in October. But I will take the pill again in December and keep my hopes up!
As far as your hubby saying he "doesn't want kids" anymore... it may just be his own protection. It's easier to say you don't want something when there is a barrier in the way than actually TRY to break through that barrier. He will come to terms... they all do. Just show him how important it is to you. Best of luck and welcome :)
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