Trying To Conceive Support Group

I am sorry that you are frustrated....I am getting frustrated too. It is perfectly fine to vent here and I think others will agree that we will be here to listen. Hugs of strength being sent your way!!!!

The things you are saying are the things I am thinking. I know how you feel. I go through the same thing every month but I cant get my body to ovulate... so instead of the day that af shows up, I get really upset by day 17 when nothing happens. I know people mean well but they really do tend to say the wrong things. I think the only thing that people can say to make me personally feel better is just supportive encouraging things. I know its hard but hang in there!! Hugs and baby dust!

SBGM has the right attitude. Here's some baby dust for this cycle!!

I'm sorry you are feeling low. It took me 6 months to get pregnant the first time and I lost that child. I'm now on month 2 of trying again post-miscarriage and 1 year since I started trying to have a child with my husband. Our doctor encouraged us to wait to months. It will happen for you. *HUGS and baby dust*

So sorry AutumnBride :( I really understand how you feel. We just finished up month #10 with no luck. I'm new on here, but figured it was time to join and have a place to vent.

I don't really know what the answer is to why some people have a more difficult time conceiving than others, but it certainly is frustrating. And the "just relax" advice is the worst thing anyone could say. All it does is make you feel like for some reason you are "not doing it right".

Hang in there. Sad to say, but it does get easier the longer you try. It may not feel like it, but you are one month closer to being a mother!

we were going through infertility treatments and were 2 failed cycles away from ivf when we finally got pregnant. if both of your bodies are acting "normal", all you can do is keep trying- that's supposed to be the fun part... if after a year you're not pregnant, see a doc. i wont tell you to be patient and wait, it will happen. you know this. we are just very impatient creatures, especially when we wanted something yesterday.
sounds bad, but eventually that pain doesn't cut as deep; you become numb to it. thats the point we got to when it happened. i somehow knew that that day would be our day. pray that you are able to conceive naturally. we had to do artificial insemination. im over the moon that we have our little one on the way but very, very sad that we couldnt do it together.
keep your chin up and enjoy your hubby because once baby is on the way, its not just the two of you any more. (i dont mean to be miss obvious, but i didnt understand that until now.)
i hope that you get you bfp soon!

Yeah, "just relax," and "it will happen" are probably the most frustrating things you can hear! But at the same time, it's hard for people to offer advice that will really make you feel better, especially when your body seems to be rebelling against you and nature! I only saw the ad for the "GranDuggar" baby on TLC and started bawling with the unfairness of it all! Maybe this will help though--It took us almost 2 years to conceive our daughter (12 months of trying, a miscarriage, and then another 7 months after that), but once we were "out of the danger zone" with miscarriage, it's like I completely forgot about all those months of frustration and trying. So at least know that you have something wonderful to look forward to! We're on month 9 of trying for number 2, and it's sooooo frustrating, but I'm just trying to think of it this way--maybe God doesn't have the right angel to send down to us yet. I think about that m/c and think if it didn't happen, we'd still have a wonderful baby that we loved, but it wouldn't be the sweet baby girl we have now, so maybe there's a reason for all this. I hope it happens soon for your sanity (and mine)! :)

Thanks ladies, you're the best. I knew I could count on you for some encouraging words! Ok, so my day to be mad is over and as usual, I'm looking ahead to this cycle. I have to count myself as fortunate that I only have to wait 6 months to see my OBGYN because of my thyroid disease (which shouldn't be at play here because it is well controlled with meds). But my doctor says that because it's an extenuating circumstance that can affect my hormones she wants to see me in November if we haven't had any luck. Any November is right around the corner, so at least soon I will know what's up and won't have to wonder. Maybe nothing is up! But it will be nice to know.

I completely understand. I had about 3 days of rage and depression when I got this period, and we have only been trying 2 months since my miscarriage.
The whole 'relax' things is s stupid thing for people to say....although it has a kernal of truth in that stress can increase cortisol levels, which can affect hormones. But other than that, 'relaxing' does not help you make a baby! Luckily, I don't discuss it except on here and with my DH, which I find helps. Otherwise, I am just frustrated by what people say.

And I agree with the other gals. My doc said I have to come in if nothing happens in 6 months because I have health issues and a healthy person is 1 year....

Well, after giggling at your title (all I could picture was the lawyer from Erin Brockovich) I do have some words of advice, comfort, experience.

First, let yourself be angry and frustrated. It is completely normal. You know I think that anyone who doesn't feel that at the end of a failed month isn't being honest with themselves and their feelings. I am very similar to yo in that I am mad and angry and sad for about a day and then I get back on the horse again.

If I had a dollar for every month I had a feeling I would be a rich woman. I think that is the hardest thing to handle eacha dne very month. You think you have all the symptoms and are sure that this is finally it and then no. It is so unfair.

It amazes me how clueless most women I know are about the process of getting pregnant. I just shake my head. Even my best friend had no idea you can only get pregnant in a very small 48 hour window each month and that the odds of getting pregnant in any given month is 10-15%. It is shocking and amazing that anyone gets pregnant never mind all the opps and unwanted babies. Parents who didn't have trouble getting pregnant just don't comprehend what miracles each and every chld is. The odds of their arrival are stacked against each one yet they somehow make their way into the world.

Honey, there is nothing really to say that you haven't already heard. But, you can't achieve your dream and miracle if you don't take that leap of faith. We all go through this each month because we all have that hope and faith that our turn will come and like the lottery if you don't play you don't win.

Hoping and praying that our miracles are just around the corner. XO :)