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I have papillary carsinoma, a thyroid cancer. I'm really lethargic all the time. I am also in constant pain.
My school is really small, 500 students or so. Every one knows me as "the girl with cancer". My friends were and are really insensitive. I was really sick a lot a year before I was diagnosed and my friends always told me to "Suck it up, stop being such a hypochondriac." Then a lump developed on my neck, and my friends would make fun of me, saying I had an adams-apple. After I got diagnosed I told them, hoping they would feel bad about how they treated me. The first few days they were mopey and sad, but then they started acting like my cancer just went away. Now they expect me to do things with them, like going places I can't go and doing things I can't stay awake for. I can't be out in the sun for too long, I can't walk very far, I can't eat too much, I need a lot of sleep. They just don't get how sick I am. And not only all that, but some of them use me to get attention. "Oooh, my friend is Maddie. That makes you obligated to be nice to me." People I don't even know say things like that too. Don't get me wrong, not all my friends are mean and evil, infact, most of them are just extremely stupid hicks that have never left the mountains. I have a few that are understanding and kind. I have one friend that is sick all the time, she doesn't even know what she has. But she helps me on days I can't do ANYTHING and most days when I can do little. I would be screwed without her. Any way, I just had to get that off my chest. If you have similar story or rant or whatever, share. Posted on 01/27/09, 03:01 am |
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hey sweetie. yea i know how you feel. that's how i am alot of the time too...ppl think that being sick is like this on off switch that we can just turn off and on whenever we feel like it and we cant. But its just like you said most of your friends are just hicks who have never left the mountains...i would say give them time and they will come around but most likely they wont and that sucks but its just how it is...some ppl are just that ignorant...but thats ok...becuz you are a strong person...i dont know you but the fact that you are fighting your cancer means that you have a type of strength others will only dream of...so who needs them
as for the ppl who use you to get attention well screw them. if they things like that then sweetie you need to ask yourself if they are really your friends... well if you ever wanna talk hit me up myspace- myspace.com/xoxokrysta facebook- krysta kelley or on here(i just dont get on to much...) xoxo 
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exactly. your true friends are the ones who call you to see how you've been doing. they tell you that things will be normal again soon. they DONT break down and cry when you tell them you have cancer, and they tell u their there if u just need somebody to talk to. :]
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yeah. me, i had cancer when i was 12. ppl didnt kno how to reaact. but when i went in remission, ppl sort of 4got it happened. so i was "normal." only a fw ppl even rememberd. but it back now. an i out of skool a real lot. and ppl r like where he go? my friens who kno never c me. not even my supposed best friend. it makes me so....angry.....sad...grrrrrrr
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Hey im ashley and im 14. i dont have cancer but my mom had breast cancer, i have a close friend thats battling brain cancer and i lost a friend from it too.
i hope we can talk. i want to give encouragement to those who are battling cancer. LiveSTRONG! Ashley
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hey girl! I know what you mean about your friends. I had just moved here when I found out I had cancer. So I had little to no friends. And the friends I did have were very insensitive. Long story short me and my insensitive friends grew apart. Now I have better friends, ones that are a little more understanding. I hope everything works out for you! I'm sure it will!
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I know exactly what you're going through, darlin. My "friends" were the exact same way. I had a few that weren't like that, but there were people who had been mean to me before I was sick, then tried to act like they were my best friends cause I had cancer, and it gave them "good karma points" to be friends with the "cancer girl." I swear though, you will find the people who don't care, just see you as you and are willing to help you through anything. It might be before you're out of treatment, or after. Just know that it WILL happen. And all us survivors/fighters know what you're going through, and we're here for you.
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