Teen Sexuality Support Group

y wld u deny the truth? tht sux but u made the choice to do it so u kinda gotta live with ppl knowing. esp if u knew he was gona blab to everyone.

o n if ppl ask u questions about it jst tell thm its none of their business and walk away

Well, you definitely shouldn't deny it, because when you get older it won't be as hard to admit to, but if you lie about it now it'll be harder to come to terms with in a few years. Wow, I only lost my virginity in May and this is already your second time? Ouch on my part. If you feel weird about him telling people you should just tell everyone he was bad at it, that'll show him. I mean hey, you did it, it's over, now you have to move on with your life and find a better guy that won't just get sex from younger girls based off of a dare. I mean that's pretty low, seriously. Also, fuck peer pressure. Just because someone dared you to do it, trust me, it's not worth it. Really, I mean you're 14, you're going to be laughing about everything you did when you were 14 when you're 18, TRUST ME. I'm experiencing that right this moment. When you get older, you're not gonna give a shit what other people think about you, and if you get a head's start on that now, you'll be better off. =)

Desaster is right. ive had sex quite few times some better than others. u will laugh about this later. and just tell everyone he was bad in bed it will crush his ego

whatever you do, dont deny it. lying makes it worse trust me. it is no ones business, but if you wanna do what i did, tell people how bad it was. i had someone do that to me, when he and i had sex for the first time, he told everyone he knew. people began talking to me about it and so i told them that it sucked and was a waste of two minutes.(which was true)
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If people ask just be like why do you care, yea I did I was curious. I used to not think sex was a bid deal either and I lost it to my ex too, when I was 14 lol

I'm with Disaster and KingEmo. Don't deny it, but tell people that it's none of their business. And telling people that he was bad in bed is a hilarious idea. Crush the little boy's ego. xD

Are you fucking serious? Having sex at 14, and on a dare. Thats some little kid shit!

serious...a dare? wow i thought i heard it all but wow... first of all dont lisen to peer preasure because all it means is that they are to scared to do it themselves 2nd your 14 why would you have sex at that age? i mean i lost mine at 15 but it was on both of our terms and i havent had sex with anyone else because i found God and figured out that its not worth it outside of marriage. me and that girl arent even together anymore and disaster is right you will laugh about that later...

all i am saying is your young and you should wait til your married to have sex. your not missing anything.
oh and dont tell ppl he was bad even if it is true because for all you know that could crush his ego and heart enought that he might kill himself and then how would you feel? so just do the right thing no the selfish one.

Let me know if you don't want to hear from an adult, this is a teen group ... just adding an opinion ... you already say you feel stupid (let's call it a mistake, not stupidity; ther'll be more mistakes as you get older and we've all done something, ok?).

Quick opinions:
1) We generally keep sex for someone who we love, nobody has the right to mess up your love life through dares, etc. Friends can share opinions and parents can set reasonable boundries until you are older. Hopefully you trust friends & parents enough to respect them, sometimes you don't (their fault of yours? it depends).

2) When you are older and married your lover will honestly appreciate knowing that sex was limited and that you are sharing something special (generally speaking). Knowing that sex is special does add to the relationship, to a different degree for each person.

3) Yes, tell people the truth. Tell them that it is none of their business and to get a life of their own rather than to get their jollies from your personal life (or tell them what happened, if you prefer). But I also appreciate Ifly4u's comment to avoid hurting the boy when sharing - keep hurting people reserved for the few special people who deserve it as you do sex & you'll do fine ;-)

Good luck.