Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS) Support Group

Our Kaitlyn died at daycare as well. Our 3 yr old son still goes there because we trust her. As long as things happen the way she said they did there is no reason not too. My husband and I haven't seen any reports yet and it's been almost 9 weeks. We ran into a lady at Olive Garden and she lost her son in February and she just got the coroner report the other day. Is your daycare a center or a in-home?

I trust my daycare provider as well. I just think about to the day that it happened and the timeline of what the detectives told me and things just don't seem to add up right, lik there is a hour missing. It could be that my memory of what they told me is just not very clear (very possible considering my mental state at the time). And it could just be there my daycare provider had a hard time remembering exact times; I realize she was going through a terrible experience as well. I guess I know there are some answers I will never get, but I want as many as I can get - if that makes any sense.

I think if it'll give you peace of mind you should ask for, especially if things aren't adding up.

Although our little boy past at our home, I received a coroner report and police report 2 and half days after it happened. I am not sure if was so quick because it was at home or not, I think you deserve to receive a copy especially because you were not there. I think you should request it, because it belongs to you. I don't know if it will help or do more harm, but the fact that you have it to read whenever your ready is important and your right. I hope this helps and I sorry for all you have gone through.

James died at his babysitters. I would also like to see the police report. I want to know what the police reports said. I don't know if I could get one since I'm the grandmother and not the mother. My daughter just accepts that James' death was just meant to be. I can't accept that. His babysitter is my niece so that causes added stress. I never thought she was a good babysitter and didn't want her to watch James. My daughter doesn't think my niece did anything wrong but I have my doubts.

Ckdeedee you might be able to get one under the Freedome of Information act if I am not mistaken??

Brandy,
As far as getting a report in your case. You may want to.
Generally police reports are rather coldly written meaning they are just the facts. But you may not want to read it until you are in the right frame of mind. There could still be things in there that you may not know, did not remember or are disturbing.
Keep in mind, (as a day care provider myself)
that many day cares have a loose daily schedule. Like play time may be scheduled from 9-9:30 on paper but there is some flexibility on times because of childrens' routines etc.
I have done child care for over 15 years. I knew my daily routines, but did not look at the clock until the last hour or so of my shift...LOL because at that point my day is winding down to go home. Many day care providers do fall into the "daily routine" and don't really have to use a clock to say, it's outside time, story time, lunch, nap (for the older kids) etc... so that too could be reasons for time discrepancies too. Good luck with whatever you decide. (HUGS)

My son passed at his day care as well. The police report we received was not indicitive of specific times. I would sit down and talk with her.

Thanks NickNicks. At the time James died, I just assumed it was something that just happened otherwise I would of asked a lot more questions. I have sinced learned that my niece wasn't even in the house. She was outside in Jan. doing yardwork with a babymonitor while James was taking a nap. I hardly see my niece anymore since I really think I make her feel guilty. She is very cold to me when I do see her. Thanks for letting me know. If I get brave, I'll try and get the police report.

I totally feel ya Ckdeedee,
It's going on 2 years here and really I still have more questions then answers. I totally understand how haunting that is. ((HUGS))

Jaxton died at daycare also. I also knew my daycare provider did nothing wrong. The department of human services did an investigation, (although they never once questioned us). We received the report in the mail last week. It was hard to read. We had thought we already knew everything and pretty which did, with the exception of her not telling us, blood and mucus was coming out of his mouth when she found him. That was like someone delivered a fresh punch to the gut. Everyone is different, but I wanted to know everything there was to know. It seems the harm is already done and we already have to live with so many questions of why. Follow your instincts.