What is Sudden Infant Death Syndrome SIDS
Sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS) is any sudden and unexplained death of an apparently healthy infant aged one month to one year. The term cot death is sometimes used in the Unit...
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Since I found this site, I admit I am addicted now. I check to see if anyone answered my questions yet every 5 minutes. I do have another set of questions though.
How old was everyone the year their baby died? It seems like alot of people on here have more kids to help them keep going, but I only had Adreanna. Its even like that at home. My boyfriend has three other kids to his ex wife so those kids give him a reason to live..but since Adreanna passed away, I feel alone. Is it really true what people has been telling me, with time it does get better? Like I said she only died in may so its still very new. With each day I think about that just being another day apart from her, instead of another day down..However many more till I get to see her again. I have tried calling the coroner to see if they got anything back yet about her toxicology report, but I havent gotten ahold of them. I left messages, and no call backs yet. There are only two coroners in the whole county so I can understand their busy..But I'm already an impatient woman..Its even worse that it involves my daughter's death. Could I call the police station and see if someone there could get in touch with someone for me or is it a waiting game? Posted on 09/26/09, 11:09 pm |
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I had just turned 28 a few days before everything happened. Kaili was my 1st and only child at that point.
I am not sure if things get better with time per se.. they just become a new normal I would say. You learn to accept and therefore a new way to cope. I still miss Kaili daily and I still talk to her daily. I just try to take solace in the fact that she is now watching over me. 
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I'm addicted too. How can we not be... we are the only one's who really understand, who really get it.
I had just turned 27 three days before Austin died. Austin is our only child. When he first died, in a way I was thankful that I didn't have any other children to take care of. I could barely take care of myself, much less take care of children. Now, I see the other's here on DS with their children and it makes me wish I had a child to take care of, to love. I don't think it is any easier or harder one way or the other, but I think children give a reason to hope, a reason to live. I can't answer your question about time healing because I just lost my baby in May. My hope is that in time, I will be able to find happiness again. You can definitley call your Police Department, but unfortunatley they probably wont have any more info. about the COD, but you can explain to the detective assigned to your case that you are having a hard time getting in touch with the medical examiner and ask him/her if they could make some phone calls for you.
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I am 38 and I also have a 3 yr old son. He's the one that keeps us going but it is also very difficult at times when he asks questions. We try and answer he questions as best we can but he still to young to completely understand. The other day he said he wanted his baby back and wanted to go to heaven to get her. I told him that we couldn't go to have and that God would come and get us when it was our time. Then he asked if he could call Kaitlyn in heaven. So of course I told him there were no phones. I guess these answers were good enough because he changed the subject. There are days were I wish KT would have been our only child that way Zach wouldn't have to go through this but he has really help us keep our sanity for the most part.
We got a copy of the coroner report about a month or so after KT died in May. We had our copy before the investigator got his.
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I turned 29 the day I had Colin and he died that same month. His COD took 5-6 weeks. The longest weeks of my life, but I've heard of it taking 3-6 months too. It is just a waiting game and it's the hardest thing to wait for. I think we all become addicted to this site like Brandy said, we just understand it here.
As far as the children thing goes, It seems like those who have gone on to have other babies, it does help their heart heal a little. Their soul is always going to be missing a piece, but I think their hearts heal. Some of us can't or don't go on to have more and sometimes it feels like that's harder to deal with. It's just something no Mother should ever have to go through!
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