What is Sudden Infant Death Syndrome SIDS
Sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS) is any sudden and unexplained death of an apparently healthy infant aged one month to one year. The term cot death is sometimes used in the Unit...
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To anyone that had older children and is now expecting or has had a new baby in the family since the death of their angel: My husband and I are expecting a baby on Christmas day. Everything seems like it is going well, (although it did for Colton too) My older son keeps asking us if this new baby is going to stick around. I have no idea what to say to him. The truth would be that I don't know. It seems too uncertain to tell a 4 year old. He wants a definite answer. If I tell him yes, and something happens, he won't trust us again. Yikes! I would love to hear from those of you that have been through this. Do you think I should get him some professional help to deal with this?
Posted on 07/27/09, 06:07 pm |
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I hear ya hunny on this.
Last spring (2008), we had to tell our teenage children that we were expecting again. Our 1 year old did not understand but caught on quickly when we came home with his baby sister last November We don't know what is going to happen and can't predict the future. I relied on faith and as much as I could relayed that to my kids. I know that they are older, but they are still kids and tend to follow our example. My oldest son was on cloud 9. He picked me up and spun me around upon hearing the news and then continously appologized for doing so because he was afaid he hurt the baby. My step daughter had a tearful temper tantrum. With her, I explained that with Nick it was awful and sad but this time it is different (I had it in my head if I kept saying it was different it would be), lightening doesn't strike twice. I told her since Nick couldn't stay with us, he is sending us a baby that we HOPE we can keep forever....the key word there was hope. I don't know if that will work for Colton's big brother....I would say try it first. If it does not work, then it may be time to consider a professional. GOOD LUCK! 
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My oldest daughter is 6 and my youngest (subsequent) is now almost 4 months. My oldest just kept saying "I hope this baby gets to stay longer than Alia did". I just said, "me too honey". She really doesnt say that too much anymore. I really don't have advise for you on this one. I agree...it is a difficult question to answer.
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